To want to go up to a woman snorting cocain, who suspects she is pregnant,

[MrsScavo]

grab it off her,flush it down the toilet and tell her she's an idiot?

OMG I only drink peppermint tea.

It explains why DC are minty fresh with a green aura

sorry,it was just amphetamine use

i wasnt saying it was a bad thing,its just i remembered reading it when i read the op.

so the fact that ds1 likes kylie minogue is my fault?i went off coffee...i thought it would be ok...how can i ever live with myself now??

Peachy. Of course it's not a bad thing!

I've got four boys and, TBH, it would be quite nice to have someone to go shopping with.....

diva. I suggest a slow withdrawal from Kylie to....Amy Winehouse?

I can indeed go shopping with ds1 LOL- he likes me indresses and my hair dark

At school he is a ladies man but tbh I think its so he can talk about their dresses LOL

Typically he's genuinely beautiful, blue eyes and blonde ringlets, and gets lots of attention already

peachy-how old is your ds?

skidoodle, there is no confusion. Women in Ireland have the right to travel for an abortion or for any other purpose.

If I saw ANYONE snorting cocaine, I would flush thier head down the toilet

Its vile.

-what if they have a gun?

You can feel it just don't act on it, one day there will be too many people on the earth to sustain anyway...

ok diva [ but really the general acceptance of the use of hard drugs just makes me so angry

Chocolatepeanut: recreational drug use is not always disastrous. Many people take drugs recreationally in their late teens/twenties, then cut down drastically or stop altogether later on when they get good jobs/want to procreate.
ANd unless you abstain from caffeine. alcohol, nicotine and sugar, you have no right to pronounce on which chemicals others consume for pleasure or stress relief. Because they're all drugs and just because something's illegal doesn't necessarily make it wrong.

yada

i don't understand how anyone who's been through college could not have tried most drugs (bar some opiates or crack cocaine). it's just an experience of growing up round my neck of the woods. if you like it do it if you don't fine. but i've never understood the preachy attitude to recreational drugs.

ive been right through college, never done drugs, drank like a fish (well you have to dont you!) but was always too scared of messing with my mind to do drugs. None of my friends did either. Must be a pretty rough woods you live in Mr Man. (I bet the builders are shite too!

well if you call blackrock rough, then yep i'm tough as nails

When I was at university I didn't drink alcohol, people seemed to do a lot of stuff when drunk they wouldn't have done otherwise.

Did sample a few spliffs though

what a load of old tosh

I accept that some folk have had the odd spliff but cocaine and other hard stuff???

Sorry you cannot compare this to having a can of pepsi or eating too many cakes.

Cocaine is vile and if you take it your bloody mad

Well I have known people who took cocaine sometimes, for a while, then stopped. Taking it made them rather tedious but seems to have done no lasting harm. Just as some people have a glass of sherry on Christmas day, others rip it up on red bull and tequila every friday night for years then get all domesticated - and some develop alcoholism. Not everybody who consumes a substance for the purposes of having fun ends up with a severe problem.

i agree madamez.most people i knew when growing up tried other substances.i have taken speed in the past,and loads of my friends did e's,trips etc.most went on to get good jobs etc.and i have known loads of people,as an adult,who used cocaine at weekends the same as i used to go out for a drink at weekends.

otoh,i consider smack to be vile,and have never known anybody use that in a recreational way.

as sad as it sounds i think i would try and talk to her when she was sober and advise a termination. she is in no way fit to raise a child.

her argument may be that the stress of possibly being pregnant drove her to use a class A drug.....how much stress does she think a baby brings? will she use whilst she is meant to be careing for a newborn?

when will people realise that raising a child is a privelage not a right.
pregnancy leads to an actual child, not a doll. you cannot just sit back and behave in any way you wish and then sort it out once baby arrives...its too late by then.

i really cannot see how anyone can find a position to defend here.

de drugs as "social" we will always have a drug probnlem in this country.

all drugs are vile. uit is not the drugs potency that causes an addiction it is the individuals ability to limit the use....or rather will power to refuse altogether.

Not read whole thread so sorry if I'm repeating....

I don't think YABU for thinking what you did but unless this woman is a very close friend I think you would be well out of order for telling her this. Don't get me wrong - I too would be incredibly shocked and feel that she is being stupid and reckless with the health of her baby. But its for her to decide this not you. Even if she is a close friend I think all you can do is tell her how you feel once and then you have to let her get on with it if that is what she wants to do.