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To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?

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AyeReet · 21/05/2019 23:11

I don't think it's even slightly healthy or appropriate to be discussing your sex toys with a young child no matter how you dress it up as being progressive or empowering Confused

Am I utterly prudish and Victorian or is that a bit... off? I'm fond of my vibrators but like fuck would I leave them drying in the bathroom or tell my young children what I use them for!

To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?
To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?
To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?
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ElizaPancakes · 21/05/2019 23:14

Not even in the slightest bit unreasonable, that is grooming as far as I'm concerned. It's normal to talk to your child about healthy relationships and the actual mechanics of making babies - talking about actual sex for pleasure is not.

Granted this sounds more like some woke arsehole, but it's still not appropriate at all.

Etino · 21/05/2019 23:16

Yep, grooming. SS would be very interested.

Baskerville · 21/05/2019 23:18

Source of this —made up— conversation between sexually adventurous dad and well-informed child?

HollowTalk · 21/05/2019 23:19

There is so much wrong with this that I wouldn't know where to start.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 21/05/2019 23:19

I would take this with a massive pinch of salt. How old is said child? Would they really understand the expression ‘prosthetic penis’?

fecketyfeck21 · 21/05/2019 23:20

how would a child that age know the word prosthetic mean ?? where did you see the comment ?

KittensinaBlender · 21/05/2019 23:20

Talking in generalities is one thing. Talking to your child about the specifics of your own sex life... gross, weird and worryingly unboundaried.

LewisFan · 21/05/2019 23:22

It'd twitch my safeguarding radar... gross.

BogglesGoggles · 21/05/2019 23:23

Prosthetic penis? I’m assuming a dildo? I don’t know. Surely that goes a bit beyond the standardised kind of sex that kids need to hear about. Surely kinks shouldn’t be actively discussed with kids at all?

Menarefrommarsitwouldseem · 21/05/2019 23:24

Where did you see this?

But you're not BU. Just eurhhh

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AyeReet · 21/05/2019 23:24

Source is a "queer blogger" - a trans man (I think I've got that right) who obviously doesn't have their own penis so has some prosthetic ones.

Maybe they made it all up, I don't know, but I do know that the author is sharing it on FB and Twitter and is perfectly identifiable so clearly doesn't have a problem with it. From their perspective it's amazing and honest and open and an example to us all on how to discuss sex with our DC Hmm I've got FB friends sharing it with heart emojis FFS and don't quite know how to say, WTF are you all mad??

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Baskerville · 21/05/2019 23:29

Honestly, it has ‘largely invented sexually-open-minded virtue-signalling anecdote’ written all over it.

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ArcheryAnnie · 21/05/2019 23:30

Answering questions in an age-appropriate way and being open about sex in general with your kids: great.

Telling a kid about your own sex life. and showing them your sex toys: no no no no no no no. Totally creepy and weird.

Pipandmum · 21/05/2019 23:31

Why would anyone share that? Sounds fake to me.

ArcheryAnnie · 21/05/2019 23:31

(But I don't believe it happened, either.)

PregnantSea · 21/05/2019 23:33

Totally inappropriate. Very creepy.

If it makes you better, though, I'm fairly certain that this conversation never happened. It has "and everyone on the bus clapped" written all over it.

Mummyoflittledragon · 21/05/2019 23:38

That’s gross. It doesn’t sound remotely like the sort of thing a woman, who became a transmale would say. Sounds more like a perverted natal male.

calpoppincalpol · 21/05/2019 23:48

It's probably just made up by some old perv

Fiveredbricks · 21/05/2019 23:48

Didn't happen. Virtue signalling.

Chescasacuriousstudent · 22/05/2019 00:05

The way it reads screams 'fake'. I can't believe this is a real convo anyone would have with a child, Trans, 'woke' or not. No child speaks like that. It's probably been made up to create a stir online. Hopefully anyway.

DilliDingDillyDong · 22/05/2019 00:45

Bullshit.

MashedSpud · 22/05/2019 00:56

It’s either some sickos fantasy or very disturbing......both either way. Sex devices/toys shouldn’t be left out for kids to see.

Freudianslip1 · 22/05/2019 01:46

When I was in primary school (approx Y2/3) there was a family who thought they were so progressive and on a playdate at their house once the mum announced that her and the dad were going upstairs for 'massage time' and they shouldn't be disturbed. My friend very casually asked if they were going to have sex and I nearly had heart failure and the mum went very smug and said yes, but it was important that she didn't tell anyone outside the house this, as most parent/children did not have the special bond that they did Hmm. It felt very wrong and I still feel sick thinking about it.
My stepmu m left out her bag of sex toys very much on purpose when I was about 14. She thought she was very progressive whilst I thought she was weirdo.

PissOffPeppa · 22/05/2019 02:09

It obviously didn’t happen. I don’t believe it’s virtue signalling either. It’s specifically been written to shock people.

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