To be angry?if your boyfriend said this to another woman would you?

[sherbitdipp]

Went on boyfriends phone earlier as my phone was dead and needed to phone a taxi.
Message popped up from a woman I didn't know read a few messages previous.
He sent her one last night 8pm saying ...
"Wow if I knew you were wearing that outfit tonight I would have came out to find you"
Now aibu here or is that shit for him to say?
Why would he even say it?
I'm biting my tongue off here.

I think he wants to be her boyfriend, too. Bin him.

Yeah, that's really bad.

Oh dear not good.
Who is the woman? If it's someone he works with/knows quite well maybe he's just having a bit of a laugh/banter

I would be angry too.

That is really not good! I’d get rid of him pronto!

I wouldn’t accept that, I’d finish it over a comment like that, he’s shown his true colours

Nope, that would be the end for me!!!

Ditch. For sure. What else do you need to know?

If I was 19 and having fun in general, I would just ignore because he wouldn't be the only one I'd be dating anyway. oh the good old days

If I was older and looking for semi-serious relationship, that would be the end of it for me.

Don't have a clue who she is.
No regard for me whatsoever

Are you going to ask him who she is?

She's someone he's flirting with. So now what?

I'd get rid.

I know what he will say ...it's harmless etc
Do you think it's harmless?
Am I over reacting over a message
I don't know.

He's not in a committed relationship with you if he's sending messages like that.

You are not overreacting. If anything underreacting. I would go completely mental and it would be the end unless he made some MAJOR amends.

He will turn the tables and start blaming you for snooping in his phone even though you had a valid reason for using it. I would be furious.

If anything you're under reacting. That would finish it for me, no questions asked.

You are not over reacting, that’s showing no respect for you or your relationship. I always say to my friends if it has hurt or upset you then it isn’t an over reaction. Even if he says it is harmless it was hurtful to you and really not the done thing when you have a girlfriend.

Of course it's not harmless.

If my DP said that to another woman, I'd be livid. If a man I knew said that to me, I'd be massively uncomfortable because he'd have way overstepped the line, and I'd be cutting contact with him. What would your BF say if another man texted you exactly what he sent her?

Yikes. He'd be binned before the day was out.

Nope. LTB

Put that trash in the bin 🗑

If he was my boyfriend, yes I'd absolutely hit the roof, and he wouldn't be my boyfriend any more.