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Original poster

To not tell the bride and groom?

139 replies

AmazingGrace16 · 19/05/2019 04:58

Maid of honour and best man here. Wedding starting at 3pm although obviously we've both got bits to do before then.
We've both come down with a tummy bug. It's not so horrific that it's constant... we've had one episode each.

Do we tell the bride and groom? I'm thinking no and just crack on unless it bubbles up again. But AIBU?

We've got two girls who seem fine too....

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Bigfanofcheese · 19/05/2019 11:47

I would let the b&g know in case you have to make a dash for it or any guests are immunocompromised that you dont know about. If you feel well enough to go ahead, tell them so, but do keep them in the loop and give them the chance to stand you down.

UnicornBrexit · 19/05/2019 11:48

Its probably nerves

Pomfluff · 19/05/2019 11:52

I would not have wanted sick guests at my wedding and definitely preferred them to stay home, even if it had been moh and best man. Though one of my best friends was very annoyed when 2 guests cancelled on the morning of her wedding due to the woman having diarrhea. To each their own!

Haggisfish · 19/05/2019 11:54

NHS homeopathy stopped now as it is just water and flim flam. www.bbc.com/news/health-43373817

NauseousMum · 19/05/2019 11:55

I don't believe in homeopathy but the homeopathic hospital (now rebranded) was always also for personalised and tailored biological medicines too. Ones that require specific dosage and concentration different from the standard. So it's not all crap.

FancyAPint · 19/05/2019 12:06

No or barely any food (only plain stodge no dairy), imodium and hand sanitiser , not a word!

Original poster
AmazingGrace16 · 19/05/2019 12:14

B very stressed. We haven't told her.
We've told G who is keeping it quiet for now.
No more episodes so far just painful tum X

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southernsoftiestuckooopnorth · 19/05/2019 12:25

@NauseousMum homeopathy is indeed all crap. That hospital provides other complimentary therapies. But not homeopathy anymore for good reason.

TheInvisibleMrsCrane · 19/05/2019 12:36

Water does not have a memory! Homeopathy doesn't work - it's great for taking money off the gullible though.

Ittakes2 - you just got over the stomach upset - the same as everybody else gets over a stomach bug.

grumiosmum · 19/05/2019 12:58

Homeopathy can be an effective placebo.

That's all.

constantcaller · 19/05/2019 14:18

Did you go op?

SauvignonBlanche · 19/05/2019 14:29

One episode of diarrhoea does not necessarily mean you have a tummy bug.
Hope all goes well and that you don’t waste any money on homeopathic nonsense.

AuntMarch · 19/05/2019 14:40

One episode I'd put down to food or nerves tbh- fingers crossed that's all it was!

kikibo · 19/05/2019 15:23

Food poisoning can manifest as either diarrhoea or vomiting or both. Depending on the person.

If there's only one episode, it's likely that. Or nerves. A bug would likely not strike at exactly the same time either.

Don't get overdramatic about it. Just go. It'll have likely cleared up by tomorrow.
If the children get ill too, though, I'd be concerned it's a bug, unless they ate the same as you.

Original poster
AmazingGrace16 · 19/05/2019 16:22

We went! Both have headaches and dh has been sick again but now is heaps better
Think it may have been food as other wedding party suggested they felt iffy too

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Pud2 · 19/05/2019 17:01

Good for you for going. Hope you enjoyed yourself.

PonderingPanda · 20/05/2019 06:42

How can it be the wedding food if you felt ill before the wedding?

CupoTeap · 20/05/2019 07:03

That's good then, hope the bride and groom had a great day

Catchingbentcoppers · 20/05/2019 07:06

I hope the bride and groom had a great day. And don't spent the next few days throwing up or sitting on the loo.

ineedaholidaynow · 20/05/2019 07:23

Did some of the wedding party have a meal together the night before?

I don’t necessarily think it was great that you went if your DH was sick again. Fingers crossed no-one else gets it.

StealthPolarBear · 20/05/2019 07:59

Food poisoning can be contagious so the "it might be something you ate" comments were fairly odd.

MrMakersFartyParty · 20/05/2019 08:06

I'm on an immuno suppressing drug and I would be so pissed if I was exposed to illness when it could be avoided.

Oct18mummy · 20/05/2019 08:12

Someone went to my sisters wedding with Norovirus - almost the whole wedding party came down with it the next day was horrendous

30not13 · 20/05/2019 08:16

Utterly selfish

iVampire · 20/05/2019 08:22

I would have hated to be at an event with someone there kneeling LG in the infectious period (symptomatic stage) of a D&V illness.

I look perfectly normal, and am quite accepting of other infection risks. But D&V would prevent the absorption of the cancer drug which keeps me ‘normal’

I would want to be forewarned, so I can make decisions about my safety.

Yes, I know I could meet a pre-symptomatic carrier at random. But that does not mean I also want to expose myself to someone who knows they are in the infectious stages.

For some of us, the stages are very high

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