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Aibu to feel the absolute RAGE with this Tinder date?

405 replies

Pulipatchouli · 16/05/2019 22:50

I met a guy for a date and really liked him.
We fell out. Because I left a card through his letterbox which he said endangered his vulnerable clients. Obviously i found this offensive and utterly ridiculous. I'm sure his postman violates his mailbox often!
He keeps messaging me to say 'thanks for the lovely book you sent me but I don't want to go out with you'
And other patronising shit .
I am full of RAGE.

Because he acts like I am sending him presents to win him back when he is obviously a vain plonker!!
And breathe

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justarandomtricycle · 16/05/2019 23:30

All joking aside, I don't think I've ever seen a man give a shit about a card, in any situation, unless there was money in it. I sometimes get a tiny, but guilty sadistic pleasure out of watching DH awkwardly pretend to take pleasure in getting a card, the mixture of inane grin and bemused micro expressions is priceless.

...so I don't think a card is ever likely to have much of a positive impact on them.

TheTrollFairy · 16/05/2019 23:30

You have left more questions than you have answered. Not cool op, not cool

SucksToBeYouHun · 16/05/2019 23:31

I know I'm drunk right now but I have absolutely no idea what's going on here Confused 😂

Kelsoooo · 16/05/2019 23:31

Eh?

gamerchick · 16/05/2019 23:33

If you're raging after 1 tinder date, have sent gifts and cards then he's possibly had his spidey senses alerted.

You really need to dial it down a notch. Delete him, don't send him abuse and move lnt.

Walkingdeadfangirl · 16/05/2019 23:35

Bunny Boiler for sure

Drunkcaterpillar · 16/05/2019 23:36

Save the date card 😂😂😂

Gravelface · 16/05/2019 23:42

I missed the original Sharon thread and would be so grateful if someone could give me a potted version.

Sorry to derail from card / book / client OP

MightyDonut · 16/05/2019 23:44

Did you write a little poem in the card OP? Something like...
Roses are red
Violets are blue
I love you madly
And i want to marry you.

Before sealing it with a SWALK and drawing pink hearts on the envelope?

Was the book something like 'The little book of marriage'?

I mean, some men may have a bit of a fright at receiving such unexpected gifts.

P.S Does he have a fluffy rabbit?

horizontalis · 16/05/2019 23:45

Clients - what clients?

Hithere12 · 16/05/2019 23:47

Wow. This is legit terrifying. What is he thinking giving out his address to someone he met on the first date?

I went on 3 dates with someone a while back and they decided to “suprise” me by showing up at my work! And waiting in the car park!

If I was ever to online date again I wouldn’t even give out my real name I’d be so scared of this behaviour.

LemonadePockets · 16/05/2019 23:48

Can you come back a second and just start again...?

I really need to know what the card said.

Thanks!

70sWitch · 16/05/2019 23:49

Well. This is all as clear as mud. Grin

LoveMyNewHome · 16/05/2019 23:52

What?

Reasonstobeearful · 16/05/2019 23:54

Grin @mightydonut

OP's poem in full:

Dear innocent guy who I met on tinder
Marry me or I'll burn your house to a cinder

AnneTwackie · 16/05/2019 23:55

Please come back OP

SafferUpNorth · 16/05/2019 23:55

WTF? I'm obviously too middle class and middle aged for this thread! goes to bed

BlackCatSleeping · 16/05/2019 23:56

It's definitely us not you. not really

Messyisthenewtidy · 16/05/2019 23:56

This has more inconsistencies than a Friends flashback.

Did you break up because you sent him a card? Or did you send him a card because you broke up?

AutumnCrow · 16/05/2019 23:58

The original Sharon threads were some kind of stream on consciousness under various name changes about throwing red wine up curtains, wasps, screaming, her partner putting his hands in such a position in the supermarket that he appeared to be 't-rexing', and various bewildering friends

Tingface · 16/05/2019 23:58

We’ll never know.
We’ll never know about the card. Or the book. Or the clients.
I can’t bear it.

Could someone send me something please?

Hithere12 · 16/05/2019 23:59

OP no offence but you sound pretty toxic to be rowing with someone after one date 🙄

ISayWhatNow · 17/05/2019 00:02

Just.......WTF???

MightyDonut · 17/05/2019 00:04

[OP no offence but you sound pretty toxic to be rowing with someone after one date]

She never mentioned anything about a rowing boat on the date @Hithere12

Maybe that's what its all about?

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 17/05/2019 00:05

Oh this is good Grin