to be fed up with looking after friends daughter

[andiem]

I have one ds7 one ds 4 weeks. My friend has recently split up from her husband. I am on mat leave at the moment and have become her unpaid child minder. In the last 4 weeks since the baby was born I have looked after her daughter 8 or 9 times both before and after school. Some of those times she hasn't been picked up till 18.30 in spite of me saying 18.00 is the latest I can have her.She is also dropped of at 7.30 in the morning when we are just about up.
I feel exhausted by it as she is not the happiest of children and mooches about and winges when she is here. She is also unpleasant to my ds who always tries to be nice as I have told him that she is having a hard time at the moment
My friend wants me to look after her in the school hols as well should I tell her no or be stricter about timings etc am I being a whinger

She should know it is illegal to look after a child for in your own home for reward, which is probably why she dosnt want to pay you (as well as the cost). Tell her to go and find a CM, you have enough on your plate.

thanks everyone I will gird my loins and talk to her about it her dd is in the same class as my ds at school and I cannot do this in september when they go back to school!

She's not really a friend if she's taking advantage like this is she? Can't see what you are getting out of the relationship...

She should be having your ds to play not the other way around!

YANBU -far from it you have helped her out tremendously already but no way should you even be considering having her dd to look after all summer.

You have a 4week old baby and he'll only be a baby for a matter of months. You'll be so stretched looking after two other children also.

She needs to get her childcare sorted out permanently and the sooner she has done this the sooner she and her dd can settle into their new way of life.

IMHO, you will be doing her a favour in the long run if you can be strong now and say no. I'm surprised at how thoughtless she is being despite her split with her dh being on her mind.

defo not yanbu!

I mean a couple of times because she's realy stuck I could understand but she's using you as an unpaid childminder!

She should be ashamed especially being a HV and knowing you've got a little baby!

Nobody wants to pay for childcare, I know I don't but I have no choice so bite the bullet. And so should she

I felt guilty asking a friend to pick up dd from school and take her to gymnastics because I got stuck in a meeting! And that was a one off!!!