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To actually consider I could be pregnant 8 weeks after having baby?

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b0bb1n · 30/05/2019 08:03

Baby born April 2nd. 22nd May got what seemed to be first period, but it didn't last as long as normal (I read it's normal for them to change pp though).

About a week (give or take) beforehand, dtd twice and he pulled out, and once dtd no pulling out. The day after the suspected period had finished (26th May) also dtd no pulling out (sorry for details).

Tuesday night I felt sick when I woke up, like I was going to be sick (I sleep evenings so night is my morning). This morning (now) I feel nausea again.

I am probably just overly paranoid because with my first pregnancy nausea was the first symptom and it started pretty much immediately after conception. Also I noticed a 'difference' in the smell of dh's tobacco (which was just increased sense of smell) and lately I can smell his tobacco when it's in the pouch a couple of feet away.

If it wasn't for the suspected period I would feel a lot more sure I was pregnant. I feel too sick to proof read this I hope it makes sense!

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hammeringinmyhead · 30/05/2019 09:00

Yes. I was EBF (now 7 months and on solids) but I still went on Cerazette at 6 weeks pp!

Napssavelives · 30/05/2019 09:03

@rosegoldivy snap!

LookMumNoFeet · 30/05/2019 09:04

Is it just me who didn't know a woman is at her most fertile just after giving birth?

LookMumNoFeet · 30/05/2019 09:04

Or are you actually referring to the most fertile time in the cycle?

Estellastar · 30/05/2019 09:06

How selfish is your partner to put pleasure before your health
An utterly ridiculous comment. She wasn’t forced and she certainly wasn’t forced to have sex without contraception. It’s a two way street you know Hmm or is everything the man’s fault?

LittleCandle · 30/05/2019 09:07

I know any number of people who were pregnant at their 6 week check, a couple deliberately and a few by accident. I made sure I went straight on to contraception after birth and had only dtd once by that point, as I was still healing.

As everyone else has said, POAS. And let us know. Oh, and I developed morning sickness the day after missing my period with DD2. Longest pregnancy ever!

LastChanceFinalOffer · 30/05/2019 09:09

You had unprotected sex. Why wouldn't you think it's possible to get pregnant? It's very probable. Do a test.

TildaTurnip · 30/05/2019 09:14

Is it just me who didn't know a woman is at her most fertile just after giving birth?

In the hospital here, the midwives tell you as part of your discharge. Then the midwife tells you again when they come to visit and the health visitors at 10 days brings contraception up in her talk.

NorthernRunner · 30/05/2019 09:14

LookMomNoFeet it’s your most fertile time as a lady. When the midwives were coming round in those first few weeks to check baby, they kept saying now if you don’t want a baby soon you must use contraception...even though I was EBF, you can still get pregnant!

SchadenfreudePersonified · 30/05/2019 09:14

Yes - a neighbour's first two children were born 10 months apart.

StopItandGoToBed · 30/05/2019 09:15

I know lots of people say that you're more fertile immediately after giving birth, but I'm not sure whether it's an old wives tale. It would seem a bit strange for it to be true from an evolutionary perspective.

LookMumNoFeet · 30/05/2019 09:17

Thank you both. You are right, I was probably told this when I had DC, but this information has long left my sleep deprived brain :)

Cookit · 30/05/2019 09:18

IS it the most fertile time or is it only the most fertile time if you’re not breastfeeding?
Now yes I know breastfeeding isn’t a perfect contraceptive at all and should never be relied upon EVER, but the fact remains that if you are breastfeeding most people do not return to full fertility for some time.

violetdazed · 30/05/2019 09:18

When I gave birth 21 months ago just about every nurse/midwife we spoke to post natally advised us against unprotected sex and reminded us how fertile I was- each time I explained that neither me or my husband could naturally make that happen (he had a vasectomy 8 years ago and I have no Fallopian tubes) but even with this knowledge they told us over and over the importance of using protection. (Maybe we looked uber horny!!?!).
I'm amazed OP that this has come as a surprise. Like everyone has said, time to poas!!!

kateandme · 30/05/2019 09:18

Tremar why dos breastfeeding do this.sorry im genuinly interested.

Scoleah · 30/05/2019 09:18

Yes, we had the "talk" before being discharged from hospital about contraception & how fertile we were, "your body loves being pregnant & your extremely fertile after giving birth" Etc..
& then every midwife visit we were also told & were all pushing the Coil.

Hope you get the news your looking for OP
Smile

Original poster
b0bb1n · 30/05/2019 09:19

I need to try to get out to get a test today. I wouldn't be upset, me and DH do want more kids. It would just be a shock, and I still remember too vividly how painful labour and birth was... Confused

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b0bb1n · 30/05/2019 09:20

Thank you :)

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NannyRed · 30/05/2019 09:20

You know you’re fertile as you have one child.
You’ve had unprotected sex.
You already know the answer to your “Aibu”
Of course you could be pregnant.
FYI my first husband had a sister born 9 months after him, both born in the same year!

cindersrella · 30/05/2019 09:20

OP you will always remember the pain in labour 😂

Itwouldtakemuchmorethanthis · 30/05/2019 09:21

I don’t think you’re “at your most fertile”, I think it’s more “you are fertile” especially if not bfing. Most people bleed for quite some time, are tired and sometimes healing so it’s fairly unusual in the first few months but not impossible.

CaMePlaitPas · 30/05/2019 09:21

OP, yes you really could be. You are super fertile after having a baby, breastfeeding isn't protection. It happened to me, I fell pregnant again when my daughter was about 10 weeks old, there's 11 months 3 weeks between her and her sister.

Cookit · 30/05/2019 09:24

I know lots of people say that you're more fertile immediately after giving birth, but I'm not sure whether it's an old wives tale. It would seem a bit strange for it to be true from an evolutionary perspective.
Yes this is what I am interested in. My periods came back at 19 months post partum and looking into it I found this was not unusual if you are still breastfeeding. There is a lot of information available about natural child spacing, amenorrhoea etc which would seem then to contradict this fact?
I thought you were very very fertile if you stop breastfeeding abruptly, which for many will coincide with the first few weeks after birth so maybe both in a way are true? (Not saying here you can’t get pregnant in first few months if EBF... of course women do ... but they are in the minority of women who EBF).

piglet81 · 30/05/2019 09:24

why dos breastfeeding do this.sorry im genuinly interested

It's to do with the hormone prolactin (which makes your body produce milk) suppressing the other hormones which make you ovulate. But as a pp mentions you do need to be breastfeeding a lot to be able to rely on it as a contraceptive.

OP, hope you get the result you want. Good luck.

PurpleFlower1983 · 30/05/2019 09:25

Good luck and I hope it’s what you want OP! Imagine having 2 under 1 though Shock