Is it obvious this is a wedding dress?

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This is a ridiculous question, I know. Basically I need opinions on if this dress is obviously a bridal dress, or if there's a small chance it could pass for a party dress:

www.dorothyperkins.com/en/dpuk/product/showcase-white-bridal-louisa-midi-dress-8748291

I am getting married and like the look of this dress, and it's been very hard to find something on a budget. The cpmplication is, we are having lunch at a pub, and I'm worried they will throw us out if they realise it's a wedding party, as they charge thousands for weddings. We are only having lunch with about 15 people though. So I feel I have to find a nice wedding dress that isn't too obviously a wedding dresss iyswim?

My DD had her reception in a beautiful old school that needed no decoration as all panelled walls etc. They charged thousands for a wedding package but she visited and negotiated the stand at hire price of £800 for the evening as we did all the work.

So we set out the tables and chairs, laid and dressed the tables, hired a caterer that provided nice crockery, hired glasses from Sainsbury’s and took all our own alcohol in. We also added flowers and decorations around the other side rooms, sweetie bars etc. Then had to turn up the day after and clear it all up, so basically did what would be needed if it was just a party package, but they knew it was a wedding and everyone was happy.

I’d say tell them it’s your wedding celebration rather than a full reception and they should be fine.

I'm getting a bit go a chuckle at a pub demanding 15 people leave if they find out it's a wedding party.

Here they'd offer their congratulations.

Beautiful. Perfect for the low key look you’re going for but still very elegant x

Why would it matter with the pub, it's just a meal - the £££ bookings is for a reception which you get exclusive use etc

Agree that you should let the pub know beforehand. Don’t see how they could chuck you out, but why risk it?
If they say no they’ll lose the custom and 15/16 meals and drinks isn’t cheap!

That dress does look like a particularly lovely, short wedding dress. Very stylish and classy.

I think you will pass for maybe not being a bride I'm a bit extra and have worn more extravagant white dresses out with full make up and hair and everyone's just thought I'm just a bit extra and maybe crazy 😂 I think that's a pretty standard white skater dress though so you'll be fine.

I’d be REALLY careful about letting the pub know beforehand. Personally I wouldn’t!

I live in a nice area full of ‘boutique pubs’ who are also expensive wedding venues and they would NOT let you just turn up and have a meal like a regular group. I’m not sure why, I’m not saying it’s right but equally if they can extort an extra £Xk out of you then ofc they will.

Nothing about the wedding industry is ‘common sense’ or ‘fair’, it’s aboit making money. They know it matters more to you than an average meal so if they can charge you twice as much they absoloutley will do.

It’s fine

Lovely dress - I think it's perfect for a low key wedding. Like other posters idea of slipping a jacket over it for entering the pub. No one will notice, and you can take the jacket off once you are seated if you like.

The dress is lovely but I agree with a PP that said you'd have to explain to the pub else you'd not enjoy yourself and be on edge all the time you were there. Just tell them it's just a gathering and want nothing special. Also no flowers in buttonholes or fascinators might be an idea(can't stand the things myself,too much like Royal Ascot) to make it less formal.
If I'd got married it would have been in red velvet but that ship has long since sailed.
Enjoy your day and good luck!

You could always add a jacket to walk in ,so it just looks like a lovely summer dress😊. It’s gorgeous by the way and I hope your day is perfect.

It looks more party than wedding to me, it's lovely. If you are worried you could either tea/coffee stain it to make it a cream colour or you could dye it with clothing dye though if you really like it.

Also, they are not going to throw you out, you are their customers and you are there to share a meal, anything other than that is none of their business.

First off,Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!And 2nd,I think it's a beautiful dress.❤

Beautiful dress, but I’m sure that a pub won’t throw you out because you are a wedding party. I imagine management will be rubbing their hand together thinking fantastic, 15 people in a wedding party celebrating and eating and drinking. What you could do to be sure is ring and book a table and be open and say it’s a small wedding party and we just want to order from the regular menu and enjoy some drinks together.

They can't throw you out for celebrating your wedding??! It's not a case of you either buy our wedding package or you don't come here - that's ridic! Wear what you like my dear.

I think you would be surprised how many wedding venues now have clauses in their user conditions that cover unannounced ‘wedding’ parties showing up.

It’s an issue as most venues offer an ‘exclusivity’ clause to wedding parties (who have booked the actual wedding packages- which guarantees they’ll be the only wedding on the premesis on the day. (Brides can be very funny about this).

A lot of venues also get wise to people booking ‘family parties’ and then turning up as a wedding and saying ‘well nothing in the contract says we can’t’.

I know for a fact that a wedding party did this as a venue near me- but ended up stuck with the applicable extra fees afterwards as the venue had it in their contract.

Not sure how it works just booking a table but I would be careful- personally

Love that dress, gorgeous!

We had our reception at a local boutique hotel/restaurant that charge £1000s for weddings too!

I phoned them up in advance to let them know that the 5 of us were coming to celebrate our wedding and they were amazing. Charged us like anyone else dining there that day but really gave us wedding treatment, i.e. exclusive room for pre meal drinks and best table in the smaller cosier section of their restaurant area. We have them a big top to say thank you as they really did make it special for us.

Actually, as a result we now intend to go there for our anniversary!

*we gave them a big tip (should have checked before posting!)

Wear it, it’s lovely. If they ask say it’s an anniversary, you don’t need to say which one, especially if you’re marrying on a significant date. I wore a similar dress for my 5th anniversary.

It's not a case of you either buy our wedding package or you don't come here - that's ridic! Wear what you like my dear

But it could be exactly that - we can’t second guess the venues policies. Its definitely worth a call before the big day to check - then the OP can relax and enjoy the day, or find another venue.

It's a lovely dress.I am sure you would never (get thrown out of) any establishment for wearing this pretty dress. It could double as a posh garden party dress, even at the Queens garden party at the palace.!