To ask if you call your DH everyday when you get off work?

[Justcurious1]

A colleague of mine phones her DH everyday as soon as she gets off work, literally as soon as she gets out of the door. We get off at the same time everyday, and she phones him aswell in her lunch break. I know it's none of my business, but I'm just curious how many of you do this? And if it's a done thing and I'm the odd one out? I sometimes wonder why she doesn't just go home without calling?

I let him know I’ve made it to work (100 mile commute on unforgiving roads ) and usually when I leave in case I need to pick up milk or dinner or stuff . Or ring closer to home to tell him to put my dinner on, so I don’t have to fanny about waiting another 30 mins for it to cook after a 16 hour day .

He rings me during the day usually when he’s waiting to pick up an order and they’re taking their time to load it .

No i would only call him in an emergency

I honestly wouldn't have enough to talk about to anyone that would warrant that kind of contact every day. Especially if I lived with them

We've been married for 32yrs and together for 37, we haven't run out of things to talk about yet

We only text or call each other during the working day if it's really important, but it would be very unusual. We don't call when we leave work either, unless one of us is going to be very late or something. Neither of us needs lots of contact when we are apart, I think we'd both find it irritating tbh.

I used to work for a boss whose wife would call him throughout the day to ask drivel. He would be having a mini-meeting in his office with a few subordinates busy taking notes. His phone rings and we all stop to listen to him tell his wife which aisle in the supermarket to find tinned soup. How we sniggered.

The odd occasion, but the best thing about my DP is that he likes to be quiet. In work I have to either talk to or listen to people for 9 hours a day. It’s nice to go home to a cuddle and a cocoon of calm and peace.

I don’t do this

I do this when I get in the car each evening. Is it weird then? He gets the kids from the cm so we check in on their day, plans for the evening, I let him know if I’m running late etc. Sometimes we just have a gossip about our days. We like each other. I don’t get why it’s odd

Today we probably hit a record 🤣
TEXT
7am DH good morning from Luxembourg x
8.00ME good morning from home x
8.15 DH good morning Ds & dd have a great day
8.30 DD sends an emoji message back
CHAT & TEXT
2pm DH on way to airport do you want anything?
2.30 ME Ill text a list
3.30 DH about to board love you
3.40 ME Love you too, mind my gin
CHAT
5pm DH Landed at rush hour do you want anything from ikea I’m letting the traffic off
5.19 ME yes two deck chairs and meatballs
6.30 DH leaving ikea see you in 2hrs
CHAT
8pm DH I’m at the bypass turn on the oven
ME, Are you wrecked will we want him GOT?? Lots of small talk,

8.30 DH home in the door pjs on -tv on made 2 g&t’s NO CHAT 🤣

Having to chat about my day all at once feels like homework !!
I’d much rather a drip feed lol

I call my Mama

Love chatting to her on my way home!

But Whoops none of that is really chatting about your day (apart from the good morning messages, but if he's in another country that doesn't count either!). It's the stuff almost everyone has said they do, like asking if your OH wants anything from the shop you're at. That doesn't count as messaging without purpose.

I can't imagine running out of things to talk about? We've been together 20 years and he's still my best friend.

He leaves for work at 6:30 am and gets home anytime between 8 and midnight. I like knowing how his day is going and vice versa.

I do this when I get in the car each evening. Is it weird then? He gets the kids from the cm so we check in on their day, plans for the evening, I let him know if I’m running late etc. Sometimes we just have a gossip about our days. We like each other. I don’t get why it’s odd

It isn't odd, I love that me and my Dh do this too and still after 16 years together, it brightens my day when I get a message from him and hopefully he feels the same (I'm pretty sure he does) also we never run out of things to say

That doesn't count as messaging without purpose.

Me and my DH do all that organising messaging but their might be a text from him/me saying "Ugh this place is wrecking my head" "Think I'm going to be bad and get chips for lunch" just thoughts that pop into our heads

I used to yes. It's nice to have a quick chat with him before we get home and kids are around listening.

Now our workplaces are close together and we drive home together. I love that time just me and him! Especially now the kids are getting older and don't go up til 9pm. It's our couple time.

It’s called being utterly CO-DEPENDANT!!

It’s called being utterly CO-DEPENDANT!!

You seem very angry about couples communicating with eachother during the day

No. But I'll ring him sometimes to see if he wants anything from the shops.

I'm housebound much of the time and my husband regularly calls to check I've taken my medication, eaten, see how I'm doing etc. He usually calls to let me know when he's setting off from work, too, and if he sees deer or foxes etc near to the house. He knows I love to hear about that kind of thing.

I text him to tell him I’m leaving, but then I’m often delayed. Plus he runs me a bath for when I get in so I guess it’s handy for him to know what time I’ve left.

If I’m on nights I text when I’ve left and when I’ve got home safely as he worries about me driving home tired

We tend to text ‘inbound’ when we’re all n the way home so the other one knows they don’t need to rush

I touch base with my husband loads. Not because I have anything intelligent to say... sometimes it's just to ask that he brings home bread or to ask him if he's been home on the last week! (He works crazy shifts and sometimes I think he's gone AWOL!)

I do. I've got a 45 minute commute with crazy drivers, so I generally text him when I get their and let him know I'm heading home and ask if I need to pick anything up for dinner.

We Whatsapp all day too. Nothing major, just send each other interesting news articles, etc.

Is there something wrong with talking to your spouse during the day?

Is there something wrong with talking to your spouse during the day?

Yes you needy, controlling an co dependant, you're not allowed to speak to him unless it's an emergency

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