to want to go up the pregnant woman that i saw smoking, take her cigarette away from her, stamp on it and call her a selfish cow!!

[lucyellensmum]

it is plain selfish to smoke whilst pregnant, given what is known about the risk

I'm pre menstural, i DARE you to say im being unreasonable.

No, not unreasonable to want to.

Would be quite unreasonable to have acted upon the impulse though!

Of course you have every right to want to but it would be unreasonable to do so!

Cortisol. Also damaging to a developing foetus apparently...

Perhaps gently removing the cigarette and gently treading on it. While handing ovver an information leaflet....

I'd feel the ssame lucyellensmum - but wouldn't do anything - just inwardly fume !!

Look, before she got pregnant she may well have been a 20 or 30 a dayer. You never know she might have whittled it down to a very special 1 or 2 a day.

You are being unreasonable, you don't know her situation at all, leave her alone.

speccy - shhhhhh (i'm at work - its allowed )

im with bibis - im pregnant and have cut down from far too many to those special ones

I also smoked several cigarettes a day when pregnant.

Being pre-menstrual doesn't give you the right to be so judgemental.

agree with Bibis, you know nothing about this woman or her circumstances.

Perhaps she gave up smoking but just found out her husband is terminally ill and is just really stressed out.

Perhaps her baby has already died in utero and she is waiting to have it induced and the smoking doesn't matter.

People are far too quick to judge others and if you have a pregnancy bump it seems to be like a big target for other people to tell you how to live your life.

Make the world a better place - start thinking of pregnant women as whole people with free will rather than walking incubators.

Bibis, i did leave her alone, personally i still think it is bloody selfish. Its bad enough that i have to walk behind these bleeders in the high street puffing away, only to have to feel sorry for their unborn foetus. Cancer, diabetes, low birthweight, possible leaning difficulties, poor immune system...the list goes on, ok so its not definate that the child will develop any of these things but it is not worth any risk surely. Perhaps i am being niave

smoking when pregnant is an utter disgrace

1 a day, 10, 20 or whatever matters not a jot to me, smoking is smoking and HARMS YOUR BABY

this is the only thing I judge on however so don't all hiss at me

I wouldn't however say anything to anyone unless a friend of mine

'kin 'ell, what it is with all these bloody righteous posts at the moment.

I don't smoke, but if I did and you did that to me, I would tell you in no uncertain terms to fuck off.

No, I'd want to too but people seem more offended with a sweaty armpit than breathing in noxious fumes. I'm sure she say something if you squirted your perfume in her face.

Er, yes I think YABU. For some people life is very far from perfect, and there is such a thing as free will. Abortion is legal up to 20-odd weeks, and I would never dream of lecturing someone who went through this. Equally I would guess that someone who is smoking is in a tough place.

Mind you looking at your other thread, I wondered if you were trying to wean yourself off MN by having a good old row.

skidoodle, she didnt look like a recently bereaved lady, she looked bloody happy enough to me. The reason i didnt approach her is simply because i wouldnt dream of making someone feel bad about what they are doing, it is her choice, however i reserve the right to think she is a selfish cow. And women should be grateful to be carrying a life and not treat it with such disrespect, i feel awe struck when i see a pregnant woman, this one simply disappointed me

hey, it's the only time I can be rightious!!!

"i feel awe struck when i see a pregnant woman"

Do you really??

Gosh, I will always support people's right to smoke in the street. It's open air. After all, why don't you feel the urge to scream at anyone driving near you? I find it a much more irritating smell than cigarettes.
You have all the right to worry about the health of smokers' babies though.

i am leaving this because you know NOTHING about my circs and tbh, i dont want to tell you because i dont know you.

Life isnt perfect - never has been, never will be. Get over it.

"women should be grateful blah blah blah"

who are you to say what pregnant women should be feeling?

they're all individuals with their own circumstances and difficulties ffs.

and they'd probably have an easier time if people were a little less judgemental (and also didn't think it was OK to touch their bumps without asking).

if you'd never go up and actually say this to somebody because you know it would be unconsionably rude, why reserve the right to get all het up about it?

all you're really doing on here is transferring your "disappointment" with one stranger to any women on here who might have had the odd fag when pregnant, so it's a bit disingenuous to say you'd never want to make someone feel bad.

HuwEdwards - really i do. I think being pregnant is an amazing privalige, for most.

So you guys never judge then, i wonder how many of you scoff at the fruitshoot brigade?

Yeah tell me about it, life is far from perfect, i lost my father 8 weeks after the birh of my DD whom he never saw - guess why he died, yeah thats right, lung cancer, cos he smoked.

ABSOLUTELY ...you know nothing about this woman.

i smoked in my last pregnancy, every ciggerette filled me with guilt.

but at the time iwas watching my husband wasting away in end stage heart failure. if anyone had dared said anything i would've either broken down completely or smacked them in the gob.