Cutting down drinking in run up to birth?

[Greggers2017]

Hi ladies. I'm 36 weeks pregnant. When did your partners cut down their drinking when out with mates etc in the run up to birth? How many weeks were you?
I'm not wanting to be unreasonable but also getting nervous about the run up to the birth. Thanks

I don’t think mine officially stopped drinking, unfair as it seemed at the time, he wasn’t pregnant and there were no concerns that I’d go into early early and I didn’t. He didn’t have any big nights out or get blind drunk or anything that I remember in particular but if he fancied a beer, he’d have one.

He didn't and I didn't expect him too.

My DH didn't drive at the time DS was due, and he didn't really drink much anyway

We had a c section booked for 38 weeks as he was breach, so the weekend before he went out with the NCT lads for curry and beers - I was the first due to it was a bit of a final hurrah.

He got in at 2am - my waters broke at 4.30am! DS decided 37+4 was a good time to come along :) My parents live locally so they took us in

DH was not in a good way the next day!

With DD he didn't make the same mistake (and could drive by then) and didn't drink anything in the final few weeks

Mine didn’t stop drinking but he was more careful. It wasn’t anything to do with driving, it was about him being able to advocate for me if needed. I wouldn’t want a drunk man hovering over me if I’m in labour. It didn’t kill him to take it easy for a couple of weeks.

We never really discussed it, but he couldn't drive at the time so I wasn't worried about drink drive limits. As we got towards the end of both pregnancies i don't think he drank much so he could be clear headed when the time came.
Thankfully though, my DH can manage to drink without getting smashed - i assume all the women who insist on no drinks at all have husbands who tend to get to state where they'd be a useless birth partner?

We didn't have a set time but when I was about 35 weeks with my second he didn't go on a night out because I had a UTI and already had a toddler. He doesn't go out often and just made sure he wasn't too drunk when he did.

39+4, baby born at 40.

To be fair he was never out of control drunk, hed have sobered up instantly if I went into labour, and more importantly we had to get a cab anyway as no car. I also chuckled at the thought of him having to hide a hangover, as to complain of that when I was in labour would've meant instant injury.

For the record he's an excellent husband and father, I'm just quite laid back about this particular scenario

I don't think people want to ban their DH's per se but the time leading up to birth is so full of uncertainty and worry that people may like to control the variables they do have a say in (IE partner not going out for a few weeks / drinking).

I think this is a reaction to the fear of the unknown as opposed to a woman actually wanting to control her partner?

I didn't ask him to. I was taken in on his birthday with pre-eclampsia and he still went out with his mates for a few pints. I didn't see the big deal.

A few days before my due date was NYE and we went to put and he had a few too many and I was designated driver. I wasn't worried.

My dh still has a couple of beers on a sat night right up till I had the babies but we do live 1.5 miles away from the hospital. I ended up being induced with my first 2 (or late and one early) so obviously he didn’t drink those weekends. I don’t grudge him a couple of beers but no more than that. I am 31 weeks with our third and he will most likely do the same.

We were at a wedding when I was 36 weeks, so after that he stayed under the limit.

We went out for a fancy dinner to celebrate my birthday and maternity leave at 38 weeks. I decided to have a small glass of wine as a treat. He had a small glass so he'd be under the limit. Let me tell you, I enjoyed my small glass a lot more than he enjoyed his, the magic of perspective

We agreed he had to be able to drive from 37 weeks. I wouldn't expect him to give up alcohol earlier in pregnancy any more than I would expect him to avoid soft cheeses it doesn't help me at all and is a totally unnecessary self sacrifice.

In fairness we don't really have wine/beer in the house when I am pregnant as he wouldn't want to drink alone so generally when he drank I wasn't there anyway.

Indeed, @boom45. Reading some of the comments on here is baffling to me. Am I the only person on this thread whose husband can be over the drink-drive limit but still alert, pleasant to be around, and fairly clear-headed?!

Blimey boom i am alert pleasant and responsible over the DD limit! if men got pregnant I wouldn’t even consider giving up

Indeed, @boom45. Reading some of the comments on here is baffling to me. Am I the only person on this thread whose husband can be over the drink-drive limit but still alert, pleasant to be around, and fairly clear-headed?!

DH is still fairly pleasant but I would still expect him to be able to drive. Considering that he would probably get a bit of notice before needing to do that he would be fine to have a two pints over a few hours in an evening but I would pretty unimpressed if he had more than that so he couldn't drive.

what is wrong with some people? What would a drink do?

After one drink my DH is completely useless! Appreciate this is not usual though 😂

It’s not unusual. Is he 13?

Not usual even

Mine is too @YouWhoNeverArrived. #swoon
Like normal people I guess.

I think the not a drop for 9 months brigade are imagining lager louts swigging umpteen tins of tennants before pissing on the floor. Rather than just having maybe a shot of baileys in their coffee after dinner.

Or a glass of wine with dinner. Or a pint with a pub lunch. Some people don’t seem to know anything about alcohol

Can I just point out the only reason to cut it down was that so he could drive. Then I realised a taxi was an option. Something I didn't think about. Trying to plan everything is making my brain mush.
I haven't been tee total. I've enjoyed the odd wine, gin or Guinness during my pregnancy.
The last thing I meant to do with this thread is make out there is anything bad with my DP.

He’s a small man and not a big drinker. I’ve seen 13 year olds handle booze better 😂

YouWhoNeverArrived

My husband has three levels of drinking (he can't drive, so that's a moot point).

One or two. Falls asleep on the sofa. Accounts for 95% of our drinking these days!
Three to six. Gets fairly merry, sociable, but mellow.
(...gap he never falls into)
10 plus. Dances by bending over a lot and raising his pint hand in the air singing loudly. Obnoxious in a 'silly walks/shouting/absurdly following instructions' kind of way. Develops badger breath. Completely immovable until midday at least.

Can't actually remember the last time he did the third, not even on his stag. Still, if he were invited on a stag, I'd want him staying in the second category once it came to the crunch end of pregnancy.

(FWIW, I like to think I'm the second kind of drunk even at 10+ drinks, though apparently I yodel a lot)

He needs some resining crispy 🤣

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