Page 16 | To request people don’t use my toilet at house viewings?

Diamondeye · 2019-05-28T16:11:39+00:00

Just that really ... As obviously it has been used today and it’s grossed me out.

LateVictorian · 30/05/2019 23:53

@Ells0204

Woooooooooooooow..

It just gets better.

OmgImBlondie · 31/05/2019 01:25

@Ells0204
House hunting too. Wouldn’t dream of using someone else’s toilet! So your not the only one

Wellthatwastricky · 31/05/2019 06:24

Blimey. A few years ago when we were viewing houses it was just weeks after I'd given birth and I'd been left with a really sensitive bladder where I could sometimes urgently need to go fifteen minutes after having been. I had to use the loo at several viewings - always asked first and felt embarrassed at the fact I couldn't make it through a viewing without needing it, but there you go. If my request had been declined ever, we'd have had to leave immediately without completing the viewing and I certainly wouldn't have made the effort to go back!

milkshak3 · 31/05/2019 06:56

people might check the plumbing. they night have checked that the blinds are all working and that the tilt mechanism is functioning properly.

Bettybeautiful28 · 31/05/2019 08:18

I’d be reluctant to buy a house from someone who wouldn’t let me use their loo. I’d just assume that the whole process would be really difficult if they are so particular about that.

flowergrrl77 · 31/05/2019 08:49

Last time I moved, it was 2 hrs away from where I was before, that’s a long time @Ells0204 to wait until I was home again, with 3 children, 2 with disabilities... a days worth of house viewing house after house. I did what I could of course, stop at the last services etc. But a whole day of viewing houses and a 2 hrs drive either side of the days viewings?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 31/05/2019 13:23

So you can't imagine any circumstances under which someone might NEED to use the loo during house viewings, @OmgImBlondie?

Even after numerous posters on this thread, myself included, have tried to explain, as clearly and simply as possible, why it might not be possible to avoid needing the loo?

If you are doing a number of viewings back to back.

If you are doing viewings too far from your home to make it practical to nip home/go before you go out.

If you have a recently toilet trained toddler with you.

If you have a condition that means you need the loo urgently, and cannot wait.

I fall into the latter catagory. I have had IBS for years, and have recently been diagnosed with lymphocytic colitis. I get diarrhoea with almost NO warning. Everything can be fine in the morning, and then I am out and about and get a feeling as if I have been kicked in the stomach, and I know I have to get to a loo ASAP - I maybe have five or ten minutes. If that happened while I was viewing a house, there is no way, on God's clean earth, that I could wait until I could get out of the house to either a public loo or my own loo at home. If I tried, I would have a very nasty accident.

It has never happened so far - thank heavens - but I live in fear that it could. I have modified my life to accomodate my condition - at the moment it is particularly bad, because of the newly diagnosed colitis, so basically I can't go out unless I know I will be near a loo. But if we were moving house, I would have to go out and do house viewings, and would have to rely on the hope that the house owners would be kinder and more understanding than you.

Ells0204 · 31/05/2019 14:13

I bet half the people on this thread would most certainly allow a viewer to help themselves to a drink if they were desperately thirsty or to have a rummage through your fridge if they were starving as well right?

Ok no but seriously, I appreciate some people have health conditions and of course if it’s a case between a fully grown adult (or child even for that matter) soiling themselves or using the toilet then of course I understand. But honestly there must be more times that doesn’t happen, than does? I’ve viewed houses with various other participants (partner, parents) and none of them have ever used the loo.

I hope for the OPs sake it was probably a one-off and that person was indeed in a emergency situation.

OP in answer to your actual post, I don’t think it’s necessary to request people not use the loo, because I don’t think anyone else will. I think you just got unlucky!

dreamyspires · 31/05/2019 14:31

The thing that’s shocked me on this thread is that some men sit down to pee. I’ve never heard of that before. I thought all men stood up. That’s why gents toilets have urinals, where they stand up to pee?

flowergrrl77 · 31/05/2019 14:43

@dreamyspires

“The thing that’s shocked me on this thread is that some men sit down to pee. I’ve never heard of that before. shock I thought all men stood up. That’s why gents toilets have urinals, where they stand up to pee?”

Well how’s this.. my 17yo disabled son isn’t able to stand and pee.... given a lack of seeing others do it, my 14yo sits cause there was no man around to watch stand so now he just sits.. his dad worked away from home much of the time and he only ever saw me / his big brother sitting.

BadLad · 31/05/2019 15:09

The thing that’s shocked me on this thread is that some men sit down to pee.

Becoming more and more common where I live.

www.google.co.jp/amp/s/soranews24.com/2018/09/11/nearly-one-in-three-japanese-men-in-survey-prefer-to-sit-down-when-taking-a-pee/amp/

I sit down if, for some reason (hardness / drunkenness / just had sex / gut feeling) I suspect my aim is going to be off, but otherwise I'll stand.

dreamyspires · 31/05/2019 15:46

flowergirl Yes I understand there’ll be exceptions, especially in the case for your disabled son, but going off some of the posts on here it seemed to be very common. Just surprised that anyone toilet trained boys that way I suppose. That’s not a criticism btw, my dd has a boy, but she always toilet trained him standing up, as all his friends do.

LarryGreysonsDoor · 31/05/2019 15:47

That’s why gents toilets have urinals, where they stand up to pee?

DH sits to pee at home and at friends but will stand in public toilets.

BobbyBrewstersMagicTorch · 31/05/2019 16:11

Yes, you are being very unreasonable but don't appear to be listening to the vast majority of posters.

So you ABU for posting in AIBU too.

TigerTooth · 31/05/2019 16:23

My DH sits to pee only if he’s drunk. Funnily enough I do too.

Lizzie48 · 31/05/2019 16:28

I think all men, including my DH, can stand to pee in urinals, but some choose not to. My DH never stands to pee at home. As to toilet training, that’s an interesting question, but I’m hardly going to ask my BIL if he sits down to pee as well. 😂

Lizzie48 · 31/05/2019 16:31

And I wouldn’t dream of asking my MIL, she would probably take it as a criticism of the way she potty trained her DSs.

saraclara · 31/05/2019 16:56

Anyone in my house, for whatever reason, is a guest. Normal hospitality/empathy/politeness/civility requires that one treats other people with consideration for their needs. To not allow someone to go to the toilet - pretty much the most basic of needs, is almost sociopathic.

derxa · 31/05/2019 18:35

Anyone in my house, for whatever reason, is a guest. Normal hospitality/empathy/politeness/civility requires that one treats other people with consideration for their needs. To not allow someone to go to the toilet - pretty much the most basic of needs, is almost sociopathic. Absolutely

SnagAndChips · 01/06/2019 07:30

This thread has just triggered a memory.
I was going away with my then boyfriend and en route we went to collect his family- family event away. We arrived at his father's house after a 3 hr drive and I asked to use the loo (thinking asking was just a formality) to be told a resounding "NO'. We then spent an hour trying to find a public loo, while his father, stepmother and brothers waited for me to return from finding a loo in an unfamiliar town.

Should have dumped boyfriend there and then...it only got worse. I had not realised this irrational fear of others using your loo was a 'thing"

RiddleyW · 01/06/2019 08:08

They probably thought, like the deep thinkers on this thread, that you were going to give their toilet thrush.

RussianSpamBot · 01/06/2019 08:47

Lmao

iwunderwhy · 03/06/2019 00:40

Hey people.... you check the plumbing by just FLUSHING the toilet. You do NOT have to poop there to do that. You'd open your loos to a perfect stranger whose been in your house for 30 minutes..... said no one EVER !!!

Chocmallows · 03/06/2019 00:51

Shock - I used a loo in a show home recently I'll report to the police station tomorrow

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 03/06/2019 00:58

Shock - I used a loo in a show home recently

When he was little, my DS wandered off and used a non-plumbed-in display one in our local DIY store whilst I was getting some timber cut in an adjacent department (he hated the noise of the saw). I only knew what he'd done when he proudly shouted that he'd finished! Thankfully, it was only a small wee, so it could have been a lot worse....