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Champions league ban at wedding
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User12038483 · 18/05/2019 11:21

Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

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Silversky70 · 18/05/2019 11:44

The bride and groom need to suck it up and accommodate the match. It's going to happen, they cannot stop it. Better to embrace it and build it into the wedding. They cannot control this so acceptance is the way to go. It will really add to the excitement of the wedding. And I hate sport.

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Lockheart · 18/05/2019 11:45

If you've RSVP'd to an event then you go to that event and you respect the people who invited you by not pissing off to watch sport.

You can't wriggle out of an event because something more interesting (to you) has come along. It's extremely rude.

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Hermagsjesty · 18/05/2019 11:45

At my friends wedding during the World Cup loads of people - including the groom - were watching a match on a phone during the evening do. It wasn’t even an England match but it was an easy, fun thing for people who didn’t want to dance to enjoy together. I can understand them not wanting screens but the evening do is for socialising and I don’t see why that shouldn’t include friends watching a match together on a device - especially such a massive game.

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HeronLanyon · 18/05/2019 11:45

As a football fan (NOT Liverpool) I would have avoided this weekend anyway if possible as I would want to watch the match. Now that Liverpool are in it given the number of those attending being desperate to watch it live I do think they are being unrealistic.
Wanting desperately to watch the match or some of it even does not mean someone isn’t wanting to celebrate their friends wedding. I don’t think it’s disrespectful. They aren’t mutually exclusive. What a shame they have coincided but surely they can coexist.
Personally a wedding day which included a big football match sounds heavenly to me !

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AnnaMagnani · 18/05/2019 11:46

I think this would be the moment for them to accept that 200 of their closest friends and family love Liverpool more than they love them. It won't be just the men either.

It's at 8pm so they have time for a lovely ceremony and meal - during which no-one will be able to stop chatting about the build-up.

They might as well give up, put up a screen and enjoy the atmosphere, rather than have 200 people skulking about in the loos and the carpark on phones - or even worse not turning up.

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SgtFredColon · 18/05/2019 11:46

Liverpool reaching the final is pretty much once in a lifetime

Only if you were born after 2005 Grin

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ANewDawn10 · 18/05/2019 11:47

The b&g need to get over themselves. Yes it's the most important day to them but it's not for everyone else, especially if your team made the final.
All that's going to happen is that people are going to leave and watch it and tough for them.
A ban on people using their phones - how arrogant are these people. I hope that a good bunch of people do leave. They need to be knocked down to earth.

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SimonJT · 18/05/2019 11:47

I once went to a wedding that clashed with a six nations game, the bride banned it being shown, this just led to a group of us watching it on phones in the grounds of the venue, including the groom.

I skipped a wedding in October and just went to the evening reception as the team I used to play for were playing Braintree and I wanted to go.

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NailsNeedDoing · 18/05/2019 11:47

If the football fans aren't grown up enough to do the decent thing they should not go at all.

That's probably the preferred option for the football fans, but as in the OP, their wives won't let them without a row over it.

Bride and groom seem even worse to me now that someone's said kick off is at 8pm, that's not going to spoil the wedding at all! It would just be the blokes who wouldn't dance anyway watching a screen and having a laugh together instead of standing about making small talk, and with 200 guests, there's still going to be plenty that aren't interested in the football.

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KatherineJaneway · 18/05/2019 11:47

My view is probably coloured as I don't watch or like football, but this day is about the bride and groom. I wouldn't want half the male guests to get up at the evening do and bugger off to watch a match they can easily watch later that night once the event ends or the next morning.

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MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 18/05/2019 11:47

I hate football and have zero interest in it. If I were the couple getting married, I would be furious if guests were so rude as to slope off to watch football rather than participate in the day. But, I had forgotten, everything/everybody has to bow down to the great god football in this country!

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IvanaPee · 18/05/2019 11:47

Presumably the wedding is costing the couple money so people saying it doesn’t affect them are being ridiculous.

I think any adult who puts that much importance into a game of football is an absolute loser, to be honest.

Grown men. Seriously. It’s pathetic.

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BackforGood · 18/05/2019 11:48

The Bride and Groom are being totally ridiculous.
Of course everyone will be wanting to watch the match. As a pp said, it is what it is, they should embrace it and try to make the day work for everyone, or they will just have 1/2 the guests disappearing off.
Obviously depends on the timings, but wedding quite often go on for 10 - 12 hours. Guests wanting to watch such a big match wouldn't be missed for 90mins.

Not that you'll get responses on MN that will reflect society at large.

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ASqueakingInTheShrubbery · 18/05/2019 11:49

DSis got married on the day of a World Cup game. Some people watched it in the hotel bar. The world didn't end. They are still happily married. There's a lot of fairly aimless milling about at weddings, so as long as the groom isn't glued to it from kick-off to final whistle it's unlikely to be very noticeable.

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HeronLanyon · 18/05/2019 11:49

It’s not just men ffs !

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Unfinishedkitchen · 18/05/2019 11:49

The B&G are being unreasonable and will be the ones to lose out if they won’t accommodate the match which starts in the evening. I’m not a big football fan but I can see this is probably a once in a lifetime event for Liverpool and Spurs (which is in London to the PP who said they wouldn’t show it to a bunch of Londoners).

90 mins isn’t going to ruin their wedding at all but then I don’t get the preciousness over weddings either. The guests will have probably have had to go to hen and stag weekends, buy new outfits, pay out for baby sitters, hotels, presents etc so let them watch the football.

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GrimDamnFanjo · 18/05/2019 11:50

Sadly the bride and groom are going to be reminded that their wedding is not the most important thing for a large group of their guests.
If you're not a football fan then it's hard to understand the depth of feeling about watching the match live, especially after the semi.
I'd be putting a tv in another room and leaving them to it.

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XiCi · 18/05/2019 11:51

their guests are FROM Liverpool and the surrounding area.If they were a bunch of Londoners then I’d totally side with the bride and groom

Grin you realise who Liverpool are playing in the final right?

The superiority on this thread is absolutely hilarious

Absolutely. The assertion that adults should not be passionate about a sport is ridiculous. Along with the assumption that only the men will be interested in the match. As for suggestions that people could record the match and watch later I have no words. Fucking hilarious.

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Springwalk · 18/05/2019 11:51

Of course I would not have or expect to see football at a wedding.

They can watch it on catch up, it is a game and they are not children I am assuming.

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lyralalala · 18/05/2019 11:51

If your wedding guests contain a large number of Liverpool or Spurs fans then it's madness not to just accept that many of them will be watching the game. It's 90 mins of the evening. It's not idea, but you can't stop people leaving so better to just have them in the room next door or in a corner and then as soon as it's done everything gets back to normal.

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User12038483 · 18/05/2019 11:51

It's well after food or any of that, the game is on during the evening dancing and drinking bit. I'm not a sports fan myself, and I'm annoyed at DH for wanting to leave and come back as I think it's massively rude.. but I just think the bride and groom are shooting themselves in the foot as the second a couple hundred scousers have had a few drinks they're going to want to watch that game and I don't think DH and his brothers will be the only ones considering leaving early to watch it. Surely just having it on tele would work better? It's a massive wedding, I'm sure the dance floor will still be full.

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Maybe83 · 18/05/2019 11:52

I think they are mad.

Liverpool making it to the champions league final is a huge sporting event. Considering lots of their guests are from liverpool it makes it an even stranger choice.

I expect they will have lots of people saying they wont be able to attend due to their blanket ban on guest watching it.

Their choice.

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HunterHearstHelmsley · 18/05/2019 11:52

If I were a Liverpool (or Spurs) fan, I'd go to the wedding and meal. I'd make my excuses to leg it home/pub. It's a huge match, not one that can be recorded and watched later.

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Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 18/05/2019 11:52

Kick off is at 8pm! It's presumably not going to interrupt their vows.
Wedding couple are being uppity issuing a notice about "their day". Regardless whether people watch the game people are going to be thinking about it, and possibly feeling slightly resentful. People will sneak off to the bogs/leave early. Couple need to embrace it as being a thing that happened on the day they married. Were it me, and that were my guestlist, I'd make sure speeches and dinner were done, and make it part of the evening.

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Betty777 · 18/05/2019 11:52

I can't believe some of the responses on here. Why do adults think they get to act however they want because they happen to like a particular sport? Grow up

It's as if someone is really into Game of Thrones and insisted on watching the first new episode live at the wedding, just because it was on then, and everyone accepting this was ok because they were a fan Hmm

I would cry if people sat around watching phones at my wedding

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