To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?

[AyeReet]

I don't think it's even slightly healthy or appropriate to be discussing your sex toys with a young child no matter how you dress it up as being progressive or empowering

Am I utterly prudish and Victorian or is that a bit... off? I'm fond of my vibrators but like fuck would I leave them drying in the bathroom or tell my young children what I use them for!

Find me a child that knows the word prosthetic (unless they have a prosthetic limb themselves). Not sure what age they would know it, as a teen maybe

How creepy. I've just had a look at her page. She is also the parent of a non binary eight year old, and a "ante gender theyby"

Sometimes you can be a bit too open and liberal with your children.

No child ever wants to have any knowledge of their parent's sex life. Ew.

I think their theybies will grow up to be very strait laced bank managers

God I’m sorry I looked at their profile... those poor children

Sounds invented to me. Would a child know the words 'prosthetic penis'?

I don't think at any age I would be comfortable seeing one of my parents sex toys drying out in the bathroom there is no aspect of my parents sex life that I need to be made aware of! I don't think it matters if this is true or not it's creeped me out! My DC know the names of their private parts, never to keep a touch secret and how babies grow and where they come out of they aren't mature enough to understand sex yet my DS will be taught at school the basics of reproduction in a couple of years and if he has any questions I'll be happy to talk about it but I don't intend to divulge any information about my own sex life or start getting sex toys out to show him the poor boy would be mortified!!

"Ante gender theyby"? What the fuck is this made up obfuscating bullshit? Do they mean they've got a young kid and they're not telling the world what sex it is (because they're so woke and right on and this is not at all a badge of their wokeness and right-on-ness rather than an actual life they're in danger of fucking up here with their batshit crazy rabbit hole ideology)?

Thinking it’s fine to have chatty conversations with your children about your sex toys and sex life is troubling.

Thinking it’s not only fine, but in fact progressive and moral and the only people who don’t like it must think sex should only be between a man and a woman for baby-making purposes, is even more troubling.

Who benefits from safeguarding being seen as prudishness? Not children.

‘Ante gender theyby’ = ‘I’m going to pretend not to know what sex my child is, and also pretend that the kind of body they have won’t have any material effects on their life after babyhood’.

I loathe the way that the world of babies and young children is hyper-gendered, but closing your eyes and wishing sex away won’t make it stop.

I doubt that actually happened and if it did, it’s so creepy and weird. No young child should know what a dildo is.

To those doubting the use of the word 'prosthetic', my 3 year old watches "Maddie's Do You Know" on Cbeebies on almost constant loop, including the episode on prosthetic limbs, and is fascinated by the subject. That is not the unbelievable thing about this facebook update.

I’m also in the group that believe it didn’t really happy but that doesn’t mean it isn’t genuinely disturbing. I feel really sorry for the kids in this set-up.

That's making me angry. I was going to put irrationally but I don't think it is!

What could possibly be helpful for a young child to know about this stuff?

I get talking about death- it's inevitable and they'll have to face it in their personal lives at some point.

I also get basic understanding of how relationships and making babies work (sperm fertilised egg, people get married and have babies when they love each other etc). Again theyllneed that information.

But how is sex toy knowledge going to be necessary in primary school?

Not only that but you are normalising sexual content to a child. Said child will think sex talk with people of their age is normal which leads them in a higher chance of abuse and then if they are abused, they will think it's normal.

Not to mention they are speaking about her specific child. Honestly I just can't see how others can't see that.

FWIW I'm fairly liberal. I don't automatically dislike trans people, I support age appropriate sex education in primary and I question if cannabis should be legalised but this is just ridiculous.

Made up. What child uses a word like “prosthetic”?

What the fuckity-shit is a "they-by"!?

I agree that it's normal to teach your DC about sex, my DC know age appropriate details which we can build on a d fill in the blanks as they get older and ask more questions. Eldest is 9yo and recently asked if gay people have sex ("gay" and "bummer" are the latest 'cool' insults at school so he had questions around both terms) then asked why they bother having sex if they can't make babies from it so we explained that couples have sex to feel close to one another as well as to make babies. He was thoroughly disgusted and said he's glad DH and I only did it to make him and the other DC I left it there and certainly didn't push the issue or tell him that actually his dad and I throw down on the regular because why would anyone do that?

If the conversation did actually happen then it's highly inappropriate and the parent obviously cares more about being woke than they do about their child not needing to know such intimate details.

Utter rubbish,that conversation so didn't happen!

A penis prosthetic is not necessarily a 'sex toy'.

Children shouldn't be told people only have babies when they're 'in love', that's how you end up with pregnant 12 year olds who thought love was a necessary component before getting pregnant.

"They-by" is a term used to describe a child raised without gender expectation. It's not something I'd do personally, but I see no bother in it. Doesn't hurt anyone, the child just chooses (or doesn't choose if they identify as enby) when they want to. I honestly don't understand why people get so hysterical about it.

The thing is, you never need to tell your children that you’ve had sex because they can work that out themselves by just giving them general info about healthy relationships, how babies are made etc.

Boundaries and privacy are not only fine but essential. There is no “value added” by your child knowing what kind of dildo you choose to use and when.

That I can agree with Kittens!

I agree with a pp that if this child goes and repeats this sort of conversation to others there might be trouble. I think it raises serious safeguarding issues. A child is not something on which to practise one's wokeness. In fact this is far from wokeness and is downright perviness.

What child wants to talk about their parents having sex?
I had The Conversation with oldest dd when she was about 9. After a bit she asked ‘Do you and Dad have sex?’ I paused then said ‘Do you really want to know?’ There was a very very long pause while a look of horror grew on her face, then ‘NO’.

Re children finding the whole business yuck, I remember a friend whose dd of 7 or 8 had just been told by another child about where babies came from. This was quite a while ago and we were living abroad, where there was no sex ed. in primary school.

Friend was peeling potatoes when her dd said what she'd heard about the mechanics of making a baby. Was it true?

Friend: (thinking oh Lord, what a time to pick). 'Well, yes, it is.'

Dd. 'Oh. Did you and Daddy do that to get me?'

Friend: 'Well, yes, we did.'

Dd. 'Oh.' (Long pause). 'EEEEUUUUUUUURRRRCH !!!

Not appropriate at all. Children don’t need to know graphic details about sex. It’s fine for children of all ages to know that some people are LGBT and not every family has a mum and dad and that’s ok but this level of detail about any sex (including heterosexual) is just not needed.

I thought it sounded like bollocks but, after reading this article on the family in question, I'm not so sure.

A 'prosthetic penis' that has been used during sex is a dildo ie erect. Showing a child an erect penis is abuse/grooming, whether it is real or not