To not tell the bride and groom?

[AmazingGrace16]

Maid of honour and best man here. Wedding starting at 3pm although obviously we've both got bits to do before then.
We've both come down with a tummy bug. It's not so horrific that it's constant... we've had one episode each.

Do we tell the bride and groom? I'm thinking no and just crack on unless it bubbles up again. But AIBU?

We've got two girls who seem fine too....

[Ripasso]

I think you should tell the bride and groom. I got married last year and my mum was and still is on chemo. I would want anyone with your symptoms to have stayed at home. The risk to someone on chemo is too great. It is not fair to turn up without letting them know.

[Treaclepie19]

I would be majorly unimpressed if you were at my wedding and didn't tell me this.
I'm nervous about stomach bugs and being sick especially so I'd want to know and would hope you wouldn't mind staying away.

[CottonSock]

One episode I would not even think twice. Bit different if you can't get off loo and feel / been sick.

[Illberidingshotgun]

Yes, tell them and leave the decision up to them entirely. Better to be honest. They will know if there is someone at the wedding who has a lowered immune system, is immunosupressed etc and that this may be a danger to (eg someone might be going through chemo but not telling many people).

If you do go, then lots of handwashing, decline hugs, kisses, handshakes etc.

[Pericombobulations]

Reading this thread makes it clear why half the guests, bride, groom and myself all came down with a tummy bug after their wedding. So many got it that it was investigated by the local authority in case it was food poisoning.

I was struggling with ocd at the time and it confirmed all my fears as real and I am struggling with the after effects nearly 20 years later.

You can't go.

[Banhaha]

Tell them and leave it up to them. They might be ok with you trying to make it through the ceremony and photos and then going. But if you tell them then they have that choice and can choose to have someone else help out where they can.

[candycane222]

I don't think you should try to hide it. Stomach bugs can be very contagious, and very dangerous for both babies and elderly people

[ineedaholidaynow]

For those saying it could be something you ate so it should be fine to go, aren’t some forms of food poisoning contagious so just as bad as going if you have a tummy bug?

[Ferii]

Absolutely tell the b&g, one of my pet peeves is ppl who think that its ok to put other's health at risk. Washing your hands and alcohol gel isn't going to be enough of a precaution, as for homeopathy wtf really?! You're infectious until 48 hours after last episode of D&V. See what B&G want you to do, they may decide you can come and then just go home early or they may decide they don't want you risking the health of them and their guests. I'm a nurse and personally wouldn't take loperamide unless there was no other option in your case, it can be a great drug but better to get rid of whatever bug you've got and loperamide is a prescription drug in many countries (not UK) because it can be dangerous.

[brummiesue]

Its one episode since 5am!! Cancelling is a little dramatic

[Sugarformyhoney]

The 48 hour rule is for children who can’t manage their own hygiene well. Just go, if you feel up to it unless you have concerns about someone with a compromised immune system. We all use major shops etc everyday and the likelihood is that there will be one sick person among us everywhere. A wedding isn’t much different imo

[rainbowstardrops]

Of course you should tell the B & G - it's bloody selfish not to! Let them decide if they want to take the risk.
I wouldn't necessarily have said this if it was just one episode of diarrhoea because that could be anything but the fact that your partner has been sick too changes it.
Don't be selfish

[Lightbee]

Tell them. These bugs can be dangerous for some. As they are so contagious you will likely pass it on, you could end up infecting half the guests. Personally I’d be very upset if it were my wedding, we have several family members that could have life risking complications from contracting a bug. Quite dramatic consequences. Besides that, as someone else said; who wants their wedding to be remembered as the one where everyone got ill? Plus the fact that if that happens, it will be the venue that people will blame and could lead to them being investigated.

[HiJenny35]

What if you urgently need the toilet during the ceremony, without warning them they will think they need to come after you. Definitely explain, give them the option to ask you not to come.

[CaravanHero]

Don't say anything. Like a pp said, stay hydrated, wash your hands frequently and use hand sanitizer.

I am the least bridezilla like person ever but having the MoH and Best Man not turn up would have upset me a lot on my wedding and put a dampner on the whole thing.

Whilst I wouldn't normally advocate going out with a bug I would take the educated risk that if I did pass it on it's unlikely to do anyone serious damage and go.

[ineedaholidaynow]

I missed my DGM 100 birthday celebrations as I had d and v. I was beginning to feel better but I implemented the 48 hour rule (there were notices about that around the nursing home) I was desperately disappointed but there was no way I was risking making her ill and any of the other residents, it could have had horrendous consequences for some of them.

You need to tell them OP.

[SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc]

Bung yourself up with imodium and carbs,you dont want to be needing the loo desperately when they are saying their vows.

[IHeartKingThistle]

Give them the option FGS! I'd never forgive you if you turned up to my wedding poorly and infected people without telling me.

FWIW, I look pretty healthy on the outside but I had norovirus 10 years ago and have never fully recovered. I got it again last year and was hospitalised.

[ineedaholidaynow]

Yes it would be very sad if you can’t go, but it might be something as good friends you would laugh about in a few years time. However, it wouldn’t be something that you would laugh about if you did go and contaminated half the guests.

[SpacePlusTime]

(I’m assuming) someone did this as my wedding - ie. was ill like this and attended.

Over half my guests were ill in the next week including my husband. We had an investigation into the food standards at the venue but the conclusion was it was more likely a virus....

[CruellaFeinberg]

How are you feeling now?

[thehappyegg]

I got married a few months ago and I would definitely want to know to be honest. I would rather not have you there than run the risk of spreading a tummy bug to guests.

[mycatisblack]

If it's just diarrhoea and you've not been sick, then it's more likely to be something you've eaten rather than a bug.
I get it frequently if I eat too much fatty food or diary products. If you take Imodium and it stops it, you should be fine.

[Grainedmonkey]

I think you need to take ownership of this decision yourselves, which ever way it goes. To put the onus on the B&G will just add to their stress which isn't fair . I personally would go down the Imodium instant route and crack on in your case, but DP's vomiting i'm not sure.

[ineedaholidaynow]

mycat the DH has been sick