To request people don’t use my toilet at house viewings?

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Just that really ...

As obviously it has been used today and it’s grossed me out.

I would assume they were a ridiculous control freak and I would cross that house off my list. Imagine how nitpicking they would be with the selling process I would think

In what way was it obvious? If they left it in a mess, that is in itself objectionable. YANBU to expect people to leave the loo as they found it, aim properly, flush properly, etc. But I think it is being U to expect that they not use it at all. First of all, some people have illnesses (such as inflammatory bowel disease) or disabilities that mean that 'when they've got to go, they've got to go', and it would be basically excluding them. Secondly, people may wish to check that the loo and plumbing are OK before they decide to buy a house; and if you forbid them to use the toilet, that may in itself make them suspect that there's something wrong with the plumbing that you're hiding! So people should be respectful of your home and not leave a mess; but on the other hand you cannot open your house for viewings and expect exactly the same privacy and control that you'd have if you weren't inviting potential purchasers.

@fairweathercyclist - maybe the current owners put up with noisy plumbing or an inadequate flush.

fairweathercyclist to check the plumbing is working properly - a previous poster made this point earlier describing when her dh used the toilet in a house they were viewing the noise of the plumbing was horrendous.

I suffer from ibs so quite often need the loo pretty urgently but still would not dream of using one on a house viewing.

What would you do then? Run outside and shit in the street?

JinglingHellBells I just reported your comment.

I am currently pregnant with a little boy and your comment about me being responsable for my son getting bullied is downright abusive.

And FYI, my DH has been taught from a young age by his mum to use the toilet sitting down as it is the standard in the country where we live that you should cause as less inconvenience to others as possible. Honestly I have never seen such clean public toilets as here.

Surely you would find a loo before you went for a houseviewing if you had a long journey ?

If it's rural, you might have to go several miles before you find a public lav. Which is why I had to pop up a farm track on more than one occasion when I was doing home visits in a rural area, and inconsiderate clients had buggered off out and missed the appointment.

I should have taken a shower during the viewings. It didn't work when we moved in. Cost us £2K to do the works.

As an estate agent I often have to attend viewings at repossessed houses, which always have the water drained down, power off etc.

One day I attended a viewing about 7 miles out of town. It was a block viewing so there were 3 or 4 couples there. They looked around and we were stood chatting when one lady wondered off, went into the bathroom (accessed directly from the living room),flushed the toilet (getting rid of the tiny bit of water left in the pipes) shut the door and had what was clearly a spectacular shit in full earshot of me and the other people looking at the house. Then the smell filtered through, then there was the clinking of a toilet NOT being flushed. By the time she appeared, very red faced the other applicants were making their excuses and leaving me to deal with the aftermath.

The only way to get the water back on was through the attic hatch on a very high ceiling. I had no ladders and even if I did I’m not a plumber so I had to leave the shit festering in a dry toilet to drive 7 miles back to my office so my boss could go get the water back on,flush the toilet then drain the system down again. It took 2 hours.

OP, the moral of the story is it could be worse.

In what way was it obvious? If they left it in a mess, that is in itself objectionable.

They left the seat up.

In all honesty I don't like people using my loo but once you have had workmen in your house and they do No 2s if here all day from early morning, you give up.

I simply go in at end of day with a cloth and bleach and clean it- the seat, handle, and floor.

Most are very considerate and one person we employ cleans the loo with bleach after he's 'been'.

'look, dear, there's our prospective new neighbour shitting in the flowerbed'

'how considerate of her not to use Jim and Sandra's loo'

Gosh, my DSs pee standing in the public toilets (shops, school) but sit at home and friend's houses. The school toilets are quite filthy according to my DS.

Yabu. A toilet is for using. I wouldn't think twice about using the toilet on a viewing, or anyone's house that I've been invited into.

@Honeybee85 you are being oversenstive . Not knowing how boys and men pee, generally, in UK culture, seems rather odd.

I don’t know them and they don’t know me.

So would it be ok if you’d had a formal introduction? Maybe asked for references?

And FYI, my DH has been taught from a young age by his mum to use the toilet sitting down as it is the standard in the country where we live

I am talking about the UK @Honeybee45.

In the UK people sometimes standing on the seat to have a poo.
UK loos have diagrams now to show this is not what we do as we have toilets not holes in the ground.

We looked at 8 houses in 4 hours in slightly different locations when we were relocating. Pretty sure I did at least one wee in a toilet! Would leave as I found though.

my DSs pee standing in the public toilets (shops, school) but sit at home and friend's houses.

Mine too, and my husband does the same. This is why none of our toilets are pissed splattered (until we have guests) and why the downstairs loo doesn't have a pong of stale piss (unlike many houses I know).

Itssosunny I always turn on taps and the shower when I view, or ask the Estate Agent to do so.

I bet when she was alive Norman Bates' dear old ma ordered him to sit to pee.

This is why none of our toilets are pissed splattered (until we have guests) and why the downstairs loo doesn't have a pong of stale piss (unlike many houses I know).

It is in fact quite possible for men to point and pee in the right place.

It is lazy men who pee all over the floor. Men who cannot be bothered to control their flow and watch what they are doing!

And anyone who has a stinky loo floor is lazy too because it needs mopping or the revolting loo mat washed. And that should be done by the man.

I think it's really unkind not to let someone use your lavatory. But then I'm getting on a bit and my bladder's not as good as it used to be. I start to get a pain in my belly if I put off having a wee!

JinglingHellBells I just reported your comment. I am currently pregnant with a little boy and your comment about me being responsable for my son getting bullied is downright abusive.

Oh do get a grip.

RedDogsBeg, we should have done it as well. Naïve or stupid or maybe just inexperienced.

I think it's really unkind not to let someone use your lavatory. But then I'm getting on a bit and my bladder's not as good as it used to be

Totally and utterly agree. I can't imagine saying to someone in my house in answer to 'would it be at all possible for me to use your loo',
saying
NO.

It's pathetic. And mean.