To want to take on, possibly adopt, my nephew.

[Krishna39]

Without giving away too much information, I really need some advice and opinions.
My sister is quite a volatile person, to the extent that one of her children despises her and has moved out of the family home. However, he's gone from one toxic environment to another whilst living with his father.
A friend of my sister has come to me, really concerned about her wellbeing as well as my nephew's wellbeing too.
My husband and I are able to provide him with a loving home, a stable routine and environment. We don't have children ourselves but I have a fantastic relationship with my nephew and truly believe that he would benefit from coming to live with us.
I understand that this is a life-changing event and it would mean that we would have to consider the school run, the holidays, work, changes to routine, emotional health and funding etc. but it is something I think he really needs. I want to go into this with as much information and ideas as possible- would I get some support with regards to funding? My husband and I both work full-time and can provide a comfortable life for us all, but if we do take him on we could possibly need help with funding a bus pass for school etc.

Could anyone please offer some advice? TIA

Well as you think your DSis and DN's father will object it sounds as if your idea is a non-starter anyway. Although you may love your nephew dearly you can't just decide to take someone's child away from them, irrespective of where your nephew wants to live.

You say you cannot afford £600 for your DN's bus pass etc yet also say "I am willing to face any legal battles that may come with it." Legal fees can be astronomical soif you can't afford his bus pass it sounds unlikely you could afford legal fees.

Also, what would the legal fees be for? You cannot take your DM without your DSis' consent. If you do then the police would become involved, your DM would be returned home and you could face criminal charges. You surely can't think you can just take your DSis to court to get custody of her child?

I know you think you have, but you haven't thought this through properly at all. If it was that easy there would be masses of court cases where siblings or GP or ILs would be going to court for custody of a child relative.

I’m concerned about the other child/ren.

in the OP it mentions one of her children. Surely if one is at risk then the others must be too?

“Right now the only thing you need to decide is do the family need social services input? Because if they do then you need to involve them. Everything else is secondary to that. If you love this boy as you say you do and want to protect his safety then you need to contact social services.

You can’t only contact them if you decide you want him because if contacting them is conditional to whether you want this boy or not then you’re either not thinking about his safety or you don’t think the home environment is bad enough to warrant the input in which case you’re wasting your time debating this anyway.“

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