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To ask what's going on with my body?!

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QueenBeex · 14/05/2019 08:36

Good morning!
Ok so just to get it out the way with for people that may ask, no I'm not here asking you to tell me if I'm pregnant, the answer to that is no I'm definitely not.

Since I started my period aged 12 if I remember correctly I've never ever been more than 4 days late in my life (mid twenties now) last month i was a few days late nothing alarming though.

However this month I've had period pains for the last 2 weeks, im currently 14 days late and yesterday morning I had a very small amount of brown blood but absolutely nothing at all since, yet still the pains!

What is going on! This is driving me mad, when I'm at work with the pains i rush to the toilet with a tampon because I don't want to leak but there's nothing, its so strange for my body personally, my cycle is normally so regular.

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Iwrotethissongfor · 14/05/2019 23:16

You can check whatever med/s you’re taking here www.medicinesinpregnancy.org/bumps/Links/

Brighteyesburning · 14/05/2019 23:18

Congratulations OP

I don’t want to worry you but period pain and brown spotting were the symptoms of my ectopic pregnancy so it’s worth mentioning to the dr tomorrow.

I’ve read lots of stories on here on where that isn’t the case and all is fine but you can’t be too careful.

Take care

justasking111 · 14/05/2019 23:40

You have to see GP for the reason that you are taking some medication which may be contra indicated for pregnancy.

Wow!!

SmellMySmellbow · 15/05/2019 07:57

Knew it! Congratulations OP. Best of luck with the fiance chat and GP

LadySainsburySeal · 15/05/2019 08:34

Best wishes x

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QueenBeex · 15/05/2019 09:23

GP app in 20mins, they're concerned over the phone about the effect the medication could of had. So I'm sat here crying and apparently very single.
Ha dunno if I should keep crying or laugh tbh none of this seems real in the slightest sounds like something a situation you hear about but don't actually go through yourself!

Again,thanks everyone

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QueenBeex · 15/05/2019 09:24

I'm emotional very strong normally so the fact I'm even crying is weird for me! But I'll be okay, shit happens and all that eh!

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QueenBeex · 15/05/2019 09:25

Emotionally strong * that was meant to say

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QueenBeex · 15/05/2019 09:26

Thank you Chickydoo that made me feel slightly better

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Coffeeisnecessary · 15/05/2019 09:32

I hope the doctors can offer some reassurance. Your fiance sounds shit but at least you found out now what kind of man he is. Good luck at doctors. Sending good thoughts.

SmellMySmellbow · 15/05/2019 10:40

Did you tell him then?

RiversDisguise · 15/05/2019 10:44

Congrats. Babies are better than men.

avocadosrus · 15/05/2019 10:47

What @coffeeisnecessary said with a cherry on top. I hope that you go on ok at the docs!

FizzyGreenWater · 15/05/2019 10:53

A man who is happy to have unprotected sex with someone he's engaged to, intends to marry - in the full knowledge that if she gets pregnant he'll walk away without a second though is not a man worth marrying. No discussion.

Whatever happens, the fact that you've found this out now is an absolute gift, hard though it might be. Your posts hint heavily that the relationship had drifted anyway.

I hope all is well with the pregnancy and best of luck!

FizzyGreenWater · 15/05/2019 10:55

Oh and I know this might be running ahead a little but... think very hard (and maybe ask for support on here!) about how to go about things with your ex. Think hard before putting him on the birth certificate. Don't feel obliged to include him in anything you feel is overly intimate - scans, certainly not the birth - the pregnancy is about you, and is nothing to do with him. Above all, if you're not together, DO NOT give the baby his surname no matter what!

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QueenBeex · 15/05/2019 17:29

Again, thank you everyone for the advice & support.

FizzyGreenWater what you said basically hits the nail on the head on the situation.

I've been to the doctors this morning, all is well however they do want me to be seen more regularly than normal just for now due to medication and stuff which wasn't good to take during pregnancy, and obviously I have been taking it before the little break I mentioned in an earlier comment on the thread.

I've spent most the day crying, but onwards and upwards, just me and the baby from now on so it seems. I do luckily have the most amazing family which I'm super close to so that makes me feel so much better about it all.

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Fluffymullet · 15/05/2019 19:30

Wow, what an intense 24hours you have just had! Not surprised you have spent most of the day crying! I imagine your partner is as shocked as you are are the moment, but as previous posters have said, it could be a blessing in disguise to see his true colours early. Good luck with everything x

Temp1929 · 15/05/2019 19:40

Congratulations! Just thought I'd add, my mum was told she would never have children, she then had 2!

Claphands · 15/05/2019 21:39

Your ex fiancé sounds like a right idiot! Good luck with the pregnancy

Brenna24 · 15/05/2019 23:34

Congratulations. I am sorry that your ex-fiancè was a plonker. For what it's worth, I think that you have the better end of the deal having a baby and losing him. Better that this happened now before you were married. I agree with everything that @fizzygreen water said.

LellyMcKelly · 16/05/2019 00:26

Congratulations, that’s lovely news. I’m sorry to hear your ex is a dickhead, but better to find out now that a few more years down the line. It sounds like you have a great support network in place.

SarahBeeney · 16/05/2019 07:32

Congratulations.
I thought you would be pregnant....I was surprised how strong the pains were in early pregnancy as everything is stretching.

Presumably you now have to wait for a scan date?

I hope your family are being supportive Flowers

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QueenBeex · 16/05/2019 07:47

We've been texting a bit, well I've been texting saying I'm sorry this situation has happened but I dont regret my unborn child, and my ex is just saying I can't believe you've done this to me Confused so yeah I guess it'll get easier because I'll be focusing on other things Halo it's just hit me that I am very much heartbroken and scared by the reality of it all, not how I found it would turn out but like people have said id rather go through this now instead of in 8 months time!

Yeah I've to wait for a scan now, apparently that'll be in the next week or so if they can fit me in

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SmellMySmellbow · 16/05/2019 08:10

" I can't believe you've done this to me". You didn't steal his sperm and secretly inseminate yourself. He's the one that ejaculated inside you. What a twat. I'm sorry OP, but the clouds will lift one day and you'll see how well rid you are. And you'll have a BABY! Hooray!

SmellMySmellbow · 16/05/2019 08:10

Oh and don't bloody apologise to him again!