AIBU to ask you to persuade me not to hand my notice in right now and to help me formulate a better, longer term escape plan instead?

[SaageGreen]

Because I'm struggling today and I feel like I want to just do it but suspect that I would regret it quite soon

Promise yourself you'll sleep on it. What's the situation?

Are you a teacher?

Not enough information to decide if YABU to ask but I guess it's OK.

I have quit one job when it got too much without any plans of what to do next. It was the best thing I could have done at the time but everyone's circumstances are different of course.

Only quit if you have enough savings to cover you for at least 3 months

I think I'm having a bit of a crisis/breakdown. I think that's a good reason to postpone a decision.

I have about £8k to my name, I could survive on that. Plus the 3 months' wages for seeing out my notice.

I'm not a teacher, but going back in to teaching would be my safety net, and I really don't think that's going to be great for my wellbeing.

I felt like this. I was sat crying at my desk. I knew it was time to go. I just couldn't continue.

I rang the doctor and was signed off straight away. I didn't even see a doctor in person

I went into my mangers office, told him I was just popping out to an appointment over my lunch break, and I never went back. I handed in my notice after four weeks, then got signed off for my notice period, and managed to get another job that started straight after my notice finished.

Can you get signed off? I know it's not ideal but you can't go on feeling like you are.

See your doctor & ask to be signed off work for stress - that will give you a little breathing space & time to work out exactly what you want to do. Then if you still feel the same in a few days you can hand your notice in.
What is your situation? Have these feelings been triggered by a particular incident or is this something that has been building up over time?
Hope you're ok OP

I'm working from home today, but have had the longest, ugliest cry I've had in a long time. I feel better for it, but exhausted.
I know that it's calling-the-doctor-stage, but I think I'm in a bit of denial as I can't persuade myself to call. Feels a bit dramatic.

I can't go on feeling like this, but don't know what to do.

Can you tell us more about your situation and why you are unhappy?

I'm a complete, fucking mess.

It's been building for a while. There was a bit of a re-organisation so my job feels different, I guess, even though on paper it looks the same. I used to have so much autonomy but now I have so many people interfering and it's so time-consuming responding to their interference. Plus my lovely line manager is stepping down and going part time, and I feel really emotional about that too. I'm a mess.

Can you tell us more about your situation and why you are unhappy?

I feel like I can't see the wood for the trees. I want to write more but I just start sobbing again.

I'm worried that I'm losing my mind.

Try and keep going till you find something better. Trouble is that if it takes a while to find something, your savings will soon dwindle. Pull on those big girl pants, grit your teeth and push on. I hope that you find something soon.

Its doctor time.

I was scared but he was so lovely. You'll feel better. Not straight away (I cried most of the first week) but it will start to feel better.

Trouble is that if it takes a while to find something, your savings will soon dwindle.

I know :( I feel like I just want to never work again.

Pull on those big girl pants, grit your teeth and push on.

I've been doing that for far too long now.

I was scared but he was so lovely. You'll feel better. Not straight away (I cried most of the first week) but it will start to feel better.

I just can't. I just can't. You're so kind to take the time to reply.

I am in a similar situation
I have found reading this helpful to stick it out until I can leave
www.amazon.co.uk/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713/ref=sr_1_1?s=gateway&crid=2FV8KZC6B5I2W&keywords=the+subtle+art+of+not+giving+a+fck&sprefix=the+subtle+art%2Caps%2C174&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1557840329&sr=8-1

I had the same, I was being bullied by my line manager, I escalated it further but no one would believe me, I got signed off sick, was off for 6 months, handed my notice in at 5 months, I never went back

Can I ask why you can't do it? Just so I can understand, I'm not trying to be aggressive.

I have read so many books. Books on happiness, books on escaping the rat race, books on self-employment, books on midlife crises.

I spend loads on books and justify it to myself because I'm so miserable that I might as well get some benefit from the job.

I've done all of right things. I've gone part-time. I've retrained alongside my job (in counselling, there's no money in it, I'm a middle-aged, middle class cliche).

(Thanks ChinHair I'll look up his blog and read it once I've stopped fucking my life up).

Can I ask why you can't do it? Just so I can understand, I'm not trying to be aggressive.

Erm. Good question.

I think I'm denying the seriousness of my situation. Like I don't want to admit it. I can't quite manage my thoughts and feelings this afternoon. For some reason, after starting this thread, cleaning the toilet became as important as handling this situation.

You’ve been strong enough and brave enough to post here; that’s brilliant. Can you do one more brave thing right now and make an appointment with your GP?

I would never advise making a big decision when you’re feeling so terrible. Much better to ask to be signed off with stress for now, investigate counselling and/or medication, rest your poor brain for a while and then regroup. But the first step is speaking to your Doctor. xx

This has just happened to a colleague of mine and time out signed off is really the best way to get your thoughts and feelings together