Been ditched for his mum

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To think I'm really upset that my boyfriend, who I don't live with and only see Saturday night to Sunday afternoon, is ditching me this weekend to spend time with his mum... who he lives with and sees pretty much every hour of the day...

This weekend we had already made plans to do stuff and I was really excited as we don't really go out much, we just watch movies most of the time.

He planned to take me for a nice meal and go to ghetto golf... but he just rang me up to say he feels bad that he leaves his mum over the weekend to spend time with me....HE SEES HER EVERY FXCXING DAY... :(

Anybody else think getting angry and upset is unreasonable or am I just being silly?

She won’t be around forever

I've seen this said a few times on the thread. Of course it's true and it's nice to regularly make time for people while you can. But I do wonder how many people start saying this early on, and find themselves still stuck in this pattern ten, twenty, thirty years later where a parent still expects to be prioritised - it's perfectly feasible, given that enough people live into their 80s and 90s now, that you could be signing up for a much longer term run of 'time with MIL' than you imagined. Make time for them, yes, but not always at the expense of your own relationship.

Obviously going to watch the Champions League match.

“She won’t be around forever”

Well, she might well be around for the next 40 years!

18 months and you see him one a week and then only to watch tv, his Mum Ha just saved you from a very boring Saturday night.

because

How old is he and why doesn't he want to move out.

@IHeartArya I had a lucky escape. I dated a Greek 4 years in my twenties and actually got on with his mother, who actually liked me even though I'm non Greek, non-orthodox and non many other things. I dont think the next one was so lucky!

OP,
He doesn't rate you.
His mother doesn't rate you.

You need to rate yourself!
Move on and don't waste any more time on someone who is clearly suiting themselves.

Best of luck.

Thinking about you OP x

Have you even been to his house? Maybe he's married and you're the OW

I must admit this did occur to me. Have you met mum? I had a ‘having to spend Sunday with parents’ fob off once from a boyfriend of five months. He didn’t think much of my suggestion I come and meet them as ‘they still really like ’

Small wonder as she wasn’t actually an ex and was sitting at home newly pregnant