Gift for toddler when you’ve been told no gifts?

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Just that really. Invited to small toddler party. Told beforehand in private that we shouldn’t bother with a gift, because they are inundated with stuff. Now I’m pre-embarassed that everyone else will turn up with a gift and I’ll be empty handed. Plus, advance planner that I am, I actually bought the gift prior to having that conversation with the mum. Wwyd?

'No boxed gifts' is the coy way to ask for cash.

No gifts means no gifts IMO.

Do not tell your child about the T-shirt.

DD is 20 months old. Unless the gift is a banana I think she can be counted on to stay quiet.

I really don’t think they meant it angling for cash. We were in her living room, she said to please not bring gifts for her DD because -gesture- you can see the state we’re in already. And then something about not knowing how to word that on the invite so she didn’t say anything, but since we were there she said it.

My DS birthday is next weekend. I have asked no gifts but if you feel you need to then an item of clothing or money for his bank account is fine

In the same situation I gave a donation to the charity of mum's choice on the child's behalf

If you can save the gift fir another party?

yesimstillwatchingnetflix that's how I feel. Being bought a load of plastic tat I don't have space for or need is so wasteful.

I wouldn't be very offended if someone ignored me, but I've generally tried to explain to friends that we are trying to Marie Kondo the masses of baby and toddler stuff.

I don’t think you can assume clothes won’t be viewed as tat, I think it very much depends on the clothes given.

Different people have different tastes, and what one person thinks is a lovely t-shirt isn’t necessarily going to be everyone else’s idea of a lovely t-shirt. And then there’s the times when the clothes gifted are the wrong size.

We’ve been given clothes before that haven’t ever been worn by my DC because I didn’t like the style or because they were the wrong size.

If you've already bought a tshirt, I'd hand it over and explain you'd already bought it.

A lot of family give us clothes in the next size up for Christmas and birthdays and it's appreciated. All 3 have bank accounts from babies so money can be kept for them and we get less tat.

I once went to a toddler bbq and it said no gifts. I couldn't bare it so I bought a small pocket book style book and a card. I was worried it was put on the invite just to be polite! It was politely received but I could sense it was not wanted. They are the nicest people so I'm sure they had their reasons. Next time I will just respect wishes and not worry about buying something.