To not tell the bride and groom?

[AmazingGrace16]

Maid of honour and best man here. Wedding starting at 3pm although obviously we've both got bits to do before then.
We've both come down with a tummy bug. It's not so horrific that it's constant... we've had one episode each.

Do we tell the bride and groom? I'm thinking no and just crack on unless it bubbles up again. But AIBU?

We've got two girls who seem fine too....

[grumiosmum]

Sounds like something you ate.

If it was something nasty like norovirus you would feel much, much worse.

[Lizzie48]

I would have wanted to know so that we could make a decision about it. You don’t know whether there are elderly people who are going to be there (there were several at my wedding) or guests who are pregnant or ill. There were also very young DC at our wedding who could be vulnerable to infection.

We would have been very sad if the best man and maid of honour (my DH’s DB and my DSis) couldn’t attend the wedding due to ill, and so would they have been. But it would have been even more upsetting if they’d said nothing and a D&V bug had been passed around between the wedding guests.

Your case isn’t clear cut, as it could be nerves or something you ate. Tricky. But that’s why you need to say something, I think.

I’m really sorry you’re having to deal with this at what is undoubtedly an event you’ve all been looking forward to and planning towards for a long time now.

[loulou0987]

Could it be nerves?

[Honeyroar]

It's a bit different going to a 100yr old's birthday party in a nursing home though!

I'd probably tell the B&G just in case they turn out to be as freaked out as some of the people on here. I'd say I thought it was probably something we ate, we've only been sick once a few hours ago and are happy to dose up on Imodium and be careful with what we eat-drink,but you thought you ought to tell them. (I'd usually let a bug/food poisoning pass through, but would definitely use Imodium in a case like this!

[Medievalist]

f it was something nasty like norovirus you would feel much, much worse.

Simply not true. When I had Salmonella (which hospitalised me for a week) I just felt off with occasional bouts of diarrhoea for the first couple of days. Not saying that's what the op has, but best not to spread misinformation.

[grumiosmum]

Apologies Medievalist, I'm happy to be corrected.

[Damntheman]

Nerves gave me a horrible stomach on my wedding day! Imodium and apple juice saved the day.

To the posters saying don't take Imodium, yes the bug does need to leave the system but for a one day stop gap Imodium is gold.

[Stopandlook]

What a shame. If I were the bride I wouldn’t want to know, would rather you told me 6 months later

[FizzBuzzBangWoof]

Agree with Stopandlook if it was my wedding I wouldn't want to know

As others have said, plenty of water, Imodium and good hygiene

Yes, it could in theory be something wildly contagious but that is fairly unlikely and assuming no further episodes of D or V between now and the wedding then chances are it's just a run of the mill 24 hour bug

[Pud2]

Don’t tell them. They don’t need to know. It’s certainly not selfish to go along! Power through. It would be a great shame for them not to have their best man and maid of honour just because somebody might catch something. One never knows what one might catch on a day to day basis on the train, in a shop etc. We can’t live in a hygiene bubble.

[ittakes2]

TheInvisibleMrsCrane - I'm sorry but I disagree - the homeopathic remedy Arsen alb 30c is the only homeopathic remedy we use but we have been using it for upset stomachs successfully for 8 years. Never go on holiday now with out it. The NHS has homeopathic hospitals - my children were referred to the one in London. They are staffed by qualified doctors with additional homeopathic training. www.britishhomeopathic.org/treatment/nhs-homeopathic-treatment/

[AhhhHereItGoes]

I think if you have any more bouts you should tell the bride and groom.

Once could be just a reaction to something your stomach doesn't agree with.

I have IBS so sometimes knowing if it's a big or just a bad flair up is difficult but often the presence of physical discomfort and nausea shows it.

I hope you're both ok to go.

[Lizzie48]

It’s the DP’s vomiting that makes it sound like a possible bug IMO. If it was just loose stools on one visit to the toilet I wouldn’t worry about, unless it happened a second time.

[Flippedout]

Imodium ? Fluids and paracetamol

[redstapler]

Homoeopathy will certainly help - it's just water and so will keep you hydrated. It won't do more than that as it's chemically no different from what you get out of the tap and the theory that the water remembers the imprint of the tiny trace of active medication it once saw is scientifically illiterate. We only have it on the NHS because every time they try and shut it Prince Charles sticks his oar in and so it's politically easier to keep it open. The homoeopathic hospital is basically a massive counselling service with some placebo pills thrown in.

[Medievalist]

Well said Redstapler

[Greenfield19]

Could you just be nervous? Even subconsciously

[AnyOldPrion]

If I was the bride, I wouldn’t want you there.

You mention you have two children. How old are they, and will they be going to the wedding? If it IS a bug and they come down with it too, it could make the whole wedding quite awful for everyone.

It might be something you both ate, but it’s just as likely to be a bug you’ve both picked up.

It’s obvious from this thread that lots of people would risk it, which is exactly why some big events and some cruises result in mass outbreaks.

Please tell the bride and groom. If I were you, I’d try to bow out, but I definitely think you need to talk to them. It’s their day you might ruin.

[ineedaholidaynow]

Does Imodium stop sickness?

Yes a nursing home is different to a wedding but there may be elderly relatives there who wouldn’t cope well with a sickness bug

[Catchingbentcoppers]

It’s certainly not selfish to go along! Power through.

I disagree. I think it's incredibly selfish. If you tell the bride and groom they may well say to come, or they may rather you didn't OP. They may have very elderly relatives, or those on chemo coming to their wedding.

I'm having chemo just now and I wouldn't want to be around someone who had been sick or had diahorrea so recently.

I'd like to say that I'm surprised by some of the 'just go and don't tell them' responses on here, but I'm not. So many people really don't give a shit about potentially making someone else very ill. It's awful.

[ASauvignonADay]

May be the nerves, I had this day before/day of best friend's wedding! was a bridesmaid and took an Imodium and all was fine!

[ittakes2]

redstapler - since homoepathy is not even water and you can't take it with water...you clearly have no idea what you are talking about. I am not even a massive taker of anything fan - the OP asked for advice and I shared my positive experience with something. The fact you and Medievalist are even bothering to comment on something that I have found works for me, my family, my friends is puzzling. If I was going to another country where I thought we were very likely to get stomach upset, I would take Imodium and Arsen Alba with me - I just find for minor stomach upsets Arsen Alba does the trick. You obviously not a huge fan of homeopathics and I am not here to champion their benefits in general - just that in the eight years we have used Arsen Alba it has worked for us. A pharmacist recommended it to us when my son was too young for Imodium. It might not work for you - but it doesn't mean other people's experiences are invalid.

[Reallybadidea]

Homeopathy is no longer available on the NHS in England. And about time, it's nothing more than quackery.

[babba2014]

You need to sleep for an hour or so to recover. I can recover quickly like this and no one else gets unwell. Wash your front and back of when your toilet comes out with water thoroughly. First wipe it with tissue, do not wet it or it just spreads. Then water front and back thoroughly. Then dry with tissue. Then wash your hands thoroughly. Do this every time.
Sleep for an hour and you should be fresh for 3pm but don't eat random things.
I've fasted 19 hours (Ramadhan) when I had a runny bug from not heating my food enough and doing this helped me or I'm not sure how else I managed without water etc. the entire day. All loo trips stopped after the nap too.

[redstapler]

redstapler - since homoepathy is not even water and you can't take it with water...you clearly have no idea what you are talking about