To request people don’t use my toilet at house viewings?

[Diamondeye]

Just that really ...

As obviously it has been used today and it’s grossed me out.

Ha - good it was a small wee or some on here would arrest your poor DC

Thankfully mine was a fully operational toilet. I was an hour from home in an area I don't know well. I left it spotless. I would never begrudge anyone using mine if left clean

Just out of interest, are the people who react with utter terror at the merest suggestion of an actual human person needing to use a toilet to do a wee or a poo the same ones who grab the car keys and drive three junctions up the motorway whenever they need to fart, rather than let their partner discover that they have a healthy normally-functioning rectum?

To not allow someone to go to the toilet - pretty much the most basic of needs, is almost sociopathic

And to use someone else's loo and leave it in a terrible messy state shows an arrogance and complete lack of thought and is why so many people don't want others using their loos. Some people are little better than wild animals when it comes to their loo habits. And, no it's not trivial matters like leaving the loo seat up, I've had shit on the floor and smeared on the wall, someone who completely missed the loo and left a huge puddle of wee on the floor. If people can't behave responsibly then they can't use my loo!

kazzy the vast majority of people don't leave the toilet in a mess. I'm sorry but if you don't want anyone elsebut you to use your toilet you shouldn't invitecthem into your home. It's insane. People need the loo, sometimes urgently. If they're in your home they'll use your loo. What on earth are they meant to do otherwise?

@SnagAndChips

That was dreadful! I've never heard anything so hostile and unwelcoming for a potential new member of the family.

How do those who don’t like strangers using their toilets feel about hotel room toilets? After all hundreds of bare arses have sat on those toilets.

My dd used the toilet when we were house viewing. I had to use the bathroom to clean up my ds who's nappy had exploded leaving him with shit down his leg and on my arm. Luckily the owners were so nice and understanding. We bought the house in the end.
I have IBS and the worry of not been able to use a toilet fills me with dread.

You'd open your loos to a perfect stranger whose been in your house for 30 minutes..... said no one EVER !!

Of course I would. It's a basic human need. I can't begin to imagine saying no to someone who needs the toilet. Would you rather they pee/poo on your floor because they can't hold it in any longer?

Totally agree!

I specifically instructed my EA not to let people use my toilet.

I’m not sure how people can be so confident in declaring how the men they know pee. I assume my BF stands up, but I’ve never asked him (nor cared). I certainly don’t have any more insight into the toilet habits of adult men I’m less intimately acquainted with.

But, anyway, I’m in the ‘how can people be so weird about toilets’ camp here. Tbh, I don’t actually believe that people are as weird about toilets, or answering their door, or whatever as they claim to be on MN. And, if they are, they probably realise that they’re a bit odd and aren’t adamant that dousing your entire house in zoflora 3 times a day is the minimum required for basic hygiene like you see on here.

I just assume it’s internet bullshittery

I just assume it’s internet bullshittery
I fucking hope so - otherwise the world is an even more depressing place than I thought

@The2Ateam

And I'm sure that your EA told house viewers who were desperate to just wet themselves.

Sorry, I just can't imagine this. The EA probably told them that you were obsessive about hygiene, so go ahead and use the toilet but try not to leave any signs that you've used it....

While MN is rejigging its forum branches, can I ask that one is reserved for normal people?!

woollyheart I don’t have special powers so clearly don’t know what the EA and viewers were doing in my house when I wasn’t there. That’s the thing about letting them do it, like a lot of things in life you can only ask and hope your wishes are respected.

I’m genuinely not obsessed with hygiene but I absolutely do not want strangers using my toilet.

Not my problem if grown adults can’t coordinate their urinating with looking around someone else’s house. In short, I don’t give a sh*t. Excuse the pun.

The2Adam. So you really don't care if it's someone with a hidden disability and who genuinely can't wait? Would you feel better if the potty training toddler peed on your carpet instead? Really???

Do you actually want to sell your house? One of these people might actually put in an offer on your house.

Your attitude is actually totally pathetic, you know, as you can see by the fact that almost everyone disagrees with you.

The2Ateam clearly isn’t a kind or humane person. Unfortunately these people exist.

I just can't fathom even going to the lengths of telling your estate agent to not let people pee in the toilet. I honestly have never put that much thought into other peoples toilet habits. As for asking men to sit down, when do you ask them? I have builders in next week in that situation would you just put a note on the door or have a word with every individual? Just seems like a lot of effort for something so inconsequential.

I find it truly bizarre that people are offended by this. As long as there isn’t pee or poo left on this seat/splattered everywhere, it’s not an issue.

@saraclara

Anyone in my house, for whatever reason, is a guest. Normal hospitality/empathy/politeness/civility requires that one treats other people with consideration for their needs. To not allow someone to go to the toilet - pretty much the most basic of needs, is almost sociopathic

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Really struggle to understand the mentality that would prefer a guest to be in discomfort (or in the case of some, significant distress) rather than afford them a basic courtesy.

You'd open your loos to a perfect stranger whose been in your house for 30 minutes..... said no one EVER !!

Are you joking? Of course every normal person would let people use their loos! People often travel for hours to view a house and might need the loo. Some people suffer from IBS and might suddenly need to go. What kind of nasty weirdo would refuse them? Utterly bizarre!

I want to be sympathetic as you have obviously have some issues but you also come across as a nasty, uncaring person and also one who has no interest in actually selling their house. Unless the house is very competitively priced this kind of odd behaviour would put me off massively. Buying a house is enough hassle as it is let alone when the person selling it isn't off the scale strange and fussy!

No way I would buy a house when the owner specifically instructed I wasn’t allowed to use the toilet, if I needed to.

In fact, next time I am viewing, I will ask. If the answer is no, that’s that house crossed off my list.

Honestly, I can’t believe the level of hysteria on this thread.

@LaurieMarlow Is it acceptable for you to suggest I am ‘inhumane’ or ‘unkind’?

Or @Lizzie48 Is it acceptable for you to suggest I am ‘totally pathetic’?

As I said, I am not a mind reader so would not know someone had a hidden disability and if someone’s toddler weed on my carpet, they would be paying for it to be cleaned. ps. I sold my house inc exchange and completion in 6 weeks.

Really, piglet? Perfect house, check, great location, check, neurotic hygiene-freak seller, nope!