Sister's Wedding

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This is my first time but I have been around long enough to know that this topic has been done to death.
I have never had a cross word with my sister. She has been with her partner for five years, everything is fine. He is a lovely man whose first wife left him. My sister has a good relationship with his daughter. There is no drama that you read about on here. The child's mother is accommodating and all is good.
I struggled with fertility and had countless IVF cycles before adopting my child who is six; I then became pregnant naturally and also have a two year old born within weeks of my sister's baby.
I had great aspirations for the kids growing up together but she went back to work and her child is in nursery.
I see my sister in town for lunch and at my mum's but rarely as a family.
My father is now really ill and my sister is getting married because of it. Lots of planning is going on for a small 'classy' wedding. Small venue where ceremony and reception will take place. Her step -daughter is her maid of honour and her own child will be there but a friend's daughter will be there to take her home if it all becomes too much.
Well you have guessed it; my two are not invited. I am devastated...I know it's not my day and I have been married (twice) but I am so upset. This will be the last big event where my dad will be there. My mum has spoken to her and she feels that she wants her step-daughter and her own baby to be 'centre-stage.'
I am really shocked. There's nothing I can do is there? My husband is really angry about it.

Where’s the OP then?

Actually, reading through it in a bit more detail, I think YABU and you are the one stirring the pot. You don't like your sister much, because she's disinclined to obey you.

But that was the sisters choice wasn’t it? @PurpleDaisies. She has specifically changed her wedding date for that very reason so I can’t understand your meaning.

Op I agree that it seems you view your sister and nieces and nephews in a different way to how she views you. That must sting. I really think you need to get this all out. Personally I’d speak to my sister and just calmly tell her how I feel or write a letter if that’s easier.

I, personally don’t understand at all the need for attention. I genuinely don’t expect anyone to give lots of attention to my two and I don’t need it either. I know I think they’re great, don’t give a rats arse what anyone else thinks 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Just wanted to say again how sorry I am to hear about your dad, must be very hard for you all x

Actually, reading through it in a bit more detail, I think YABU and you are the one stirring the pot. You don't like your sister much, because she's disinclined to obey you.

Odd observation.