To be angry?if your boyfriend said this to another woman would you?

[sherbitdipp]

Went on boyfriends phone earlier as my phone was dead and needed to phone a taxi.
Message popped up from a woman I didn't know read a few messages previous.
He sent her one last night 8pm saying ...
"Wow if I knew you were wearing that outfit tonight I would have came out to find you"
Now aibu here or is that shit for him to say?
Why would he even say it?
I'm biting my tongue off here.

I used to see semi-suggestive comments on my exH's facebook page to other women which he passed off as 'harmless/light hearted flirting'...

4 years down the line & the 1 occasion he's left his phone when he passed out drunk I went through it. Hundreds & hundreds of messages to at least 20 different women (some were his exes, some were on his FB friends list as were their husbands) ALL sexually suggestive, dick pics (taken while I was asleep upstairs) arranging meet ups, describing things he wanted to do to them etc etc And those were just the messages he hadn't deleted. And only 1 of those women said 'Hang on, haven't you got a wife?'

End it now. If he thinks that sort of messaging is acceptable then its just a slippery slope I'm afraid. Why do some men do this when they have a loving partner at home?

I only read the OP and I would get rid of him based on that text alone.

if your first and final reaction is not to dump him and move on, you will end up like all these posters in horrendous relationships. It starts here - it's never going to get better.

The beginning of a relationship is a fun honeymoon period, if he's already looking somewhere else, what do you think will happen in the future?

I’d offer him A lift to her house!

It really depends on a) the status of your relationship and b) how you feel.

I have been single and seeing people off Tinder for a few months. Most of the time I have been sleeping with/seeing around 3 people. I have been seeing one man about a month knowing I liked him the best. Yesterday we had the chat about going exclusive and I have told the other two men I can't see them anymore.

Until we had that conversation (which I initiated) then it would be unreasonable to expect faithfulness. After that I would end it without question as I can't abide lying. O would count texts like that as cheating.

Also you can leave a relationship for any reason at any time. If you cannot tolerate that behaviour it is 100% OK to leave.

He is probably cheating or wants to be

but...

"Wow if I knew you were wearing that outfit tonight I would have came out to find you"

could it be sarcastic? Maybe she looked a bit silly in something and he was teasing her or was wearing a silly onesie ( good friends)

or could she have been wearing a top/scarf or a rival team or band he hates? clutching at straws

Damn right I'd be angry. I'm no Bunny boiler psycho. However I would not put with DP fawning over other women.

Do people have such low standards that they actually have to question this? Jesus

Kick him to the kerb. You deserve better.

UANBU
That's a crappy text to send when the recipient isn't your girlfriend.

This is him. Listen

How can you not know? He's hitting on her or he is involved with her. Clearly likely the latter as you don't send that to someone you've not been involved with, it's too familiar.

I just don't understand how you can ask why he would say that. You're a grown up, you know why.

Put him in the bin OP. He's a waste of time.