To ask how you paid for your wedding?

[Picklemuncher123]

Fiance proposed to me last August and the aim is to save as much as possible to afford a decent wedding. But it's proving difficult at the moment as other financial emergencies seem to be cropping up.

Did you fund your wedding your selves ? Get a loan ? Parents or family help? How much did it cost in total and can I still have a lovely( by no means big ) wedding on a budget ? Thanks :)

We paid a third, each set of parents paid a third. My parents bought my dress separately. They all wanted to contribute.

Congratulations

I should probably add that we didn't set a budget before we knew how much everyone wanted to contribute. We had a budget and we stuck to it.

we paid 5k for a lovely wedding for 68 people but we could have done it , we saved about £200 monthly from a little before our engagement and i put some on a 0% credit card then paid it off with the savings as we went along. Its about figuring out what's most important to you in a wedding, to use it was having family there and a nice meal, we weren't bothered about a very fancy dress or suit.

We paid for all of it ourselves, although my mum bought my dress. Think we spent about £20k (I’m embarrassed to even write that...) although I must admit we were very lucky and got the same amount back in wedding gifts.

You can definitely have a lovely wedding on a budget though. The best wedding I’ve ever been to was in a marquee in the brides parents garden

My dad paid for the day and my husband paid for the night do!

Parents each paid 2k (4k total) and we worked as much overtime as possible, and saved like crazy to pay the rest.
Total was about 9kish. We did get a loan to pay for the honeymoon though!

We spent about 25k and paid for it ourselves (well, my mum paid a big chunk towards my dress) Back in those days we didn’t have kids to pay for and we both earned good salaries so we managed to save enough in just over a year.

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We paid for the vast majority of it ourselves, by saving up over 2 years and paying off 20% of the venue one month, then 50% of the photographer the next etc... We were also very lucky to be gifted £4000 in total from both sets of parents which was a huge and unexpected help. Plus another family member bought my dress. In total for wedding and honeymoon it cost around £20k which does seem a lot. But we didn't get into debt to pay for it and we had the most amazing day with our family and friends, so we don't regret what we spent at all. The biggest chunk of the money spent went on alcohol and food, and was definitely money well spent.

We were engaged for a year and a half so had quite a while to save up. We already owned our house so it was the only thing we were saving for. My parents paid the deposit for our venue as their present (£1000), my husbands mum paid for the cake and my sister bought me my wedding dress (£500- sale sample 😁). We paid for the rest ourselves and had no debt after the day as we paid everything in advance rather than on credit. Think in total the wedding cost about £8000, although we also had a £4000 honeymoon on top of that (priorities lol).We didn't go overboard with the extras, concentrated of the food and the entertainment rather that bespoke favours etc. Everyone loved the day and I wouldn't change a thing. This was in 2016.

My parents paid. I am very lucky to have parents who could afford to and who wanted to. They had the money and they wouldn't hear of us paying it back.

They still say it was the best day of THEIR lives, and DH and I are still very together after 15 years so we all feel it was money well spent!

We just saved the grand and a half ourselves. No family to "rely" on to give money for a wedding anyway. Would rather pay for it ourselves anyway.

Absolutely do not take out a loan for a party! That is the absolute worst way to start a marriage.

You need to remember that all you need for a wedding is two consenting adults and a registry office fee. Everything else is cream on top. It is an entire industry telling you what you need to do, and what you must have, or you will regret it forever.

One of the best weddings I have ever been to was in a beer garden in a pub, where they had a hog roast roast and cake, and we all played lawn games and had a great time. That wedding must have cost under £2K and it was absolutely lovely. Just focus on having good food, good drinks, and good music. That is all people need to have fun. No one remembers the centrepiece flowers or bridesmaids dresses.

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£50K, we worked and saved! My parents gave us a bit on top.

We had 10 guests. Cost about £500 all in. We wanted to be married. The size and cost of the wedding was mostly irrelevant.

We've had a long engagement 3 years so far, booked wedding for two years time which gives us time to save the rest! We are looking at top budget of 5k all in!

We paid about 20k just dh and I.
We bought a home first , then saved up for a year for the wedding.

We used savings we already had, and saved up a bit more. Ours was "only" £7.5k. Which is a heck of a lot of money, but less than the average wedding! Our families helped out, e.g. my godmother did flowers, my mum bought my dress, and PiL put some cash behind the bar.

Savings - no need to get into debt. The marriage and future should be more relevant than a big party...

I did enjoy mine but I budgeted for everything

We paid about 18k and funded it ourselves, no loans. We didn't get married until our mid 30s so had savings, if we had done it 10years earlier we probably would have scaled it down a lot.

Ours cost around £10k 7yrs ago. Church wedding with 75 daytime guests and an additional 75 joining us in the evening. DM paid 25% (she wanted to pay for my dress, the band, and the guest's transport from church to reception), we paid the rest. Our share was a mix of savings we already had, and paying for things each month out of our salaries. We kept costs down by doing a lot ourselves, pulling in some favours, and not always going for typical 'wedding' choices (eg venue, food etc).

We had our whole wedding for £3,500. We got a Groupon deal for 60 day guests including the wedding venue and wedding night, another 40 for the evening do. All food and drink was included. A friend made a rectangle cake and I laid my bouquet on it for decoration. Bought bridesmaids dresses from Vinted and got the bare minimum flowers. Bought vintage vases as centre pieces with candles in for the tables.
My mum and dad bought my dress, shoes and veil.

We had a short engagement (six months) and we had savings. Dh parents put 5 grand towards wedding. Mine didn't.

Just to say we saved up for the groupon deal and everything else we bought in dribs and drabs when we could afford it.

Paid ourselves. Around 13k. MIL paid for our cake and my parents looked after our DD for us to go on honeymoon. That was the only contributions we had and that's what we wanted. heard too many stories of parents and ILs trying to take over and hold you over a barrel because they paid a chunk of money and we didn't want to risk that. My parents would have been fine ...ILs was a risk .