To roll my eyes when I see hobby...

[Badwifey]

So many threads were people complain about their partners hobby without mentioning what it is... unless it's some sort of obscure activity where there are few members it's highly unlikely to give you or your partner away!
Also same happens with jobs... just a bloody general idea.... I work in finance, I work in childcare, I teach.... not some nonsense about your "highly pressured environment"

I only lie when it doesn’t really matter. But it’s easy enough on most threads that are just nattering. Talk about paying the rent instead of mortgage. Change DD to DS or DC. Mention popping to the shop in the middle of the day when actually you work 9-5. Talk about posh Home Counties twats when you are one

I’m amazed at how many people are happy to give out really identifying info on chatty threads - fair enough if you’re seeking advice or supporting someone else, but most of the time it really doesn’t matter!

In MN land DH/DPs have hobbies and DCs have activities. Not sure at what age an activity becomes a hobby
About 10. When they can start buggering off on their own to avoid tidying their room or being of any use at home.

Maybe we should have an official sticky thread of hobbies grouped by similarity so posters can choose a similar enough hobby without being worried about being outed, and without getting 70 posters asking “what’s the hobby?”

I feel the same but not only about hobbies or highly pressured environment work but when they say they have one child and then refer to her or him as “them” for the rest of the thread as if saying you have a boy or a girl is particularly outing in a site where we all have either or both 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not the same with jobs. I am happy to say mine, but DP's is very bespoke he is easily searchable on the internet. It would 'out' me in a heartbeat, and I like using MM!! His isn't famous as a person or anything, just in a niche area of work.

“I’ve NC for this as it’s possibly outing.”
Why would you tell everybody you’ve NC .
Might as well put on a false beard and tell everybody your in disguise in RL.

@recrudescence 😂😂😂😂

Perhaps it's knitting or embroidery. Something the H doesn't want anyone to see him do.

“I’ve NC for this as it’s possibly outing.”
Why would you tell everybody you’ve NC

to avoid the oh-so-clever and original comments
"interesting first post OP"

and some posters seem to think that their posts have less weight somehow if they are "new". Lord knows why.

I am mostly amazed by people putting photos, because that's not outing at all!

NewSchoolNewName I am an afol (adult fan of Lego) and use the same user name on the Lego forums so if anyone goes on them + here they probably can figure out I'm the same person. Is your DH on brickset? If yes I have probably chatted with him

So many people work in ‘niche’ roles. Then turn out to be a primary school teacher.

Might be photography. Its a very niche hobby. Photography give a good hint who a poster was.

Couple that with the husband having a 'very stressful job' so needs to do said secret hobby all weekend and it'd be akin to linking to their location on Google.

Some husbands play netball, but might not want their macho mates to know!

My DH's hobby is Clash of Clans - he's sixty-three! I def wouldn't mention it in a post 😂

I keep my job information close to my chest because it's such a small field and the company is very very tiny. Not worth the risk of being found out!

Is photography really niche? I can think of 3 people of the top of my head who are very into photography.

I think the most unusual hobby I’ve come across was one of DH’s university flat mates who did live action role playing at weekends. The way he described it, it sounded like acting out some sort of dungeons and dragons scenario complete with costumes and replica weapons.

I always assume it is larping and imagine the OH setting off in the quattro in his warrior wizard outfit complete with authentic warrior wizard accoutrements (and a roll of toilet paper) .

Ok, petty, but it makes me laugh.

newschool

OOoh, spooky post proximity situation!

Dogging

This is terribly outing but my DH loves to watch a certain TV series that involves dragons and the coldest season of the year 🙄

The thing is, playing golf or cycling. You know there is a hell of a lot of people doing that. Same with football.

Orienteering, As has been suggested, is much more of a niche sport. People who are really into that know each other well, go to the same events etc...
If I say what H is doing and I’m adding the area where we are (eg form previous posts), it will be very easy to know who he is. There is only a handful of people doing that activity.

And then there is the fact that the activity as such doesn’t matter so there is no need to say (bar satisfying the curiosity of some posters like the OP).
And the activity itself can muddy the waters. Eg if saying it’s cycling and you have many posters coming and saying it’s the same for them and they need to

No NewSchoolNewName, photography isn't even close to niche. Sort of the OP's point isn't it, that the 'hobby' that can't be reveal as it might identify isn't even close to being revealing.

(Plus, as memtioned in the second part of my post, just about all time selfish husbands have a 'stressful job'.)

Re job, I keep it very close to myself because I dint want customers recognising me.
That’s my business and my income. I dont need gossip!

I do agree with you OP, but I also see why some people don't want to mention it. I think that forum threads are notorious for going off on a tangent and the poster is trying to make sure they receive posts about how to deal with their 'DH' rather than a critique of how he could better spend his time.

That's what I try to assume anyway. Some people are probably just massive attention seekers though.