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To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?

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AyeReet · 21/05/2019 23:11

I don't think it's even slightly healthy or appropriate to be discussing your sex toys with a young child no matter how you dress it up as being progressive or empowering Confused

Am I utterly prudish and Victorian or is that a bit... off? I'm fond of my vibrators but like fuck would I leave them drying in the bathroom or tell my young children what I use them for!

To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?
To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?
To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?
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somecakefather · 22/05/2019 17:48

One of the comments on that post is really disturbing. Apparently we should be telling young kids that sex is fun.

InspectorClouseauMNdivision · 22/05/2019 17:49

It's like that
"Mummy. Wolfs die, everyone dies, but words never do. Words stay forever as our love does. My 4 year old who is much smarter than me" bullshit postsGrin
Absolutely no doubt these type of posts are NOT real.

AhhhHereItGoes · 22/05/2019 17:57

@somecakefather I wonder what agenda they could possibly have.

somecakefather · 22/05/2019 18:00

I wonder what agenda they could possibly have

Angry And to be so blatant about it too.

Historydweeb · 22/05/2019 18:10

Unspeakably grim, and damaging to a child as they try to unravel what the fucking hell is going on. SS should have involvement or is this the way our society is headed? If it is then stop the world I want to get off Sad

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 22/05/2019 18:35

I looked at that article.

Quote: "Hazel has today learned about drag thanks to Queer Kid Stuff! After years of seeming to avoid masculine clothes they begged we go to get them a drag costume, and this is what they excitedly picked out!"

The eight-year-old? child is wearing what I suppose are Bermuda shorts and a shirt, with flip-flops.

Why are these "queer"? Would a female child not wear them, or something? They look just like kids' clothes to me, but I bet the name of the shop means they cost three times as much as the same thing from an ordinary store would. It is only a "drag costume" if it's appropriate to only one sex (presumably male?) and is being worn by the other.

So are all females who wear shorts on a hike "in drag"?

Gah!

KittensinaBlender · 22/05/2019 18:42

For one, isn’t drag supposed to be an over the top representation of the sex stereotypes of the opposite sex?

And for two, I thought Hazel is non-binary and there neither male or female (or both male and female - not sure on the distinction). How can someone who is neither wear drag because by definition they don’t have an “opposite” to drag up as? oh God it’s all such nonsense

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 22/05/2019 18:47

‘Some people’ are binary enough to procreate...

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AyeReet · 22/05/2019 21:10

Well you can't non-binary your way out of biology it would seem Hmm

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Rottielottie · 22/05/2019 21:12

Urgh absolutely disgusting
It’s so absurd, I hope it’s fake

Wauden · 22/05/2019 21:29

Having seen the link above, these three parent people go on about their children's genitalia and sexual orientation.
Tells you all you need to know.

InfiniteCurve · 22/05/2019 21:36

Um,if older child is 8, do your 8 year olds not know how sex happens? In a basic mechanics type way?
I'm not sure exactly what I think here but I'd had a bilateral mastectomy by the time DS was 8, which led to quite a few conversations about my boobs,or lack of them - including a loud conversation about what I'd do with my prostheses while we went swimming,in the queue at the swimming pool...( DS - stop.talking.now...) .Because he knew I wore them,or not,depending on mood and situation.And he had seen them,it was just part of life.
So that original conversation sounds like a basic factual conversation about something that happens in that family - "Daddy" wears this thing,it gets washed,end of.No graphic details beyond that at all,nothing specific about sex.
( I can see it might not be - but that's how it read to me.)

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AyeReet · 22/05/2019 21:41

InfiniteCurve the author actually says they told their child "I used it when I was having sex" though...

Anyway someone else has mentioned on my FB friends share of this post, that they think it's oversharing and not necessary to tell this to children. My FB friend has responded saying it's no different to telling them why you have condoms or tampons.

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PookieDo · 22/05/2019 21:46

Well it is different to tampons as they are not sex toys
I am very bemused by that correlation. Ok I suppose they go into your sex organ but they are for menstruation which is a biological function and not a sex act

InfiniteCurve · 22/05/2019 21:47

But that's one of the things you do with a penis,surely?
And that is a statement of fact,its not a graphic description of what you might do with various bits during sex.
I'm not sure it is any different from talking about tampons.
And making you children aware in passing that you have sex isn't the same as telling them what you do. IMO.

augustusglupe · 22/05/2019 21:52

Is that a real conversation or has someone made it up?
I don’t think I’m easily shocked, but I’m lost for words Shock

FannyWork · 22/05/2019 22:07

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RubberTreePlant · 23/05/2019 00:26

Did you say something rooted in biological reality Fanny? Grin

wafflyversatile · 23/05/2019 00:40

Possibly fake. But seems pretty matter of fact to me.

Don't see an issue but hardly surprised to see mumsnet getting in a tiz.

SamanthaBrique · 23/05/2019 06:44

Yes, silly mothers clutching their pearls Hmm Surely the answer to give to the child's question is "because I washed it" and then stop there?

Here's a picture of the whole family. The woman is the one with the beard...

To find this reported conversation with a child rather disturbing, or am I a massive old prude?
gamerwidow · 23/05/2019 06:58

I'm not sure exactly what I think here but I'd had a bilateral mastectomy by the time DS was 8, which led to quite a few conversations about my boobs,or lack of them - including a loud conversation about what I'd do with my prostheses while we went swimming,in the queue at the swimming pool...( DS - stop.talking.now...)
I think that’s different though, in the same way that I wouldn’t expect someone to hide a prosthetic limb.
It’s the fact it’s a sex toy that makes it too much. Maybe I am bring prudish but I wouldn’t expect parents to leave penis pumps or vibrators lying around on the side either. Nothing wrong with them and nothing to be ashamed off just too much for young children.

thornyhousewife · 23/05/2019 10:37

I would hope for this child's sake that they are getting lots of support from adults outside their home and that their mum gets the help she needs.

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