Girlfriends dumps son wants money back for holiday

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Sons Girlfriend dumps son via text and wants us (her parents) to refund her portion of a holiday booked for July. We cannot get money back from holiday company and insurance will not payout simply because she has chosen not to come. It would appear from subsequent message with our son that she reservations about the relationship when we were making booking. We cannot afford to pay her back - we do not have her money - we do no benefit from her empty seat on the plain or her empty bed in villa. We have no-one else we wish to come in her place (or anyone who could afford to pay her share).

She agreed to come despite having reservations so obviously breaking up and not going was a possibility. She needs to suck it up.

Sounds like it’s tough shit for her. You can’t give her what you haven’t got. Even if you could why should you? Not your problem.

Good life lesson for her, isn't it? She will survive the loss of this money. You don't owe her anything on the evidence so far.

Just explain exactly what you've said in this post. It's not your fault that they split up, you aren't liable, nor do you have the money. Tell her neither the holiday company nor the insurance will pay out under these circumstances, so why would she think you would. I do feel sorry for her, but it's nothing to do with you, surely?

How old are they?

If they’re young I’d speak to her parents.

You don’t have her money so you can’t pay it back. She chose not to come so she’s lost out.

Tough shit for her. Tbh.

Agreed with you and PP’s, she’ll have to accept the loss.

Did she not take out travel insurance? Lesson learned for her then. You don't owe her anything and she should have taken our insurance when she booked.

Entirely her fault, entirely her loss. If you think your son articulating thi sto hee May cause problems then talk to her or her parents directly. You're not liable just carry on as normal. Hmmmm I do wonder if there'll be a reunion once this penny has dropped though 🤔 xx

Unless he finds a replacement and the seat is unused you cant agree to her request can you change the ticket so she can use it herself another time?

Did she not take out travel insurance? Lesson learned for her then. You don't owe her anything and she should have taken our insurance when she booked.

How do you think travel insurance would have helped her in this instance?

She's a cheeky bugger. Not your problem that she had reservations but booked the holiday anyway. This is just one of those situations where she has to suck it up.
Could be worse - my brother's ex wife had reservations about their relationship and went ahead in buying a new house with a massive mortgage that neither could afford on their own.

How old are they and how much money are you talking about?

You're not obligated to return the cash but I might try to help.

If she had reservations about the relationship at the time when you were booking the holiday, she ought to have spoken up then and said it would be better if she didn’t come. I’m sorry for her that her money has been wasted, but it isn’t your fault.

Travel insurance wouldn’t have helped anyway as there’s no way they’d pay out if someone has just changed their mind. I agree with others on here, you don’t need to pay her back.

Cheeky cow!

Her choice to end the relationship: she'll have to suck it up. Especially if 'she was having doubts' at the time it was booked; she shouldn't have agreed to go in the first place.

She paid for HER holiday. If she doesn’t go then SHE loses out. Why don’t you say the three of you have decided not to go and she owes you the money for it.

Not your problem. She technically is still owns the plane ticket so why would you pay for it just because she's choosing not to use it.

Not your problem OP

How much is the cancellation fee? The only thing you could perhaps try to do with the situation is to find out if you can cancel the entire holiday and rebook for the same price / terms minus her. If this is possible you could refund her minus the cancellation fee. This may be too later not possible of course.

No way! Not ypur problem Op.

Don’t pay her back, it’s her choice not to go. I don’t see why she’d even think you’d refund her?!

Her problem, not yours.

Enjoy your holiday.

She may be able to get a refund of the airline ticket, but anything else is tough luck.