Aibu to feel the absolute RAGE with this Tinder date?

[Pulipatchouli]

I met a guy for a date and really liked him.
We fell out. Because I left a card through his letterbox which he said endangered his vulnerable clients. Obviously i found this offensive and utterly ridiculous. I'm sure his postman violates his mailbox often!
He keeps messaging me to say 'thanks for the lovely book you sent me but I don't want to go out with you'
And other patronising shit .
I am full of RAGE.

Because he acts like I am sending him presents to win him back when he is obviously a vain plonker!!
And breathe

@jamie

“And isn't it convenient for certain people that it's such a boundary-crossing act?”

I think you’re making this about something it isn’t.
If a man did this everyone would be saying the same.
& both men and women cheat, so normal societal boundaries may be seen as convenient to whomever is cheating. People have a right to keep their lives private from someone they’ve been on 1 date with.

Perhaps. But we pondered earlier whether any married man would be so stupid to invite his date back to his own house, and it seems to me from this thread that it's a safer proposition than I'd thought.

Nine out of ten women would never send a card or visit without an invitation. You can date for a little while like that, get some shagging in, end it before it gets more serious, and move on to the next woman on tinder.

It looks like we’ve all fallen out with OP over this one. I’m looking forward to receiving a card and a book through the post next week. I just hope it doesn’t offend my clients when it arrives.

placemarking in case OP comes back to life

"why does AIBU do this?"

The totally nonsensical opening post bears much responsibility here.

Argh! I'm way too invested in this !! Op PLEASE update 🤣

Dont leave us hanging op!

OK, can't believe I've just read all 11 pages front and back and I'm still just as confused and don't know WTF is going on

Maybe the OP has got lost in a clinton card factory? Or is browsing Moonpig for that perfect ' You're a bastard of the first water' card.
Then again, she might be at Weddingdresses 'R' us.

I blame China.

Oh the intrigue.

I think 1 of 2 things has happened here.

1- he has a wife and your card nearly got him in the shit (cheating bastard).

2 - you fell out one week prior, he decided he doesn't want to see you any more but you've been a bit bunny boiler and sent a card in a stalker ish way to his home address.

You decide

Shameless place marking. Doubt we will get a proper explanation

Please come back OP, you could at least send us a card.

I know a woman who sent flowers to a man at work after they had a very aggressive drunken text argument which ended with them both saying "you're toast" at 4am.

When she phoned him at work to check he'd received the flowers he was petrified.

and it was a card that any single man would have been okay with,

The general rule of thumb is that no single man would be okay with a card being sent to his address (in person or mailed) after ONE date. They would find it freaky and odd and run a mile.

Oooooh please come back and explain....

Just block him!

@thighofrelief101

"Please come back OP, you could at least send us a card."

😂😂😂😂

Just reply next time he accuses you of sending him stuff that it’s not you, and you think you should both stop contact... then actually start sending him stuff

Was it a thank you card? Bit desperate that!

I’d just like to have a tinder date where the lady,present, actually resembles her photo.

This is the best

What the fuck is a Sharon thread?!?😯

LOL - OP clear this up a little??

OP isn't coming back. Either a troll or embarrassed.

To ask do you take your phone in the bathroom with you when you know you are having a poo?