Friend gave me her rubbish. AIBU to feel so hurt by this?

[MyShinyWhiteTeeth]

I've been struggling more for money the last few months. I am not broke but I have to really watch what I spend and budget.

A friend bought round some unwanted supplies as she knew I am short this month. I was really touched by her kindness at first but was then a bit shocked to find that all the food was out of date, opened or manky. She has very high standards on food so I'm amazed she could have found most of it acceptable.

The bread was mouldy, some of the jars were opened or way past their use by date, the vegetables were way past their best. From the two large bags of supplies she gave me only 2 items were not put straight in the bin after she left.

I feel really upset and let down by her. I can't believe she didn't notice it was all rubbish except for two obscure food items that I'll probably never use.

AIBU to want to end the friendship over this? It feels like I'm overreacting but I just feel so hurt she gave me two bags of rubbish and I thanked her so much.

[Milkn0sugar]

Just saw your updates.

[EmeraldRubyShark]

For those of you rolling your eyes that 'hey ho they posted in an internet forum, silly them', nope that was never explicit part of permission given in first place that it could be shared on other sites

Signing up to MN means agreeing to the terms and conditions, which state that once you’ve posted on here the content belongs to MN. Therefore they don’t have to stipulate what will happen to that info, they can do what they like with it. Imagine how ridiculously long the conditions would be if they tried to expressly detail every single possible way that information could be lifted from here and used elsewhere? They simply don’t need to. It belongs to them. If you don’t like it don’t use the site, nobody’s forcing you too.

People don’t realise that when a site is free you’re the product. MN don’t run the forum out of the goodness of their heart, it’s a commercial business. Users are able to participate for free because their attention and eyes are then sold to advertisers. If you want a different business model you’ll have to pay for it and subscribe to the forum with real money so they generate revenue another way. I suspect most people would rather it be free.

It’s not mandatory to use MN. It’s not remotely a safe space, there are no expectations of confidentiality, you’d have to go to a licensed professional for that such as a therapist. Posting on MN is done with the understanding that literally anyone with an internet connection can read your words. It being disseminated to a few more people via a newspaper isn’t anything compared to how many people frequent the forums.

People really do need to be educated better on how the internet works and take personal responsibility for reading the terms they’re signing up for. And if the risk reward ratio doesn’t work for you, you don’t get enough benefit from asking for advice here to offset the chance that your post will be directed to from elsewhere, go somewhere else.

How are people this naive?

[Janedoughnut]

either she's not a real friend and/or she has mental health issues

There's always one isn't there who puts rubbish like this on a thread. Do you realise how insulting it is to people with mental health issues when you equate nasty behaviour with suffering with mental health issues.

[Graceambrose]

Good day. One persons food is another persons rubbish. Just reply to your friend graciously.

[AryaStarkWolf]

Good day. One persons food is another persons rubbish. Just reply to your friend graciously.

The friend admitted to sending her gone off and mouldy food as a "joke"

[mouldyhousemouldylife]

Good day. One persons food is another persons rubbish. Just reply to your friend graciously.

This was literally just rubbish.

[Lizzie48]

I hate the way some people try to get away with bullying by claiming that the problem is that you ‘can’t take a joke’. It’s actually very much the behaviour that should be left behind in the playground.

Your friend was very cruel, OP, you didn’t deserve that.

[MyShinyWhiteTeeth]

@MummyParanoia101

Her text included something slightly unrelated, bringing something up from ages ago maybe? as an example that I'm not as great a person as I think I am(I think that's what she meant). Ended with a term of endearment she's never used on me before.

No one seems to have identified me in RL. Everything has been fine at work; it's a busy time so making it easier to just get on with stuff.