Cutting down drinking in run up to birth?

[Greggers2017]

Hi ladies. I'm 36 weeks pregnant. When did your partners cut down their drinking when out with mates etc in the run up to birth? How many weeks were you?
I'm not wanting to be unreasonable but also getting nervous about the run up to the birth. Thanks

I didn't even know this was a "thing"! I wasn't drinking much, obv, as was the one who was pregnant (one glass of wine a week or Becks Blue) but my DH just did his usual thing. He's not a big drinker anyway but I never would've said to him "at what point in my pregnancy will you be quitting alcohol?"!
I had a planned homebirth so we never really thought about going to hospital anyway.

I'm 35 weeks and DP is going to Amsterdam on a stag do next weekend and has a night out on the Friday before I go in for ELCS on the Monday, he asked did I mind and I didn't as I know he never gets really really pissed! My mums away too when he is in Amsterdam so I'm hoping nothings happens then as I have 15 month old DS at home

I have a question for those whose partners don't drink for 9 months because they can't, for support. How far does this extend? Soft cheeses, cured meats, oysters, whatever else is on the banned food lists nowadays? What about not playing a contact sport (football, rugby, hockey) or horse riding or whatever because you can't? Do they have a strap a few bricks to their stomach, and a few more at 8 months? Stick their fingers down their throat to feel sick for the first 3?
Tbh, I got on a roll there, and I'm well aware I've ended up being goady, but actually, why would any of those latter things, be different from giving up the odd glass of alcohol.
Like a previous poster said, it just seems like an utterly pointless self sacrifice which achieves nothing.
(Again, I'm not talking about final few weeks here regarding the alcohol).

Also, my thinking was that just because I had to give up on all the fun stuff for 40 weeks why should my DH suffer too?! It's bad enough one of us being uncomfortable, huge, sober, nice-cheese-less! I guess I was just more relaxed in my pregnancy, not having the whole hospital trip to factor in.....

About 27 weeks

*I have a question for those whose partners don't drink for 9 months because they can't, for support. How far does this extend?8

I imagine that some partner abstain from alcohol because they think it will make it easier for their pregnant partner to do so because their partner is carrying their child. The same would apply to smoking.

I think now is the time for him to stop, just to be on the safe side.
DP drinks very rarely so it wasn't an issue.
@Lauren83 you'll be fine, it is scarier with a baby at home already.

Sorry, why would it need to be easier? I could see if the mother to be was an alcoholic, then yes, take temptation away. But, for ordinary, responsible women, who have decided not to drink because it's better for their growing baby; why does it need to be easier? My husband, enjoying a glass of red with his roast lamb, isn't going to tempt me to have a glass too, because it's better for my baby if I don't. What he does is separate and has no affect.

Sorry, why would it need to be easier? I could see if the mother to be was an alcoholic, then yes, take temptation away. But, for ordinary, responsible women, who have decided not to drink

A lot of women (and men) in this country don't find it that easy to give up alcohol believe it or not. Not just alcoholics.

Ok, that's fine. But then they should own that; rather than denigrate husbands who don't do it as unsupportive.

Ok, that's fine. But then they should own that; rather than denigrate husbands who don't do it as unsupportive.

I don't know if they do denigrate their husbands for being unsupportive. Maybe they don't need to be asked. I'm pretty sure that DH would stop drinking if I was a heavy drinker and pregnant.

Sorry, I wasn't clear. I didn't mean their own husbands. There's a few women on this thread who have smugly said 'my husband abstains for 9 months because he's supportive,' or 'women who accept men can have a drink in the 9 months have really low standards.' The implication being other people's husbands are unsupportive and shit if they can't abstain. Whereas, actually the problem is theirs, if they are unable to handle anyone having a drink around them when they can't.

I think the "low standards" referred to the people that would be happy for their DHs to be over the drink drive limit in the last few weeks of pregnancy. I agree with them on that.

My partner didn’t drive when I went into labour with any of the kids. They really don’t need to drive you to hospital!

My partner didn’t drive when I went into labour with any of the kids. They really don’t need to drive you to hospital!

They don't "need" to drink over the limit either do they? I don't see why women should get a taxi to the hospital just so their partner can have a few drinks.