Girlfriends dumps son wants money back for holiday

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Sons Girlfriend dumps son via text and wants us (her parents) to refund her portion of a holiday booked for July. We cannot get money back from holiday company and insurance will not payout simply because she has chosen not to come. It would appear from subsequent message with our son that she reservations about the relationship when we were making booking. We cannot afford to pay her back - we do not have her money - we do no benefit from her empty seat on the plain or her empty bed in villa. We have no-one else we wish to come in her place (or anyone who could afford to pay her share).

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it reads as if you are her parents

She's changed her mind about your son. No refund unless he's faulty!

Is there any danger that she'll take her holiday if she doesn't get her money back?

She has two options. Go or don't go, she can't moan about losing money when it's her choice

She’s lost her money I am afraid,Her tough luck.

No orangeballon - she's lost her holiday. She happily spent her money.

Lesson for her, if you spend your money, no one gives it back to you if you change your mind later unless you meet the criteria for a refund. If she met the criteria for a refund, the travel company would give her the money back (as in, the company she bought her product from) or the insurance company (the company she bought insurance with if she should be unable to go on her trip - unable, not unwilling).

I would possibly look to see if the flight could be refunded or changed to different date and location at her cost for admin charges and if I was feeling kind a token £50 -£100 as you will have more space in the villa - depending if you can afford that.

Her loss - just one if life's lessons.

Has she paid the whole amount or just the deposit? If just the deposit then I hope you've cancelled her place so the holiday company don't require the balance to be paid.

One of life's lessons (forgot to spell check on preview).

How you handle this really depends on what age this girl is.

If she is a child under 18 then explain to her you she doesn’t get a refund on a holiday simply because she changes her mind.

If she is an adult just laugh it off and say no. She is free to check with the airline - but leave that to her.

Maybe op's son is female.
I do think your ds might hate the holiday now though :(

If she has paid then it's her responsibility to find someone to take her place. If she hasn't paid then I doubt you'll get the money.

Just say no. Not your problem.

What if she decides to go instead?

should have taken our insurance when she booked

Yes, she should - although even then she wouldn't have been covered for simply changing her mind

It's a sad lesson learned for her, but absolutely not your problem

I don't have children but I do remember being a teenager. The last thing I would have wanted to do was go on holiday with any of my boyfriends' parents!

That's sad isn't it? I went on holiday with my "in-laws" as a teenager – we all got on great and I got to go to some great places! What's not to like?

We wrote to the company asking if we could get any sort of refund and copied her in. She received a copy of their reply by default and knows there is no refund possible. She was an adult at the time of booking and had been with my son some 2 1/2 years.

Doesn't it depend on why she finished with him? What if he did something horrific?

If he did something horrific then she should report him to the police.

However her concern over her money would suggest it was just a breakup without any abuse.

I’d say no refund but she is welcome to come on holiday, use her ticket and do separate things.

Doesn't it depend on why she finished with him? What if he did something horrific?

No, it doesn’t depend upon this. The OP’s son is an adult and responsible for his own actions. His parents do not owe her anything.

Also, if you don't refund her, (and I'm not saying you should, just if) then she is perfectly at liberty to still come. How would your son feel about that?

Doesn’t it depend on why she finished with him? What if he did something horrific?

Not for the OP, no. Her son is an adult and responsible for his own behaviour. If he wants to refund her because he was a shit to her then that’s on him.

I don't have children but I do remember being a teenager. The last thing I would have wanted to do was go on holiday with any of my boyfriends' parents!

Why? I enjoyed holidaying with my parents and my boyfriend's family when I was a teenager. Not all teenagers are so grumpy they'd rather stay in their bedroom than travel to a lovely location with adult members of their family.

She should just go on the vacation as planned, if that makes her ex and his parents uncomfortable too bad. Why should she lose out on a vacation she paid for? On the other hand, if she chooses not to go tgen she forfeits her money.