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To request people don’t use my toilet at house viewings?

474 replies

Diamondeye · 28/05/2019 17:11

Just that really ...

As obviously it has been used today and it’s grossed me out.

OP posts:
ddl1 · 28/05/2019 21:05

'I find it strange that a viewer can’t relieve themselves before the viewing.'

Depends how far they had to come from. It's one thing if it's round the corner; another if it's from another city.

There aren't as many public loos as there once were; and if people are local, they may know where there are shops, etc. where they can use the facilities; if they are unfamiliar with the area, they may not.

There was a report recently that indicated that 20% of all people, and 43% of people with medical conditions that require frequent use of the toilet, sometimes avoid going out, because of anxiety that they may not be able to find a loo. Apart from the hardship this causes the people themselves, if they're stuck at home, they can't view and buy your house!

I do think that (if the home-owner were around), it would have been more courteous of them to ask permission to use the toilet, rather than just go of their own accord; but I also think that they should be given that permission. Surely one wouldn't refuse guests permission to use the toilet?

ilovesooty · 28/05/2019 21:06

Diamondeye good for you that you could afford to.

NameChangeNugget · 28/05/2019 21:10

I’d rather they use the lavatory, then curl one out on the rug in the lounge, to be fair

Likethebattle · 28/05/2019 21:13

6 viewings back to back on one day and quite far from the area we lived in meant I occasionally had to ask. I had gone before leaving the house as I usually do but an hours drive to where we finally bought and several viewings.

Nolar · 28/05/2019 21:18

I'd never deny anyone who was in my house use of a toilet, it's just weird and unkind.

I've had to use someone's toilet when looking at houses, sometimes it just can't be helped.

Livingoncake · 28/05/2019 21:22

No way would I buy a house from someone who refused me or my family the use of a toilet. I’d assume that person to be a nasty piece of work who would make the house sale as difficult as possible.

Ffs, just give the loo a good bleaching after the viewers have gone. Keeping your loo pristine really shouldn’t be more important to you than basic human decency.

Itssosunny · 28/05/2019 21:48

I wouldn't have liked strangers to use my toilet but I wouldn't say 'no' to them either.

JinglingHellsBells · 28/05/2019 21:54

Well I’ve always had a new bathroom and kitchen whenever I’ve moved home

From day 1?

Do you use public loos?

Honestly, you clearly have NO IDEA of the number of people with health problems who have urgency - maybe read about IBS?

There are people who need a wee every 30 minutes, poo 6 x a day, and are housebound at times . If they have to do a house viewing, it's a nightmare and the least you can do is be gracious if they need a toilet.

NOT EVERY DISABILITY IS VISIBLE.

Think on it :)

Alsohuman · 28/05/2019 22:03

Are there really people who pull out and replace perfectly adequate kitchens and bathrooms? No wonder the planet’s in such a state. That’s appalling.

Lazypuppy · 28/05/2019 22:07

Well I’ve always had a new bathroom and kitchen whenever I’ve moved home

😂😂😂 as if people actually do this, what a waste!!

BeckyAnnLeeman · 28/05/2019 22:15

I fear that my buttocks are permanently soiled from having to use the previous owner's toilet for two years before I could afford to replace the bathroom. I should ring a bell and squawk 'unclean' as I shuffle around the streets.

PortiaCastis · 28/05/2019 22:18

Well I’ve always had a new bathroom and kitchen whenever I’ve moved home

Well well well really

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 28/05/2019 22:19

”There was a report recently that indicated that 20% of all people, and 43% of people with medical conditions that require frequent use of the toilet, sometimes avoid going out, because of anxiety that they may not be able to find a loo. Apart from the hardship this causes the people themselves, if they're stuck at home, they can't view and buy your house!”

Thank you for posting this, @ddl1. I am currently pretty house bound because I have lymphocytic colitis which is flaring up badly. I can get very little warning from getting that kicked-in-the-stomach, cramp-y feeling, to having to go, now, so I can only go out if I know the place I am going to has loos I can get to easily.

As a general rule, I am not this bad - I have had IBS for years, and the flare-ups have never been as bad as this one is. I don’t know if the colitis is a new thing or the IBS has always been colitis, but either way, if I was at someone’s house, and got the cramps, and they didn’t let me use their loo, I would have a horrible accident.

Having said that, I do think that it ought to be simple good manners to leave any loo clean, whether it’s your own, or at someone else’s house or a public loo, and anyone who leaves skid marks, wee on the seat or round the loo, or doesn’t flush is disgusting. If people have come across too many of such mingers in their life, I can understand them not wanting non family members using their loo.

Damntheman · 28/05/2019 22:20

I do hope whomever used your toilet also used the shower right after. Otherwise there is no telling what filthy residue might be lurking on their skin and everything they touch! The horror!

IAmNotPatientOrPregnant · 28/05/2019 22:21

Enless you're buying a new build then the toilet in the house your buying next has been shit in by someone else.

What's the difference?

Ithinkmycatisevil · 28/05/2019 22:25

I don’t get why it would gross you out. Everybody poops.

Fedoratheexploreer · 28/05/2019 22:25

I think it’d be rude to not let someone use your toilet, it’s a bodily function that we can’t control

Redglitter · 28/05/2019 22:35

You posted an almost identical thread about this a few weeks ago OP 🤔

nakedscientist · 28/05/2019 23:08

Imagine, though, not just the loo, but the breathing

Strangers leaving their fetid, germy breath in your house. In out, in out,over their furry tongues, last nights' blowjob....Mixing the air up and then you are breathing some of it in! Oh my lord, the sheer horror.

LarryGreysonsDoor · 28/05/2019 23:16

What do people do when they stay in hotels knowing that other people have shat in those toilets before them?

Ontheboardwalk · 28/05/2019 23:19

As a first time buyer I’d watched all the tv shows so obviously knew everything so I asked to use the loo in the house I finally purchased

I knew to flush the loo and run the tap to check the water pressure. Shame I didn’t run the hot tap long enough to discover the boiler and hot water wasn’t working 🤦🏼‍♀️

I soon figured out where I went wrong after I moved in

MatthewBramble · 28/05/2019 23:23

Your loo, your rules but my immediate reaction would be that your plumbing's got problems.

AlexaAmbidextra · 28/05/2019 23:53

I never cease to be amazed at the sheer revulsion that is demonstrated on MN towards bodily fluids/functions. Shit, wee, snot horrifies so many to the point it makes them ill and they have to scrub, disinfect and boil everything with which they come into contact. What I don’t understand though is how these people ever manage to get close enough to have sex and procreate. Confused

Heratnumber7 · 28/05/2019 23:54

I dont like the idea of strangers sitting with their bum on my toilet seat

It's just skin. Hmm

Teresa90 · 29/05/2019 00:20

A Baxi service engineer once asked to use the loo in my empty (between tenants at the time) rental house. He'd finished the boiler repair and l'd been around the house checking all windows and doors etc ready for locking up after him. He was ery quuck so l presumed had only had a wee so didn't bother going checking after him, heard water running after etc. Thought nothing of it till few weeks later when l called to check the property and on opening the door (it was summer) and the stench was awful. He'd left the lid and seat up and not flushed and although it was only wee, it was dark orange (he clearly needed to drink more). I can't understand how he could forget to flush when he must've been looking into the loo at his orange pee when he'd finished. There was nothing wrong with the flush either, worked first time every time. Strange behaviour, very rude and/or ignorant imo.