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Or are my neighbors both CF?!

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Lovethetimeyouhave · 14/05/2019 07:17

We moved from a tiny flat into a 0 about a week ago now and it has been absolutely lovely, we love the space, it is 3 bedrooms for ds, dp and myself, one of the rooms is being used as an office as I work from home.

On Sunday (5 days after moving in) I was in the garden building the trampoline for ds, my neighbor on the right came out so excited to meet me (second time as she already knocked for a net curtain I was throwing out that I said she could have) and show me her baby son. In under 5 minutes I knew all about her life, how she hates living in her house and.... wants her, her baby and her partner to move in with us! I laughed it off politely and carried on making the trampoline. About half an hour later we were eating BBQ and she beckoned me over again, this time with her partner there, she said how they would love to move in, they'd pay rent, and would leave her MIL (and other family they share with) in the house.... I said I'd speak to my partner and have avoided them since...

Yesterday after finishing work, I came out of the room to find the neighbors son from the left on my landing! He's 4!

When questioning ds he said he was on the trampoline, came inside, when he went back out the kid had been lifted over the fence by the dad and was on the trampoline!!

They're cheeky right? I need to sort this some how!

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Nameusernameuser · 14/05/2019 08:04

OP just laugh and say you moved for more space, not less Grin how bizarre though!

LucyAutumn · 14/05/2019 08:10

Bizarre! Both need to be nipped in the bud immediately

Omzlas · 14/05/2019 08:11

Full blown CF

Deal with it now, or you'll be one of those posters that posts again but starts with "we've lived next to CF for 5 years and over that period....."

Likethebattle · 14/05/2019 08:14

How weird

my2bundles · 14/05/2019 08:15

If neighbour 1 carries on report her for harassment, it's not normal behaviour With neighbour 2 I had similar and told them it was out of bounds to other children for safety reasons. Nip it in the bud now.

Jellybeansincognito · 14/05/2019 08:15

Wow what is wrong with people?

I’d probably start looking to move tbh. Couldn’t cope with that, or the hostility if you deal with it. Good luck op!

TrickyKid · 14/05/2019 08:17

Did you ask the previous owners if they had any issues with the neighbours? No wonder they moved.

Genevieva · 14/05/2019 08:19

You'll need to know who owns which fence! Attach trellis to the top of your fence so that it is 8ft high. You can say you want to grow a clematis or something. Then out a taller fence on your side of the fence that isn't yours. You can get cheap roll-out bamboo screening.

With regards to the trampoline, if it happens again you will need to say something. You can't be liable for injury, so you can't have people on the trampoline without your knowledge, consent and supervision.

Geminijes · 14/05/2019 08:19

Your neighbour asks to move in with you and you're asking if they are a CF?
Do you really think that's normal behaviour from someone you have only just met?

Op, I can't believe that you said you would discuss it with your husband. No matter, how stunned you were because they asked, surely you would have known they were being cheeky and just told them no.

Think you need to become more assertive.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 14/05/2019 08:25

Not so much CF but bat shit crazy. Ask them not to let their child into your garden- with regards to moving in (wtf) just half laugh and say “we don’t have the room”- don’t engage further

Mintandthyme · 14/05/2019 08:30

Don’t be a mumsnet doormat.

churchthecat · 14/05/2019 08:34

WTF?

DeadBod · 14/05/2019 08:34

Where do all these bat shit crazy neighbours come from?

AgathaF · 14/05/2019 08:36

Wow. Just wow.

ChocChocButtons · 14/05/2019 08:37

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Genevieva · 14/05/2019 08:40

That was my fist reaction ChocChoc, but then I thought I would go along with it. Maybe the poor woman next-door was having a bad day. The trampoline scenario is relative common though. Glad I don't really have neighbours.

Dillydallyalltheway · 14/05/2019 08:40

Surely both the neighbours are playing a “welcome” prank on you? Either that or you have moved onto a street full of half way houses for CF’s.

Nip it in the bud now otherwise, life is going to be major shit for you and your family.

Wheresthebeach · 14/05/2019 08:42

So the father lifted a 4 yr old over a fence, and let them bounce on a trampoline unsupervised?

Sallyseagull · 14/05/2019 08:44

I just don't understand why you didn't immediately say no to them moving in and said you'd think about it or discuss it with your partner? Unless you're actually considering it?

Sexnotgender · 14/05/2019 08:46

That’s insane! You need to tell CF1 not in a million years.

regmover · 14/05/2019 08:51

Really??? a) Don't be daft, of course you can't move in with us. b) Please don't put your child in our garden again. It's not safe and we value our privacy.

HolesinTheSoles · 14/05/2019 08:52

That goes beyond cf territory into down right barmy.

You need to be a brick wall (perhaps literally) against this kind of crazy. Kid comes over the fence kid goes right back over again (even if on this particular occasion you wouldn't mind the kid being there). Then buy a huge fence. They beckon you over to chat say 'sorry we're just having a bbq can't chat now'.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 14/05/2019 08:53

Err, where the actual fuck do you live, some bizarre dystopian kibbutz style village?

OF COURSE they're being CFs, you surely don't even have to ask.

Yes to higher fences both sides - the one you don't own, put another one up on your side of it - OR grow a spiky fast growing bush there, like holly or berberis.

Tell them both that your house and garden are not communal property and you will thank them both to keep their children to themselves - you're not an unpaid babysitter either. In fact, bill the dad on the left for however long he left his child in YOUR garden. He's an irresponsible arse though, who lets their 4yo loose on a trampoline without supervision?!

I don't think you can really have decent relationships with either of them.

Iwantacookie · 14/05/2019 08:57

Seriously?
Ide worry about your ndn if they have lifted their child into the garden of a person who they don't know.
Tell batshit neighbour 1 no your not moving in but if you go to your local lettings agency they'll be able to help you.
Tell batshit neighbour 2 not put their child in your garden or next time you will phone the police and report a lost child.
Op you've moved into the twilight zone. Good luck.

Julesbean · 14/05/2019 09:00

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