To approach a man I see running?

[messychocolate]

I go for a run every Saturday morning and I quite regularly see a man who is also running. A few weeks ago he was wearing shorts and I admit I probably did look him up and down when we passed each other and I think he saw this. I then gave him a little smile, which most people do when they pass each other. When we passed each other a second time I think he wiped his sweat off and adjusted himself just before we got to each other.

Fast forward a couple of weeks and when I saw him next I looked down as I was a bit embarrassed to be honest but just as we passed, I looked up at him and he was smiling at me.

Anyway, he is good looking and for some reason I am really drawn to him. Obviously I know nothing about him or his relationship status but AIBU to try and flirt, or say something to him, try and attract his attention etc? What should I do?

Run after him. Literally chase him.

Some of these suggestions are just brilliant! Go for it OP and keep us informed 😜

Find somewhere to sit or stretch en route, if he is interested, he would stop, gives you a chance to look for ring or ring marks.

Alright, first you never know whether he's attached. There's a bloke who 'run flirts' with me on my runs (first smiling, then a small wave, now a good morning and a big grin, I swear he's changed his time as well). I'm extremely happily married.

I would do what Run Flirt Man has done, escalate your contact. And then, in a few weeks, have an 'issue' with your shoe. Take it off and massage your foot in a concerned manner. Fake some cramp or something. If he stops and is nice, bingo. If not, he's a dickhead because it's nice to check.

he might think I'm looking at something else!

That is affectionately known in these parts as "boaby swatching" and could be seen as creepy

At least I know this Mystery Man isn't my DH - neither of us run. Ever. In fact, if you see either of us running you should probably run too because something terrible is coming

“Your wife’s on mumsnet”

That actually made me laugh.

I’m pretty sure it’s NOT my dh, when he’s running he wouldn’t notice anything except his garmin telling him his pace. But he doesn’t wear a ring so don’t count on that as meaning anything.

He certainly doesn't zoom past he at the same speed as some men. He has more footballers legs 😀 and he is older than me. I'm 35, I'd say he is mid 40s ish, very sexy though.

Not zooming doesn't mean he's unfit. Could do more long distance training and go for slow and steady. I'd say go for it. I use to pass a cyclist I really liked the look of from time to time but I never got my act together enough to ask him out and do wonder what might have happened.

On the other hand I now have a bf so Mr Cute Cyclist is history anyway. As it happens bf runs, but not along old railway lines, so we're good on that one.

@AryaStarkWolf exactly what I was thinking!!!!

My ex runs along some old railways lines, id run faster in opposite direction if i were u, hes a twat doubt its him though cause hes rather tubby and not at all sexy

Find somewhere to sit or stretch en route, if he is interested, he would stop, gives you a chance to look for ring or ring marks.

Totally misread that as "look for a ring or stretch marks".

Screw subtle, just lasso him with a rope made of artfully tied trainer laces as he unzooms past.

Hide your Fitbit, wait for him, pretend you're looking for it when he comes along. Hopefully he'll stop. Let chatting up commence.

Why are women worried it might be their husband? Surely if he's approached when out he'll just say 'sorry I'm married/attached' and keep on running?

Deffo not my husband lazy sod.

I'd coincide one of the runs as well

Good luck, nowt to lose and all that jazz

Perhaps we should all agree to have our dhs ear tatooed, like we used to with our pets. So much easier.

Stretch marks 🤣.

Is he having this kind of chat over on another forum or down the pub with his mates?

If he is interested, I'd assume he'd stop and try to chat.

Why do YOu need to do the chasing?

My ex is generally very chatty and would chat to lots of customers at his workplace. On the first valentines day after we started dating he got a balloon delivery that said things like "we chat a lot, we smile at each other" etc and left a number. My ex didn't know who the sender was by name as he never remembered names. So he rang her to thank her and said he was in a relationship. She never showed up at his workplace again. Have a contingency route planned just in case!

In my running club being in a relationship doesn't seem to stop some from shagging around. Since I've been single I've had all manner of offers from attached men. Don't know what sort of woman they think I am.

If he is interested, I'd assume he'd stop and try to chat.

Old railway lines, lone woman, I'd hope he wouldn't 'stop and chat' if he is a man who understands the crap women endure on a regular.

Hence why she has to net him, check for the ear tattoo and go from there.

Write out your name and phone number on a slip of paper.

As he passes, say loudly "Oh, you've dropped this! " press it into his hand and carry on running.

Not sure our advice would be the same, if it was a reverse 😂.

Umm does he have a beard?

You have nothing to loose , go for it

trip and go down heavily on him

Love these!!! Imagining OP in a ball gown and heels chasing the object of her desire...

When will you see him next, Messy?

Get a cramp in your leg and see if he stops to help you stretch it out...