To ask if Sebastian is a very bourgeois name?

[Oxmama]

my OH really likes the name Sebastian and so did I but I’m beginning to have doubts as I’ve seen it used twice in pop culture recently to be scathing of the middle classes (most recently the Waitrose ad...ironic)

So - give me your honest opinions - do you feel as strongly about it as you do about Archie?!

Sebastian is even more try hard than Archie.

It's a bit effeminate I think. And trying to be posh.

OTOH I know quite a few Spanish Sebastians and it seems more common there. But to me it implies Brideshead, languid gay handsome young men lying around a pool at a stately home somewhere. Or a middle class parent aspiring to this.

Reclaim it for the proletariat!

I like that name (mainly cos I had a crush on the character in the Sadlers Wells books when I was younger). I'm about to meet a Seb soon so I may go off it if he turns out to be a knob.

I love it but DH vetoed it 😢

But I'm not one who cares what other people think! My mum wasn't keen on DS' name but we, his parents, liked it so it stayed.

I have a Sebastien. One of two in school and another few in wider circles. It's just a name.

I really like it! But DH wasn’t keen.

I'd associate it with a lower middle class or working class family.
I don't like it.

It reminds me of the character David Walliams played in Little Britain - the PMs sidekick

I don't like Sebastian. Love Archie though.

I have both an Archie and a Sebastian in my family, they’re just ordinary names.

The only people who matter are you and DH.

If you like it, pick it. If you don’t then choose something else.

Don’t overthink it!

I like it but, yes, it will mark him out for life as being ‘posh’ whether he is or not.

It’s good enough for a saint 🙂

Hahaha @DisplayPurposesOnly - knobby kids ruin everything don’t they?!

The thing is, I’m surprised my OH liked it in the first place as he’s normally very anti posh/try hard names (I think maybe it’s because he loves Bastian Schweinsteiger though...). I thought it was a bit less common but clearly not. I’ve also liked it for a long time, but mainly from She’s the Man 🤣

I love it. It is not remotely working class mike its a very middle class name but I don't think there's any issue with thanks there?

I have taught lots of Sebastian's all of them used Seb so be aware he will most likely shorten it.

there is a child at our school and he goes by Seb. Considering how many names are coming back into fashion (Esther and Isla etc) I'm sure youll be fine.
it's your child and noone will think anything of it after the first time they meet.

It's too big of a decision to let rest on a 'but some people may think we want to be posh' its a lovely name

The only Sebastian I know is definitely not posh! The family are as working-class as can be.

And I know it’s just a name / our decision but kids can be mean and I’ve never liked my name, so I want to get it right!

It reminds me of a boy I had the biggest swoony crush on in high school. But as a name I’m not fond of it.

BUT - it’s you and your OH that are having a baby, Sebastian isn’t a word made into a name, if you like it, then use it!

Don’t tell people though until baby is born. Congratulations!

Sebastian is one of those names that has filtered down in recent years, like Theodore. Families that ten years ago would have plumped for Harry are now going for Sebastian.

Says here it's the 35th most popular boys' name in England

names.darkgreener.com/#sebastian

And Archie is a totally middle of the road, pretty boring, name and has been for a good decade. Nothing try hard about it.

I think it's lovely. I know a little boy called Sebastian but nobody calls him this, he's Sebby and I bet Seb as he gets older. Not from a "posh" background at all- lower middle class perhaps?

Lots of names were exclusively one class or another in the past, but these days I guess it all boils down to whether you like the name in the first place.

Worrying about a name being uncommon is a pointless waste of energy in my experience. We chose a name we thought was uncommon but since keep bumping into girls with that name. My other DD has a much more common name according to name data from her birth year but none in her year and only another girl with that name in the school out of nearly 300 kids.

Sebastian's are now ten a penny, like Theo's. Its the David, Mark, William of this generation. Now if you went for Mungo or Ptolemy then you might have a point.

I like it but it doesn’t come easy, you have to get your mouth around it, so for that, no. I couldn’t be bothered with 4 syllables.