First night out after having DC

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How long after having DC before you had a night out?

I've planned a night out on June 1st for my birthday - my parents are having DS overnight. I'll be over a month post partum then.

My brother was critical of this and said it was too soon. Now I'm rethinking it and feel really guilty for even considering it 😥

AIBU?

10 months for ds2. Breastfeeding made it a bit trickier so may have left him sooner if FF.

You just don't know before hand how you will be. The first six weeks I was like a zombie, bad delivery, anaemia and lack of sleep.

I was 6 months with my eldest. She was breastfed and a bottle refused so was a huge pain so didn't bother again for a long while!

I left her with my husband though as we don't have anyone to look after children overnight.

No. If you feel up for it then do it.

It is none of your DB's business. Enjoy it!

Wow my dd is 2 and I still haven't been out. No babysitter s though

Why does it have anything to do with your brother?! Tell him when he gives birth he can decide when to go out but as it was you who had this baby you will decide.

No yanbu
Wait until the nearer the time, see how you feel.

DD was over a year old, she was breastfed, a bad sleeper and a mummy's girl. DS was 4 months, he's bottle fed, sleeps like a dream and will settle for anyone.

Almost 2 years 😂

It's nothing to do with your brother. As long as you're happy and your parents are happy, that's all that matters!

YANBU it’s none of his business at all.

A friend did a night out 3week PP but I think she did struggle. I found it hard to leave my baby (FTM) at 3 weeks for a over an hour really, but it just depends on how you’ll feel. Wouldn’t rush to commit but equally if you want to then definitely do it.

If your baby is gonna be left with a relative and is safe and happy there’s no problem. Everyone will have a different opinion on this but there is no right or wrong.

I have two DC. I went out for a night out when my eldest was 4 weeks old. But with my second she was about a year old.

Went to York overnight when ds was 8 weeks for my birthday

It would be too soon for an overnight for me even if I wasn't breastfeeding. Way too soon.

Both of mine it was about a month. Breastfeeding so wasn't out that long. Did me the world of good though even though I was exhausted.

10 weeks for me. Meal and pub with ladies from antenatal group. DP was left with expressed milk and when I came home baby was in bed I would have been happy having a night out earlier too, it just took us till now to arrange. Just see how you go!

DD was about 4 weeks when my mum minded her and dh and I went out for the afternoon/ evening.
Don't listen to your dB. It's fuck all to do with him.
Enjoy x

I wouldn't do an overnight though.

He was 8 weeks old when me and DH went out for dinner for a couple of hours. My DM babysat and I genuinely couldnt wait to get back to him! Not too early in my opinion though. Plan it in, you cab always cancel if you dont feel like it closer to the time!

Blimey, it was over 10 years before I had a night away! Except for being in hospital giving birth to the younger ones. You’re obviously not BFing so that makes it easier, but a month old seems a bit early to me.

Way too soon for me. Ignoring the fact that you'll miss your baby, most people at that stage feel terrible and completely knackered.

I went out for dinner when my LO was 2 months old- I was gone for like 3hrs (I couldn’t have done more simply due to tiredness). Agree it’s not anyone else’s business!

There’s a difference between an evening out but back at midnight to a whole night away from your 1 month old.

Your baby is already born? Then you must know how you are feeling and your individual circumstances! Don't worry about your brother!

First baby I had an evening out when he was about 4 months old.

Second baby is six months and I'm not interested in leaving him yet.

I’m with bunnybigears! When your brother gives birth, he can have an opinion.

I don’t think there’s any problem with going out when the baby’s that small - but you might want to wait and see how you feel when the baby is born. With my eldest, she was 5months the first time I went out without her and actually it felt too soon - I spent the whole evening feeling v emotional - so I didn’t repeat it for a while. With my second, he was 8months. My littlest is 8wks and I’m not yet ready to be a part from him but I think it all depends on the baby... Ignore your DB, just see what feels right to you.