It was 50/50 until I got pregant, I changed my working hours when he got a new job to ensure this could still be possible and i have bent over backwards to facilitate this tbh. It is clear from the other thread our relationship has been rocky at best pretty much since the beginning however SD has not been the reason for this at all and changing rooms is not to exclude her intentionally at all.
DP was actually a really good father tbh, despite his problems right from the beginning of our relationship. I did everything I could to make SD feel wanted at our house and thought we had a pretty reasonable relationship even though I'm not a particularly child loving person if that makes sense? I'm not her mum but we were friends I suppose and our time together was enjoyable and we did loads of activities together, baking, crafts etc. I fell pregnant unexpectedly and I never planned on having children, one of the reasons I decided to go ahead with the pregnancy was how good a father DP was, despite his other faults, and how he had consistently had 50/50 contact for a few years at that point.
SD lives a two hour round drive away and due to extremely bad morning sickness I was unable to pick her up a couple of time (mainly motorway driving, so hardly appropriate to just pull over to throw up) this disrupted contact slightly for around 4 weeks and then it went back to 50/50 as the sickness subsided a little.
Two months before baby was due I also stopped making the long journey as I could barely walk and get in and out of the car, DPs mum helped out but again this disrupted contact a bit. During the early weeks of breastfeeding I struggled a little making the long journey plus I suffered post natal depression. Once I was back to feeling normalish I made it perfectly clear I had no objections to making the journey. So there was around 3 months I guess where I was struggling to pick SD up but he was still having her at least 2 nights a week.
Since then, for reasons I cannot fathom, DP just doesn't insist on SD coming religiously 50/5, I have asked him why, apparently it's just easier. He no longer has her one night because she stays at her mum's, I've asked why and I'm still non no wiser. The next night his mum picks her up from school and she's stays at hers so he doesn't see her till the next day. Apparently it's easier. I have no objections to going back to me picking her up from school and then picking DP up on our way home like we used to.
DPs mum will drop her off the next day and we will have her for the night and SDs mum will collect her the next morning. I honestly have no idea why DP agrees to this, I can't really get an answer out of him.
In relation to my other thread, step parenting isn't for me due to DPs l, in my opinion, innapropriate relationship with his ex wife amongst other things, not actually because of SD. As I said, I though we had an enjoyable, friendly relationship?
I think this has gone on a little long bit hope it clear up any questions?
Think I may leave the room situation a little longer then as it honestly is not my intention to push SD out st all, just seems a little silly having to cram all DDs stuff into a tiny room when the other one is only used such a short while.
I can't use SDs room for storage DP doesn't want that, again for reasons I cannot fathom.