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Original poster

Would you take the train up to your dd at university to give her cash?

117 replies

EleanorReally · 21/05/2019 08:34

She seems to have no working bank card,
the app on her phone has only just installed and therefore doesnt work
of course by the time i can get there , this weekend, she may well be ok
should I suggest dh go?

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AlwaysCheddar · 21/05/2019 08:35

How far is it?

BigSandyBalls2015 · 21/05/2019 08:35

How far is it? Can’t she go to a bank?

Makemeaname · 21/05/2019 08:35

Can she not go into a branch and withdraw some?

BigSandyBalls2015 · 21/05/2019 08:35

I thought the bank app would work straight away if you knew all the security details?

Daffodil2018 · 21/05/2019 08:35

How long is the journey? Unless it’s nearby, I probably wouldn’t. Part of being a student and moving out of home is about learning to be independent. As long as she’s got food to eat she’ll cope until she gets her bank card sorted.

Sparklingbrook · 21/05/2019 08:36

She can go into the bank and get cash.

pickingdaisies · 21/05/2019 08:36

Can't you just transfer some money into her account?

BlueSkiesLies · 21/05/2019 08:36

Nah. She can go into a bank branch of her bank, with photo ID and withdraw.

SolitudeAtAltitude · 21/05/2019 08:36

She can go to bank with ID

Original poster
EleanorReally · 21/05/2019 08:37

thats what i thought, it is part of being a student. she rung me yesterday as the banks had closed and she wanted coffee.
i imagine dh wont go.
and she can go to the bank in the day time.
thanks all

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Lweji · 21/05/2019 08:37

This is why banks still have branches open.

pickingdaisies · 21/05/2019 08:37

Ignore me, brain not engaged yet.

Original poster
EleanorReally · 21/05/2019 08:37

its about 2 hours

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LizzieSiddal · 21/05/2019 08:38

Does she have a fiend at uni? If so I would transfer money to the friend, then friend can take it out of their bank account and give it you your DD.

I have done this several times when DD has lost her bank card.

Original poster
EleanorReally · 21/05/2019 08:39

have you lizzie?
not just my dd who behaves like this.
what a learning curve.

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NameChangeMcgee · 21/05/2019 08:39

Wait - you are going to go up so she can get coffee? She needs to learn how to sort this for herself.

ShatnersWig · 21/05/2019 08:39

she rung me yesterday as the banks had closed and she wanted coffee

Diddums.

Ohyesiam · 21/05/2019 08:39

Coffee?

LizzieSiddal · 21/05/2019 08:40

Yes, unfortunately.

She grew up eventually (23) 😂

Original poster
EleanorReally · 21/05/2019 08:41

and food, its her last week which doesnt help

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RottnestFerry · 21/05/2019 08:42

Why not take a cup of coffee up to her.

Perhaps some biscuits too.

ssd · 21/05/2019 08:42

I wouldn't take the train for 2 hours so my dd could have coffee, when she could get it the next day the banks are open. If she expected you to do this I don't think you've brought her up right.

Original poster
EleanorReally · 21/05/2019 08:43

mine has one more year until she is 23 Lizzie,

fingers crossed Grin

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Original poster
EleanorReally · 21/05/2019 08:44

i didnt offer to go folks , it obviously just wasnt the coffee, just concerned about her lack of funds, but as has been pointed out, the banks are open today,

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ssd · 21/05/2019 08:44

Food is different from just coffee, but of a drip feed there.