To ask if you call your DH everyday when you get off work?

[Justcurious1]

A colleague of mine phones her DH everyday as soon as she gets off work, literally as soon as she gets out of the door. We get off at the same time everyday, and she phones him aswell in her lunch break. I know it's none of my business, but I'm just curious how many of you do this? And if it's a done thing and I'm the odd one out? I sometimes wonder why she doesn't just go home without calling?

Paranoia!!!! We care about each other, we like talking to each other.

Of course the majority of people get to work safely but quite a few don't - road accidents, heart attacks etc.

Why would you care about other people's conversations on the train? You and your OH don't speak during the day fine but many many couples do.

As to the poster who finds it odd well I find it odd that another poster has said they are on a course for the week and yet has not contacted their OH.

I can maybe understand couples who don't contact each other every day if they are seeing each other anyway but if one is away? I just don't get that. Don't you miss each other? Don't you miss the conversation?

I don't lead a thrilling life but I always have loads of things to tell DH. When we run out of things to talk about I will be worried

I don't live with my chap and we only voice call for something urgent, usually the days we get together so it's a "can you pick up some milk on your way over, I forgot" call. On days we don't see each other it's just a few what's app exchanges. But I hate phone calls with anyone

dh does this ever day as he leaves work. lets me know what train he is going to be on and how his day is.. I enjoy it...

I called him today in my lunch at college because I felt like it we spoke for 5 mins then said bye and got on with our day.

I do. Ring dp then my nan on the way home.
No abuse here, just habit.

Oh I would always do this... I would finish different times each day though. Just to ask who was putting dinner on, say hi 👋 would only be like a 3 minute chat... say I was looking forward to seeing him. Didn't realise it was a weird thing to do

We text each other around lunch tome each day, to ask how each other’s day is going and check plans for that evening (very busy lives, one DS so always useful to check everyone has remembered what they are doing that day!). We do because we both naturally think about each other around that time and we like to talk to each other. It’s only ever one or two texts, but it shows we’re thinking of each other and if we ever forget I feel a bit weird end of day when I realise!

We don't speak unless something urgent happens - but we do use the family whatsapp group. "I'm on the 19:42 from Waterloo should arrive 20:16" that sort of thing. "Can you pick up some milk in M&S" etc.

Generally phone DH on way home, just to plan kids, tea etc.

We don’t.
If we need each other for anything we text but I have to have my phone off at work so very little chatter.

My friend does this , she calls her husband as soon as she’s dropped the kids at school and she’s on her way home, they literally just saw each other ,then they speak throughout the day and then they speak before he leaves the office for home.
I just find it weird .. dh and I text if we have a question or something but rarely talk on the phone unless it’s important

We text or email a couple of times a day but would only speak on the phone if needed e.g. When we were buying our house and relaying messages from the estate agent or solicitor. We do text when we're leaving work so we know who'll be in first to start tea and if something needs picking up or train is late /traffic looks bad etc

Dh calls me while he eats his lunch every day. He works 12 hour shifts with 1.5 hour commute, so out of the house for a large chunk of time

My DH and I chat on the phone at various points during the day - have an earwigging teen in the house so it’s often easier to have a grown up talk on the drive to/from work or lunch break rather than risk being listened in on...

Also there’s really nobody I’d rather talk to (sorry, soppy)

My DH texts when he's on the train every night. But only so I know what time to have dinner ready, he doesn't always get the train at the same time. Also delays and cancellations happen. Other than that it's usually a few texts throughout the day, some days we don't text at all.

No we text sometimes in the day, but if we dint is not a thing, we just know the other is busy. When I used to commute if I got stuck in hideous traffic I'd call for a chat because I was bored (phone linked to car) and he used to work closer to home than me

My DP calls me every day when he finishes work to let me know he's on his way home, sometimes it's literally just that and other times we will chat while he drives. I Don't really know why he calls me to tell me that but just always has.

My best friends DH calls her constantly 'just to chat' and it drives me round the bend if I am out with her as we get to do anything together so rarely due to families and work. I think it's really rude when he calls her knowing we have met up for lunch for possibly just one hour especially when she's been with him the rest of the day, and I know it annoys the hell out of her too. I'm not saying he shouldn't call her if he needs to of course but it really is just to chat and normally starts with him asking her what she's up to as if he doesn't know!

Dh usually calls me on his walk from work to the train station - we call it the “5.35” usually just “what’s shall we have for dinner”, are the trains delayed etc.

That said - despite the chit chat when dh comes in from work he can be monosyllabic for around half an hour (despite being keen to bloody call on his way)

No. If I called my dh, he would assume I was on the way to hospital and something horrific had happened. I do message him when I get on the train though to let him know when I’ll be home. To each their own though.

We often chat at least once during the day- DH sometimes just seeing how I am (I've not been well for a while) or for some domestic relating thing. And then- because both our jobs are based in and around London and we don't actually live in the city, there's often the frantic 'shit- my train's cancelled. Can you get DD from after school club' kind of thing. But when we call each other it's not because we feel we must it's just nice or out of necessity!

Each to their own but I would feel suffocated by this level of contact!!

I might text something I know he would find funny, or pictures of DC doing something cute. Otherwise it is emergencies and requests to pick up milk only!

DH phones me on his lunch break more often than he doesn’t. It’s just a ‘check-in’ call. We both like it, but it’s not a big deal. If he works through his lunch / goes to the gym instead / has lunch with colleagues / just doesn’t fancy a chat there’s no issue. Same goes if I don’t answer, nobody gets upset. It’s never occurred to me that people might think we’re in a abusive or controlling relationship.

Having said I call my dp when I leave work if he is away with friends or I am away we may not speak for a few days. Might message every day, might speak, might not. There is no expectation nor pressure to call.

I ring DH whenever I can for a chat as, its cheesy, but he's my best friend and he cheers me up.

DH and I text throughout the day pretty consistently. If one of us has a meeting or event that we were particularly worried about/waiting on a decision on something at work we’d check in and ask. Also things like what are the plans for the evening/dinner etc. Or just funny memes, things we’ve found out about during the day...we’ve always done that. I don’t think it’s unusual.

I have friends who constantly phone their husbands and it drives me mad. There were 4 of us went to London by train one day and by the time we arrived in London every one of them had had one oe two calls to/from the husbands. I was amused. My husband went to Ireland recently and a friend was shocked that I was not sure if it was Dublin or Belfast. He might phone or text a goodnight hug but not always but I know he is there to chat if I need to.