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To approach a man I see running?

440 replies

messychocolate · 22/05/2019 14:33

I go for a run every Saturday morning and I quite regularly see a man who is also running. A few weeks ago he was wearing shorts and I admit I probably did look him up and down when we passed each other and I think he saw this. I then gave him a little smile, which most people do when they pass each other. When we passed each other a second time I think he wiped his sweat off and adjusted himself just before we got to each other.

Fast forward a couple of weeks and when I saw him next I looked down as I was a bit embarrassed to be honest but just as we passed, I looked up at him and he was smiling at me.

Anyway, he is good looking and for some reason I am really drawn to him. Obviously I know nothing about him or his relationship status but AIBU to try and flirt, or say something to him, try and attract his attention etc? What should I do?

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Ticklingcheese · 22/05/2019 16:34

Not ball gown - wedding dress

GlacindaTheTroll · 22/05/2019 16:35

"Why do YOu need to do the chasing?"

Because if a male runner started (literally) chasing a female runner along a railway track, he'd be seen as a creepy pest?

teyem · 22/05/2019 16:38

Yell, "What are you running from?!"

Nottheduchess · 22/05/2019 16:43

trip and go down heavily on him...
That’s a bit forward, OP doesn’t even know his name yet and there may be people around!

DoxxedFox · 22/05/2019 16:49

teyem 😂

Hefuckingknowsit · 22/05/2019 17:03

This thread has absolutely made my day 😂

Original poster
messychocolate · 22/05/2019 17:04

Hopefully I will see him Saturday morning... but trying to time it so that we both are at the same place at the same time to run "together" would be near impossible!

These ideas are amazing though... 😆

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Justsocross · 22/05/2019 17:14

My husband says is he hay ? Youngest son says run in front of him then have to stop to do your laces up so he has a nice view of your bum !!!!!

User3billion · 22/05/2019 17:15

This almost makes me want to go running... Almost. 😂

AssangesCat · 22/05/2019 17:22

I've been passing the same man at the same time in the same place for three years when I leave work. He always smiles/waves. At first I thought I knew him. I now realize I only know him from passing him in the street. Last week I was in short sleeved top for the first time in at least 6 months and as we passed he said "Looking good". Conveniently I start a new job in less than three weeks and will then never see him again.

snowflakeeel · 22/05/2019 17:29

Do you carry a bottle? As he passes you could stop for a swig with one of the previously mentioned cheesy lines taped to the bottle. If he's game he might have a comeback for you following Saturday. A fun way to break the ice. Love this thread!

Greenfield19 · 22/05/2019 17:37

@AssangesCat is he good looking? Would you go there?

LeslieKnope2020 · 22/05/2019 17:39

AssangesCat you have to stop him and say goodbye! Three years is a long time to wave to someone.

OP when you next see runner I would turn around, catch up with him amd then say with a cheeky grin 'race you' and then sprint off. You'll both come to a stop soon enough and a natural lighthearted conversation will flow.

FancyAPint · 22/05/2019 17:45

Ask him 'oh do I recognise you? you aren't on Tinder are you?!' - good way to find out if he is single but try and look to see if if he a ring on, he'll at least laugh and it'll break the ice. Failing that suddenly twist your ankle as he approaches, better still do both.

DoxxedFox · 22/05/2019 17:47

Tell him you’ve been talking to hundreds of strangers about him then follow him and laugh maniacally.

iwantanewusername · 22/05/2019 17:51

The suggestions here are hilarious.

It also reminds me of a time when I was commuting to London and always sat next to the same (hot) man. I used to fall asleep on the train and am pretty sure my head would fall on his shoulder whilst asleep Blush!

Never had the courage to say anything but the sleeping on his shoulder happened a few times I think. One time another guy was going to sit next to me, but then changed his mind, the cute guy moved from where he was sitting to sit next to me and we still never said anything to one another.

Eventually we moved on to smiling at each other and saying hello but that was it. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had spoken up!

MissConductUS · 22/05/2019 17:54

I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had spoken up!

Some men need a bit of a push due to fear of rejection, lack of confidence or just ordinary shyness. I know from experience that it can work out very nicely if you make that first move.

Pinotjo · 22/05/2019 18:01

Pop a boob out, that'll do it, I don't do subtle Smile

itneverrainsitpours · 22/05/2019 18:07

Pop a boob out 🤣🤣🤣

ScurrilousSquirrel · 22/05/2019 18:11

I find this thread a bit creepy. If a man was going to interrupt a woman mid-run, he'd be a creep. Would you approach him if he were walking round the supermarket, say, or flag him down while he was pushing his lawnmower around his garden?

Original poster
messychocolate · 22/05/2019 18:14

Squirrel don't be ridiculous. If no one ever approached anyone, everyone would be single! It's got to start somewhere.

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iwantanewusername · 22/05/2019 18:18

MissConductUS you're right, unfortunately at the time (and now come to think of it), I lacked confidence myself and didn't want it confirmed that I was reading into it.

FrustratedTeddyLamp · 22/05/2019 18:22

To be fair your right OP but the pp is right that it would be seen as creepy if reversed. Women all the time moan about men just approaching them

MeltedEggMum · 22/05/2019 18:35

There is an imbalanced power dynamic, though. A man won't be afraid a woman could hurt him if she approaches uninvited. The situations can't be reversed with the same possible consequences.

Ticklingcheese · 22/05/2019 18:36

doxxedfox has it 🤣

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