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To ask what's going on with my body?!

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QueenBeex · 14/05/2019 08:36

Good morning!
Ok so just to get it out the way with for people that may ask, no I'm not here asking you to tell me if I'm pregnant, the answer to that is no I'm definitely not.

Since I started my period aged 12 if I remember correctly I've never ever been more than 4 days late in my life (mid twenties now) last month i was a few days late nothing alarming though.

However this month I've had period pains for the last 2 weeks, im currently 14 days late and yesterday morning I had a very small amount of brown blood but absolutely nothing at all since, yet still the pains!

What is going on! This is driving me mad, when I'm at work with the pains i rush to the toilet with a tampon because I don't want to leak but there's nothing, its so strange for my body personally, my cycle is normally so regular.

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jellyfrizz · 16/05/2019 08:17

"I can't believe you've done this to me". You didn't steal his sperm and secretly inseminate yourself. He's the one that ejaculated inside you.

^^This. If not having children is so important to him he could take responsibility for his own fertility and go get a vasectomy.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 16/05/2019 08:18

Bloody cheek!

He's the one with the willy that a condom should have been put on!

Bigmango · 16/05/2019 08:47

Awww I love this story. Both my dad and my brother’s dad left her pregnant, high and dry. Neither of us were planned. She still maintains that we were the best thing to ever happen to her and I’m bloody glad it all turned out the way it did (obviously!). Congratulations!

picklemepopcorn · 16/05/2019 08:57

Congrats, Queen B.

This must feel so shocking, but you've got rid of a man who wasn't worth having (and his current behaviour proves that)!

AndOutComeTheBoobs · 16/05/2019 09:05

Unprotected sex 2-3 months ago surely means you're 3-4 months pregnant?

Scan time??

Your ex is a tit. How can you do this to him?! He didn't use a condom. He does realise the condom goes on his nob, right?

He's pissed off with himself and he's taking it out on you.
But to end the relationship is absolutely abominable.

RiversDisguise · 16/05/2019 09:09

He's pathetic.

As others said, please give the baby your surname. Inter alia, it will make travel abroad much easier later on if you and your child share a name.

fizzandchips · 16/05/2019 09:55

A lot to take in, but wanted to say congratulations.

BarbedBloom · 16/05/2019 10:05

Congratulations. It must be overwhelming but just take one day at a time

Omzlas · 16/05/2019 10:29

I can't believe you've done this to me

Wanker. He had the choice of wearing a condom and he chose not to. He had part to play in this and if he was SO against children, he'd have made sure he took all precautions. Like condoms. Every time. Or a vasectomy.

Good luck OP

ShadowsInTheDarkness · 16/05/2019 10:43

Yeah don't apologise to him!! You were engaged ffs, just imagine how awful it would have been to get married, have this situation happen further down the line and him either stick around and resent the baby which would be an awful environment for a child to grow up in, or for him to walk away! Good riddance, and congratulations!

i found out I was pregnant at 11 weeks with my first. Few years younger than you are now, and then BF was unhappy with the situation but stuck around. I should have walked away from that relationship then as it got messy and abusive as he just resented me and resented the baby. Several years down the line I'm married to a wonderful man who adores my kids and sees them as his own. Its worked out amazingly and my DC are the best things that ever happened to me. You'll be going through a whirlwind of emotions but it will all be worth it in the end. Congratulations OP!!

BambooB · 16/05/2019 11:20

Ah yay! Congratulations!!!!

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 16/05/2019 11:54

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QueenBeex · 16/05/2019 16:36

Unprotected sex 2-3 months ago surely means you're 3-4 months pregnant?

Well I was confused about this tbh! But I sat and worked it out yesterday with my doctor as was asked about the dates we had sex etc so when I actually looked at my work Rota and the shift I was on i worked it out what night it was (what a way of working it out eh) and it wasn't as long ago as I thought, In the worry of it all i must of got muddled up with how long ago it was so I've worked out the unprotected sex wasn't 2 - 3 months ago at all it was more like 6 ish weeks ago.
I have been told I'll speak to a midwife between now and Monday.

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RozHuntleysStump · 16/05/2019 20:36

Very best of luck to you x

Tigerlilly17 · 16/05/2019 21:05

Bless you, and congratulations. I was at work on nights on a surgical ward testing patients for pregnancy before surgery when I did one just for the crack as I had been feeling sickly. If I hadn’t been sat on the loo, I’d have fell on the floor in shock. I was on the pill and never missed.
When he was 6 month old , it happened again despite taking my pill daily .
Everything works out for the best in the end.
I’m sorry your relationship is in a bad way, but things have a way of working out either way.
Btw , I cried at everything in the first few months lol

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