To ask for help about MIL.

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I love my MIL. She's terminally ill. Secondary cancer in four places. We're managing this as best we can with palliative care and the support of a local hospice.

The big problem is her legs, the swelling - one leg in particular she can hardly move.

We have a wheelchair for taking her out but in her home (she's alone) she can barely move due to this bloody leg.

She can't lift her leg, or turn her leg. She's scared of falling.

We're having real problems finding slippers that she can get on and she can move in.

Her feet are so swollen too, she's so incapacitated that she struggles putting them on.

The slippers need to be easy to put on, easy to move in, the sole can't be too thick (as she can't lift her leg). Style is still a bit important too

Help suggest some slippers??? Other solutions??

She got so frustrated today she was crying and my heart broke.

She's gone. My DC have no Granny now. I loved the way she loved them.

I knew she gave them sweeties all the time and pretended I didn't. The kids loved this secret. I'm pretty sure MIL knew that I knew.

She was a wonderful, caring, loving person. Her children are really special. She was really special. Our lives are richer for having known her and poorer for loosing her.

I'm so sorry. I remember reading this thread when you first posted. She sounded a lovely lady and it was obvious how much you loved her

So sorry for your loss. You sound such a loving family and i hope this love helps you through this

I'm so sorry for you all - I remember this thread from before.

Sending you all strength and good wishes

SciFi - you see what you wrote at 7.01? If there is someone in a person's life who says that about them the morning after their death, well that is a sign of a life worthwhile and well lived. For a Mum, Grandma, Mother in Law to have those things said, that is the highest accolade she could be given.
I'm sad that these last couple of months have been so difficult for your family, and wish you peace and love now.

I'm in tears for you here OP. So sorry for your loss. Your MIL sounded wonderful. I'm sure it was a great comfort to her knowing how much she was cared about and for

I’m so sorry OP.

Sending you all my sympathies.

I hope I’ve been a loving, caring, good enough person for someone to write what you did about your MIL for me one day. It shows what a really special person she was.

My son got married on the fifteenth of June. If my DIL talks about me half as well as you talk about yours I’d consider it a life well lived.
So sorry for your loss.