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Or are my neighbors both CF?!

124 replies

Lovethetimeyouhave · 14/05/2019 07:17

We moved from a tiny flat into a 0 about a week ago now and it has been absolutely lovely, we love the space, it is 3 bedrooms for ds, dp and myself, one of the rooms is being used as an office as I work from home.

On Sunday (5 days after moving in) I was in the garden building the trampoline for ds, my neighbor on the right came out so excited to meet me (second time as she already knocked for a net curtain I was throwing out that I said she could have) and show me her baby son. In under 5 minutes I knew all about her life, how she hates living in her house and.... wants her, her baby and her partner to move in with us! I laughed it off politely and carried on making the trampoline. About half an hour later we were eating BBQ and she beckoned me over again, this time with her partner there, she said how they would love to move in, they'd pay rent, and would leave her MIL (and other family they share with) in the house.... I said I'd speak to my partner and have avoided them since...

Yesterday after finishing work, I came out of the room to find the neighbors son from the left on my landing! He's 4!

When questioning ds he said he was on the trampoline, came inside, when he went back out the kid had been lifted over the fence by the dad and was on the trampoline!!

They're cheeky right? I need to sort this some how!

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LuluBellaBlue · 14/05/2019 07:27

Yes both are! Good luck OP Confused

OhMyDarling · 14/05/2019 07:29

How bizarre. Higher fence? With extra high trellis added on?

CoraPirbright · 14/05/2019 07:30

One is downright weird (wanting to move in with you Confused) and the other is a CF! Taller fences make better neighbours! Get yourself down to B&Q for some trellis and lovely clematis!

TessieVanKendre · 14/05/2019 07:30

WTF!!??? They are definitely CMF!!

Ruru8thestars · 14/05/2019 07:31

Omg a higher fence for sure

StoorieHoose · 14/05/2019 07:31

Sorry I'm confused. They want to move in with you and you said you'd speak to your partner??

vintagesewingmachine · 14/05/2019 07:34

Nip this very firmly in the bud now or they will just keep pestering and pushing. Just tell them you are enjoying your new home after coming from a tiny cramped flat and have no wish to share your space with anyone else. If they hate where they live and say they can pay rent, let them pay rent elsewhere.

KC225 · 14/05/2019 07:34

Why on earth would you say 'I'll talk to my partner' when she suggested moving in. I understand that sometimes you get caught out in the moment but when something so utterly bat shit is said you shut it down. As in 'Not in a million years, this is a family home for us and JUST US'. I'll talk to my partner, suggests that you are actually considering. People like this don't react to subtle hints.

Go round there and say, they are not allowed to their child over the fence to us your garden. Tell then you have a close friend that visits with a territorial angry dog. Tell them, their son wandered into the house where you had dangerous tools and chemicals out. It was dangerous and anytning could have happened.

Singlenotsingle · 14/05/2019 07:38

You have to set the boundaries now (in both senses)! Otherwise they'll be moving in! You've got got years ahead of you, having to deal with this, unless you deal with it NOW!

Morgan12 · 14/05/2019 07:38

They want to move in with you?

What the hell. This is so weird.

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Lovethetimeyouhave · 14/05/2019 07:39

With regards to saying I'd talk to my partner, I was caught out and literally have never had anyone so forward, I have said we should put higher fences up both sides but dp thinks it is too hostile!!

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ShiveringCoyote · 14/05/2019 07:39

Can I move in with you?
Answer: what the hell are you on about, of course not, don't be so ridiculous.

Nip this shite in the bud now. High trellis, and the word NO.

UCOinanOCG · 14/05/2019 07:40

The man who lifted his 4yo DS over to play on the trampoline is your normal garden variety CF

The woman who wants to move in with you is scary and a bit mad. Why on earth did you say you would speak to your DH? Now she thinks you are considering it.

You must live in a very strange place.

Tingface · 14/05/2019 07:43

Woah. That’s whole new level CFery.

StoorieHoose · 14/05/2019 07:45

Where is being put on the spot but come on! What was the first thing that came into your head - it was probably Hell No. There is no need to polite to a request like that!

Slicedpineapple · 14/05/2019 07:47

Who cares if it looks hostile, they're being weird. Put up higher fences or a trellis. Next time she brings up moving in just say no, we have moved from a tiny flat, this is our family home.

I think lifting the kid over to use the trampoline is unfortunately normal neighbour CF behaviour if you haven't set boundaries to not do this. Sadly I know others that do this.

Nousernameforme · 14/05/2019 07:47

Trouble is you have got to be niceish otherwise risk a neighbour from hell situation.

First off tell cf no1 that you are not insured to have renters/lodgers and it would cause issues with your mortgage.

Cf no2 pop round and say you would love their ds to come and play but for safetys sake can they wait until your ds calls for him just so you can supervise trampolene use.

ShiveringCoyote · 14/05/2019 07:50

Well tell DH it would look more hostile if or when the neighbours child gets hurt in your garden and you are liable.

Pinkyyy · 14/05/2019 07:54

Well the right hand neighbour is batshit crazy and the one on the left is a complete CF. Imagine helping yourself to your neighbours trampoline, and what's more, throwing your kid over the fence to do so.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 14/05/2019 07:54

Need to nip in bud....

No we're full and we want our home for just us.
And repeat ad nauseum. ...

I wouldn't get too friendly with her either. ... I can guess that this will be a continual theme from them....we hate living with Mil. ..you have a nice flat ...we'll move in....

CuriousaboutSamphire · 14/05/2019 07:54

You're going to have to be blunt.

Ask her if she realises how weird it is to ask someone you don't know if you can move into their home.

And yes, taller fence, trellis etc.

Tell them to stop, every time, all the time!

GarnierBBCream · 14/05/2019 07:55

Hinting and the MN tinkly little laugh and shit like 'I'll speak to my partner' don't work with people like this. You should have lifted the child back over the fence. 'Oh, no, we just moved out of a cramped flat to enjoy more space we don't want to share it out.'

Dippypippy1980 · 14/05/2019 08:02

This lady sounds like she has either mental health or developmental issues. You should have returned them child and explained that it is unacceptable to lift the child into your garden and it must not happen again.

You will need to be very blunt with these people. There is something very odd here.

ButDoYouAvocado · 14/05/2019 08:03

This exact thing didn't happen to me yesterday!

YoThePussy · 14/05/2019 08:03

Hostile be fucked, I’d be down B&Q buying a roll of barbed wire to put along the fence to stop uninvited trampoline users and your potential new tenants. You have a hopefully long and lovely summer to enjoy your garden so all repellers need to be kept out. Makes you wonder why the previous people moved!

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