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To actually consider I could be pregnant 8 weeks after having baby?

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b0bb1n · 30/05/2019 08:03

Baby born April 2nd. 22nd May got what seemed to be first period, but it didn't last as long as normal (I read it's normal for them to change pp though).

About a week (give or take) beforehand, dtd twice and he pulled out, and once dtd no pulling out. The day after the suspected period had finished (26th May) also dtd no pulling out (sorry for details).

Tuesday night I felt sick when I woke up, like I was going to be sick (I sleep evenings so night is my morning). This morning (now) I feel nausea again.

I am probably just overly paranoid because with my first pregnancy nausea was the first symptom and it started pretty much immediately after conception. Also I noticed a 'difference' in the smell of dh's tobacco (which was just increased sense of smell) and lately I can smell his tobacco when it's in the pouch a couple of feet away.

If it wasn't for the suspected period I would feel a lot more sure I was pregnant. I feel too sick to proof read this I hope it makes sense!

OP posts:
Boshmama · 30/05/2019 09:28

Good luck OP x

Dvg · 30/05/2019 09:30

I had a baby in July 2018 , im due another in June this year so yes its possible :D i was about 8 weeks PP when i got pregnant

MumW · 30/05/2019 09:32

If baby is under 6 months, being breastfed on demand, around the clock (through the night), no expressed feeds or formula feeds, and no solid foods introduced, no sign of periods returning, it can be used as an effective form of contraceptive

But NOT reliable - one missed feed or late feed could be enough to trigger ovulation. Remember that ovulation triggers menstruation so if you're relying on breastfeeding as a contraceptive and waiting for your first period before starting alternative protection, then you've already ovulated and run the risk of pregnancy BEFORE that first bleed.

If you don't want babies really close together then use something more reliable than breastfeeding and withdrawal.

Xmas2020 · 30/05/2019 09:33

Go get your test then at least you know either way.

lucymegan · 30/05/2019 09:33

This happened to me. Had babies in January and November of 2002

SachaStark · 30/05/2019 09:37

How are there adult people walking around with so little knowledge of effective contraception? Wasn’t this drummed into all of us at school?

I remember being taught multiple times that withdrawal is NOT contraception (I mean, OBVIOUSLY. We’ve all seen pre-cum, yeah?), you CAN get pregnant before having your period. That was on the quiz basically every year.

Not taught about breastfeeding as such at school, but I can’t imagine being an adult woman responsible for another person, whilst also believing somehow that breastfeeding will magically protect me against further pregnancy.

SnowyAlpsandPeaks · 30/05/2019 09:38

I fell pregnant six weeks after giving birth- I was breast feeding and on the mini pill (all pills taken like clockwork!).

Lifeonmars77 · 30/05/2019 09:47

Good luck today xx

freshstartnewme · 30/05/2019 09:48

How are there adult people walking around with so little knowledge of effective contraception?

Indeed.

OP, you are an adult who has literally just been through the whole process of reproduction Confused

SleepingStandingUp · 30/05/2019 09:49

mummmy2017: How selfish is your partner to put pleasure before your health.
Oh i missed the bit where OP said she's been cajoled / guilted / forced into letting her DP pleasure himself with her body. SOunds to me like a couple willingly had unprotected sex. Who knows, maybe OP even enjoyed it, shock horror

WillowPeach · 30/05/2019 09:50

@SachaStark

Withdrawal method for teenagers is not contraception because they have little awareness of their body. A grown man is more likely to be in control and know when it’s getting close.

For those that do it properly, it can be as every bit as effective as other methods. I did tonnes of research before doing this with DF and whilst yes pre cum can have sperm in, it’s likely this has been left over in the tube from a previous ejaculation. Man has to pee to clear it away.

If people are getting pregnant from the withdrawal method and they’re doing the above. Then it’s the man not pulling out in time that’s causing it to fail. I suppose a lot of it is down to self-control and knowing one’s body. DF and I have used this for almost 8 years and no babies Grin.

Anyways, good luck OP, I hope you get the result you want!

AlexaAmbidextra · 30/05/2019 09:54

How selfish is your partner to put pleasure before your health.

Did OP say she was raped/coerced? I must have missed that.

SachaStark · 30/05/2019 09:55

Oh my God, WillowPeach, this is literally a thread about not using proper contraception fairly immediately after childbirth. NOT the place to share poor methods of contraception that have VERY LUCKILY worked for you.

Withdrawal = not a form of contraception.

Just whack on a condom at the very least.

MrsBailey2019 · 30/05/2019 09:56

@SachaStark
How are there adult people walking around with so little knowledge of effective contraception?

High five to that!!

usernamerisnotavailable · 30/05/2019 09:57

Crickey. Good luck OP.

candlefloozy · 30/05/2019 09:59

Let us know how you get on.

FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones · 30/05/2019 09:59

I know it's massively off topic but if used perfectly the withdrawal method is very successful (4% failure rate) the issue is that it is rarely used perfectly so the actual success rate is lower.

Original poster
b0bb1n · 30/05/2019 10:02

Thank you for all your kind and helpful replies.

I guess the thing I'm confused about it not so much the time since birth, but the fact I could have had a period. If I did conceive before the suspected period, surely I shouldn't have had a period. And if after, then it doesn't add up because I didn't think you ovulate the day after a period. If it was a period. It was fairly heavy at times but it didn't have the normal period flow if that makes sense, it was like bleeding more than period-leaking Confused

OP posts:
SachaStark · 30/05/2019 10:02

But why would you use it as a method???

There are so many types of ACTUAL contraception. What would induce you to go, “Yeah, unwrapped penis inside me, probably won’t get PG.”

I literally would not relax at all. Least sexy sex ever.

Original poster
b0bb1n · 30/05/2019 10:02

And yes I will let you know how it goes :)

OP posts:
AndOutComeTheBoobs · 30/05/2019 10:04

Good luck.

If you're not pregnant then you very soon will be with all that not pulling out. You're basically trying for a baby. Minus the discussion.

S0uthernBelle · 30/05/2019 10:08

I know ladies that still had a bleed through out pregnancy also good luck, I hope you get the result you want.

TixieLix · 30/05/2019 10:10

Just put this thread on my watch list because I need to know the result Grin

CrumpetWithMarg · 30/05/2019 10:11

Good luck OP. I hope the result is whatever you would like it to be!

TenPastTen · 30/05/2019 10:13

Oooh I reckon you're pregnant! How exciting you'll have siblings so close together!

Mine are close in age (not as close as yours would be) and I can tell you now you will get LOTS of unwanted comments from people sticking their beak in, most being really quite rude. Just warning you so you don't feel personally victimised - people are just twats

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