To be angry?if your boyfriend said this to another woman would you?

[sherbitdipp]

Went on boyfriends phone earlier as my phone was dead and needed to phone a taxi.
Message popped up from a woman I didn't know read a few messages previous.
He sent her one last night 8pm saying ...
"Wow if I knew you were wearing that outfit tonight I would have came out to find you"
Now aibu here or is that shit for him to say?
Why would he even say it?
I'm biting my tongue off here.

No it's not harmless. It's a betrayal of trust and I would not stay in a relationship with someone who flirts with other women like that.

No. Not harmless

No Op, I would not be biting my tongue!
Question, did she send him a picture message? And that was his reply? Or is that on facebook and he messaged her privately or text her?

The reason I ask is, if she sent him a picture message I would say there is more going on than a one sided flirt!

It doesn't matter to be honest! My partner would still be packing up his stuff!

Not harmless. Get rid.

Don't listen to any bullshit about it meaning nothing.

He would be my ex boyfriend if that happened

He sounds like a cunt. How long have you been together?

Did you read the messages either side of that one op? Just wondering whether or not she had sent him a picture which may be saved somewhere?

Whatever this is though, it's not good.

Why are you not saying anything?

You need to tell this fucker exactly what it what...... culminating in you dumping his sorry arse.

How long have you been together? Do you live together?

The message is not harmless. He is clearly telling her he wanted to fuck her.

Sorry to be blunt.

Jesus. I'd be furious. what the fuck does he think he's doing?
I hope you're not in too deep logistically with this man because he's definitely not a keeper...

Few excuse he may come up with, just to make sure you are prepared!

Wow, you shouldn't go through my phone, I will make this out to be your fault!

It is just banter, you know I love you!

I work with her and I know she has low self esteem, she is going through a rough patch at the moment and I wanted to cheer her up!

I was just being polite!

She keeps coming on to me and I don't know how to react. I feel so uncomfortable.

It wasn't actually from me, my friend gave her my number so I am pretending to be him.

I don't know what texts you are talking about 'quickly deletes all texts'

I'm sorry, I was drunk.

But I feel so low, we haven't be n so close recently, I feel pushed away sometimes, I was just having a little laugh, you wasn't supposed to see.

There are many more! Just be aware, there will be bull shit!

It doesn’t sound like you’ve been together long or are serious about each other

I wouldn't even bother asking him. Just dump him.

and it would be the end unless he made some MAJOR amends.

^^

What would those amends be? Just curious

His attention is elsewhere, surely you’re worth more than being someone’s stop gap until they find someone ‘better’? Bin him off.

Don’t get angry. Don’t shout, don’t talk. Just bin him.

And thank god that you’ve seen him for who he truly is before wasting more time.

Dump!!!!

She's irrelevant. Anything he says about her is just a distraction

I know what he will say ...it's harmless etc

Well it's not harmless is it because you're upset, and feel disrespected. End of.

I would be angry. I would never expect a DP of mine to say that to another woman. If I said that to a man, I would expect my DH to be very upset (with good reason).

No, that's not okay. I'd take it as a sign that he's not really invested in the relationship and get out now. I might not even bother discussing it with him, if I didn't feel like it. You don't owe him any explanations.

Not good OP... you deserve better

He is out of order. Looks like he is trying to date her.

There will be much more to this. Get rid

He would be out on his ear
He’s making a fool of you.
There are no excuses