Girlfriends dumps son wants money back for holiday

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Sons Girlfriend dumps son via text and wants us (her parents) to refund her portion of a holiday booked for July. We cannot get money back from holiday company and insurance will not payout simply because she has chosen not to come. It would appear from subsequent message with our son that she reservations about the relationship when we were making booking. We cannot afford to pay her back - we do not have her money - we do no benefit from her empty seat on the plain or her empty bed in villa. We have no-one else we wish to come in her place (or anyone who could afford to pay her share).

Tough shit for her I’m afraid. If she had doubts at the time of booking she was a fool for going ahead with it. This is the consequence.

This is a simple cut and dry case of “tough titties”

No of course not, she's bonkers.

Lucky escape for your DS.

Block them. She doesn't have a leg to stand on. Too bad.

You don't have her money though. The holiday company does. Her parents must be potty!

Imagine if you were a group of friends going on holiday and somebody canceled at the last minute - they wouldn't expect to get money back from everyone else.

I'm always surprised by the teenagers' boyfriends/girlfriends joining in family holidays.

I don't have children but I do remember being a teenager. The last thing I would have wanted to do was go on holiday with any of my boyfriends' parents!

I think JenMumma might have a point about a (brief) reunion for the purpose of the holiday. But if not, yes, a life lesson indeed and YANBU.

No, don't pay her...why should you?

How old is he/her?

Does he have any friends who might like to go?

Of course YANBU. If it was DS who had dumped or cheated on her meaning she no longer wanted to come then I think he should refund her but since it was her decision to end the relationship and hence not come on holiday then it's 100% her responsibility.

Send an email to the holiday company asking for her share back. Copy her in, so she sees the response but knows you've tried - if you can be bothered.

@RiddleyW some insurance policies cover for cancellations.

If it's her parents asking for it, give them the travel company's number and details and let them argue with the travel company.

Not your problem and if the parents think it is then they're being ridiculous. A lesson for the ex girlfriend I think.

This was all her doing. Not a chance in hell. It may teach her to never break up before a holiday or Xmas

This happened to us when only the deposits had been paid over and I just had to say I'm sorry the deposits are unrefundable. Very fortunately I could cancel her out of the trip other than that but I wouldn't have been able to afford to pay her back if it happened now. My advice would be to speak to the agent and see if there are any elements she could be cancelled out of and if not then it's hard luck. In our case she had reservations and let me book the holiday anyway but I guess she wouldn't have understood about cancellation policies.

Presumably you would allow her to still come on the holiday if she chose to do so? Therefore, the choice not to go is entirely hers and no refund is necessary.

Why would her DS want to go on holiday with someone who's just dumped him?

wants us (her parents) to refund her portion of a holiday booked for July.

Are you her parents or his parents? I’m assuming his parents and the above is a typo (or else I’ve really understood) but either way, it’s tough.

Cookiemonster travel insurance WILL pay out for cancellations such as health, redundancy etc. so long as the criteria for cover is met.

However, they don't cover for relationship break ups or for a passenger just deciding not to travel unfortunately.

With parents like that, she has no hope. This is a valuable life lesson.

What a bunch of cocks

GreenFingers I'm sure he wouldn't, but by telling her her place on the holiday is still available should she want to go, it removes any leg she may have to stand on. She paid for something which is still available to her.

Nope not your problem you pull out its on you to lose whatever you paid if you cancel

I lost a deposit whjen i pulled out of a holiday one of thise things i sucked it up

I don’t see how it’s your responsibility! Tel her your very sorry she’s decided to a) dump your son and b) not come on holiday but that as you can’t get a refund for her space in the villa or her seat on the plane, there’s nothing you can do.

*tell and you’re!

Agree with edwinbear - telling her she can still go, making it clear it is her choice not to go, removes her argument that she's not allowed to go so should be refunded.

She's not losing any money, she already spent the money on something at the time she wanted. She's losing the holiday, not any money.

If you spend £20 on a new top, then leave it on the bus on the way home, you haven't lost £20, you've lost a top through your own actions. The bus company don't owe you £20, particularly if they can find your top and make it clear you can have it back if you go get it.

The only issue could be what your DS said to her at the point they were booking and she had doubts, did he try to talk her into comitting to the holiday knowing she wasn't 100% certain the relationship would last? If so, she might have a point...