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Champions league ban at wedding
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User12038483 · 18/05/2019 11:21

Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

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Tinyteatime · 18/05/2019 12:01

I was at a wedding when it was the WC semi final and they screened it. I think there’s little point trying to fight it. People will just leave to watch it or watch it on phones. You can’t control what other adults do and there’s no point setting yourself up to feel miffed on your wedding day.

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MarieIVanArkleStinks · 18/05/2019 12:01

Who is being unreasonable?

Short answer: everyone. FGS, where are people's manners these days, especially when it comes to weddings?

I'm not a football fanatic, even though I understand that some people are. And I wouldn't be inclined to leave a wedding to watch a game; that's just rude. You can easily keep up with the scores with an odd glance at online updates, and watch the game later.

But as for the message put out by this precious B&G, words (almost) fail me! Nice little prince and princess, aren't they? For fun, let's dissect their message piecemeal:

they have chosen not to screen the champions league

Fair enough.

and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on

OK. Again fair play.

to leave and watch it

Yes, I do agree this would be rude. But in the end, provided there is not a mass exodus leaving a half-empty room behind it, I can't see why this should really encroach into their day. They are hosting an event, not forcing attendance at an unwelcome team-building activity.

or to be watching it on any devices

Get stuffed. People can watch exactly what they like on their own devices. This is not for you to dictate. Who, exactly, do you think you are?

and to please respect that this day is about them.

Fuck off. And while you're at it, kindly stuff your invitation into a dark orifice.

Where on earth does the world find these precocious berks?

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GrimDamnFanjo · 18/05/2019 12:01

My ndn had planned a 50th celebration in London for her Spurs hubby - at the Camden Town music event?
He's now trundling along to the Spurs ground for the big screen.

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JacquesHammer · 18/05/2019 12:02

I would cry if people sat around watching phones at my wedding

Bit ironic telling other people to grow up!

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User12038483 · 18/05/2019 12:02

We've got rooms at the venue, DH and his brothers don't think they'll be missed for 90 minutes during the evening do to go watch it. It'll take them about 30 seconds to get back after and they'd come back during half time. That's his argument at-least but my argument is how many other people are likely to do the same. It's just a weird thing to do at a scouse wedding.

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redhotchill · 18/05/2019 12:03

Bloody hell. Where are you people from. It's not just men Hmm

"Probably better to put it on 1 tv in the corner of the bar, leave all the men over there and rest of reception can carry on"

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YouBumder · 18/05/2019 12:03

Hmm while they do of course have a point I’m cringing that they actually sent that message. It’d make me go and find somewhere to watch it and I’m not even interested in football.

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JacquesHammer · 18/05/2019 12:03

It's just a weird thing to do at a scouse wedding

Not when Liverpool are in the final.....

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HeronLanyon · 18/05/2019 12:03

Is t it a really weird thing not to do at a scouse wedding with loads of Liverpool fans - both men and women.
Really shocked at casual outdated sexist comments here assuming it’s only men !

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User12038483 · 18/05/2019 12:04

@JacquesHammer I mean it's a weird thing to ban people watching Liverpool in the CL final at a wedding in Liverpool..

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HeronLanyon · 18/05/2019 12:05

Sorry op I misread ! Whatever happens hope you all have fun including the b and g.

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sonjadog · 18/05/2019 12:05

I think the bride and groom are setting themselves up to lose here. A lot of people will now be going home early. I'm not a football fan at all, but I have no trouble with the idea that for a great many people, this game is very important. I would let your husband head off to watch the game at 8pm. Not sure I would insist he came back though. I think I´d just say he was done with the wedding then.

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LOTR · 18/05/2019 12:05

I think their message back is ridiculously worded but come on.

If their wedding is that big then they will have spent 18 months planning and a shed ton of money. Imagine the empty room while it on. Imagine if Liverpool lose - the atmosphere at the reception will be dreadful!

And I say that as a Liverpudlian.

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seastargirl · 18/05/2019 12:06

😂 I'm more worried I'll go in to labour during the match as dragging in husbands away from it would be hard work!

They should embrace it and show the match, even some of those not that into football will want to know what's going on at this match. And if they win walk on should totally be the last dance!

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User12038483 · 18/05/2019 12:06

They booked the wedding two years ago, we rsvp'd around 6 months ago.

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stucknoue · 18/05/2019 12:06

There's usually a lull in every wedding between the end of speeches and the evening do kicking off, oh and during photos too, surely they could watch during those periods perhaps in the bar or record and watch afterwards

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titchy · 18/05/2019 12:06

I suspect B&G have just shot themselves in the foot. Rather than have a happy, celebratory atmosphere in the evening of their wedding, they're gonna have half the guests pissed off, and the other half gone for the night having decamped to a nearby hostelry. That group will be enjoying the celebratory atmosphere the bride and groom could have had!

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JacquesHammer · 18/05/2019 12:07

I mean it's a weird thing to ban people watching Liverpool in the CL final at a wedding in Liverpool

Sorry, totally misread your previous post! I agree Smile

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ANewDawn10 · 18/05/2019 12:07

I really do hope lots of people leave to watch the game. These two need the arrogance knocked out of them. Are they so full of themselves they want all eyes on them for hours on end after the actual ceremony is over. They are dumb, it's going to happen whether they demand this of people or not.

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southernsoftiestuckooopnorth · 18/05/2019 12:08

The B&G are being totally unrealistic, and ridiculous. I'm not a football fan, but I completely understand why this match is so important. I've been to several weddings over the years, which have ended up coinciding with big matches (World Cup etc). Where the couple were football fans or not, they managed the day to make sure that people couple see the game, but also got to fully enjoy and participate in the wedding and celebrations.
It doesn't matter that people think it's ridiculous or unimportant or rude. In reality, their guests are going to watch it whatever.

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Wannabeyorkshirelass · 18/05/2019 12:08

There was an international game on my wedding day between my country's team and my husband's country's team. People checked the result and we all joked about it, but there's no way we'd have watched. Spending time with our family and friends, dancing, eating, talking and celebrating the ONE day that we get to celebrate our love and be surrounded by all people we love was way more important for all of us. Thank goodness.

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LolaSmiles · 18/05/2019 12:09

From the message I was expecting it to be a mid afternoon match that would disrupt their day. In that case they'd have had a point.

8pm kick-off? They're being ridiculous. Not everyone going to weddings gets into the drinks and disco part of the evening anyway. Often It's drinks and catching up with people you only really catchup with at weddings (at least the last few I've been to were). I dont think the disco is going to be ruined if there is a small tv in the bar where people can enjoy a drink socially and watch 90 mins of football.

I can't begin to understand the view that people would leave a wedding over a match, but then I'm not a football fan, but I also can't understand how a couple can be so obsessed with attention that not being actively dawned over by a few people for 90 mins will ruin their day.

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Allhailthesun · 18/05/2019 12:10

The marriage vows are the important bit. No one invited should have a sports match on during that bit.
The rest is just often formulaic filler designed to celebrate the done deed.I can’t see why you wouldn’t put the game on at that point because most of the other stuff by that point is for the guests benefit anyway - food, drink, dancing etc.

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stucknoue · 18/05/2019 12:10

A tv in a separate bar would have been a good compromise tbh

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SansasSnatch · 18/05/2019 12:12

Sorry haven’t rtwt but what about the groom?

My dh is a massive fan and in this position I would screen it. Footballs much more important than life or death Grin

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