Parent or instrumental teacher?

[MarjoryDawess]

Child missed instrumental music lesson because parent forgot to bring instrument to school.

Instrumental teacher didn’t allow child to borrow a spare instrument.

Parent is upset because child missed lesson, teacher maintains children have to bring their instrument to receive tuition.

Who IBU? Parent or teacher?

Depends on the age of the child. 8+ should be sorting their own instrument.

Also depends on instruments- some are less hygienic to share than others.

Lastly, maybe the child will have learned a lesson and bring their stuff next week.

The parent is being unreasonable.

Depends. Has this happen previously? Was there a spare instrument actual available?

Parent ... Not the teachers job to carry spares, DS's guitar teacher has so much gear himself if he had to bring anything else his legs would snap!

Unless the parent was specifically led to believe a spare instrument would be available, parent.

If that's the full story, and the spare instrument wasn't due to be used for anything else during that time, or was set up for something else later, the teacher WBU.

Parent

Depends. If there was a spare usable instrument lying around that could have been used and the teacher refused to let child use it to make a point, that’s a bit unkind.

Parent. My son’s had to share his instrument so many times when others have forgotten theirs and it always come back with extra scratches. I wish that music teacher was my sons!

Where there instruments available? Was it an instrument that used a mouth piece? Was this a first offense?
I wouldn't expect my dc to receive a lesson if they forgot their instruments to be honest.

It depends whether they can usually borrow a spare instrument? Whose spare instrument was it? Why did they think a spare instrument would be available to borrow? If they borrowed a friend's instrument the lesson should have gone ahead or not be paid for. If they expected the music teacher to provide a spare then the missed lesson should be paid for by parent.

Parental or child responsibility.

Age of child and instrument type?

Parent. The amount of posts on this week about being cross because the school wouldn’t pick up the slack when they forgot something is staggering. Take some personal responsibility.

They should do theory work if practical work isn't able to to be completed. The lesson should still happen.
However it isn't the teacher's responsibility to sort out a spare instrument.

The instrument does not have a mouth piece

Could have borrowed one from another child in a different group

Teacher said it was because of insurance reasons, if a child damaged spare instrument then child’s parent would be expected to pay repairs.

It's the parents and childs responsibility to make sure they take their instrument for the lesson. The teacher has a hard enough job without having to sort this kind of shit out.

Parent. Instruments are expensive. I wouldn’t be happy if my child was expected to lend theirs out.

Parent (or child, depends on age) should have remembered the instrument. Not teacher’s fault or other children’s responsibility to share.

Child is 8

Parent was unreasonable. If the school owned a spare instrument then child should have been allowed to borrow it. Under no circumstances should another child have been asked to loan out their instrument.

Parents fault

That latest changes my opinion. I was thinking the spare belonged to the school - I wouldn't expect the teacher to loan out another child's instrument. The parent WBU.

And who are you? The parent or the teacher?

There would be an issue with borrowing expensive instruments. Yes parent might be narky, but rather that than the kerfuffle caused by damaging someone else's instrument. Parent was in the wrong